Lost My Husband My Friend

my husband went out on his quad as he did every weekend on july 24, 2008 i was notified at 1030 that night that he was airlifted to lehigh valley hospital in allentown,pa.  He was severely brain damaged and i had to let him go as he didn't want to live as a vegetable.  He passed on August 14,2008.  I was with him for 32 yrs and married to him for 28.  We have two daughters at the time one was 18 the other almost 28.  It killed me inside to let him go but i had to.  I have lived in Pa. for 5 yrs now and have no friends need to talk to someone before i go insane.  I miss him so much and am soooo lonely just for adult conversation.

debby7 debby7
46-50
3 Responses Feb 26, 2009

I am so sorry. I lost my husband 8 months ago to cancer. I am having a very hard time accepting his death. If you ever want to talk write me. My screen name is mfmm.

iiI am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I too lost<br />
mine. Unlike you we had fifty one years together. It doesn't matter how long you were together long time or<br />
short time. Your heart feels like it is literally broken.<br />
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The only advice I can give You and found it very hard to<br />
find someone who will let you talk about it. You need to talk. You are using the internet and that is good.<br />
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I could tell you it gets easier but right now you<br />
wouldn't believe me.<br />
Grieving is hard. You're feeling sad then angry a real<br />
roller coaster ride. Not to mention lonely<br />
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My heart goes out to you. <br />
Everyone says I know how you feel with the best of<br />
intentions. Those feeling are yours and yours alone.<br />
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i'm sorry for your loss! i allso have lost my husband just over a year ago, it seems like just yesterday i was talking to him, but he's gone and i have to go on without him which i thought i could never do. my children are still young and i have to take care of them, that has made it harder for me to greve i beleave. I tend to take care of others and forget about myself. my husband allways was reminding me to do thigs for me. I allways pushed myself so hard, i still do but i here him in my head beth stop, come and watch a movie with me, your working to hard, your going to kill yourself if you don't take time out for you. he was so sweet. I miss him so. it has helped me to talk like this with new friends i have met that have also lost there husbands at young ages. i beleave it will help you as well. It is such a shock for such a long time when things like this happen. sometimes the simpelest little things remind me and i cry. people sometimes act like i should be over all this greaveing, I read a great book called i havent greaved long enough yet. I think thats the name, it was a yr ago and i think im loseing my memory from all the stress. i too had to let my husband go from life support, he had a brainsetm anurisum. he was braindead when we reached the hospital. I couldn't let go and thought they were lying to me , i called my mom a nurse practitioner, and asked her to revew the charts and tests and make sure, even then it took 3 days to let him go. i never thought i could do it. we had even talked about if he had a stroke and would he want life support and he said no , he didn't want me to be changed to his bed the rest of my life, he knew if he hadn't geven me permission, thats exactly what would have happened. it makes me smile now, when i think about how he tried to take care of me. i hope you keep thinking about the good things you shared and it will help you know he is still somehow with you.