I Lost My Mom to Ovarian Cancer

I lost my beautiful,loving 53 year old mother to ovarian cancer on 12/08/04. She wasn't just my Mother,she was also my very best friend! She would always tell people it was like we were sisters instead of mother & daughter.She was a very independent person who knew how to survive the worst conditions,yet still this horrible disease robbed her of her precious life.Everyone said "It would get easier with time",but,believe me it hasn't.It's worse on her birthday ,Mother's Day,& holidays. Sometimes when we go visit her grave at the cementary,I'm in tears before I even get there.We used to talk on the phone every single day.That's what hurts the most~simply not having her around to talk to.I lost my mother,my son lost his grandmother,he's also still grieving.I had a very good mother who showed me & my brother how to work & she took the time to do things the right way.Any way,speaking of the Ovarian cancer itself-beware ladies of all ages,this disease is called the silent killer! It is called that for a reason,basically you don't get any symptoms or warning signs until you are already at an advanced stage & very little can be done about it at that time! Some symptoms are:bloating,swelling abdomin,gas,a sense of feeling full even though you really didn't eat that much ,weight gain,vomiting etc. This is what it did to my mom.For over a year,my mom was undiagnosed & then midiagnosed! When they finally did find out it was Ovarian cancer,they discovered a 15 pound tumor attached to her stomach wall.So,she had surgery to remove it.Then it turned into bone cancer & ate up her spine & left arm bone.She had a lot of complications & her final days were miserable.May she rest in peace always! She was the kind of person to give you the coat off her back.If anyone has any questions or just wants to talk,let me know.
MelindasDaughter MelindasDaughter
31-35, F
28 Responses Apr 17, 2007

I just read your post, and I too lost my first love. As I was reading the lovely and profound things you were saying about your mother as if I was speaking about mine and our experience with this vicious disease. My mother was diagnose 2008 and received her wings 2012. And although I'm so elated that she will not suffer a second longer, I'm sick with pain. I miss her so much I ache. I will prat with and for you and family. Thank you for your story.

I Have lost my sister 8 months ago and still i have nightmare whenever i think of her , i saw her grasping her finally breath . She went through a lot and I;am glad she is in better place resting

I Lost my mom to ovarian cancer too. Of course it was not detected . It was too late <br />
stage 4 . I was 31 She was 59 . They should have a test for this already that is 100%<br />
accurate . How many more woman have to die from these silent killer . We need a yearly test for every woman like the mammogram for Breast and like the Pap Smear <br />
for cervical cancer . If they can come up with apple ipads , cell phones etc , Why not this we need a test . The CA-125 is a false positive and you have to ask for it.<br />
My mom was my best friend and sister . Please someone out there help save yours.

I feel your pain. My grandma was diagnosed with Ovairian Cancer when I was nine. I didn't even know who she was until I visited the hospital. She might not even make it. Just be happy that she is in a better place.

I know your pain. I lost my mom 5 months ago to ovarian cancer. She suffered so much but was so strong thru all of it. She didn't want to leave us! Her and my Dad have been married 55 years, and had a great marriage. Hes so lost and so am I. She was my best friend and my life. Me and Dad both pray for the Lord to let us be with her! I go by the cementary everyday and cry. I hear it will gets better but I don't ever see it getting any better. My Dad was the strongest man I ever knew, but now hes so heart broken. I pray the Lord lets us be with her soon, today would not be soon enough.

Im 24 yrs old, & i lost my mo to ovarian cancer. I always tought i was gonna watch her grow old i never tought something like this could happen to us! Im still thinking why us why her? She didnt deserve it! She went in for a papsmear september 09. She never had syptoms she had no idea she had cancer! But that horible day when she got home with such a sad look on her face she said "the doctors says i hve cancer its a big tumor the size of a baby" i just stood in shocl i didnt knw what to saay! We cried together n that same month she had sergury. That only made it worse it grew bck n bigger! They did chemo that made it worse it spread! She battled for a yr! They did radiation n they where sure this was it they wherwe gnna kill it but it killed her! She lost her battle to ovarian cancer nov 10 201! Two days after her 54 th birthday!! I lost my best friend! Imm so sad n lonely now im suffer from the worst deppression n anxiety i dnt knw what to do!!

As I too share the pain of losing my love, my rock, my best friend... The only thing that eases the pain is God. Prayer helps not to say you won't hurt, cry and miss her, because you will however God gives you the strength to keep carrying on until you and your mother are reunited. Please stay in prayer as I too will pray for you.

i lost my mum on 11 of this month....she died at her bed at 5 in the morninig ....she was my best friend she was 54 years old..so young for over six months my mom was undiagnosed..i wish they had started chimo after the surgery ..the cancer turned into bone cancer and had lot of complication ...the last days were miserable ...i know your pain and we will always wonder why to as...

Hi Everyone,<br />
I also recently found out how alfull it is to loose your mother to ovarian cancer, it all started with a little spotting after the change( please girls dont leave it get it checked out), my mum left it a while thinking it was nothing but it got heavier, so thats when the nightmare began for me, she went for test and scans and yes the said it ws ovarian cancer. I thought oh my god why why us, why anybody? She went in last christmas eve for a full hystorectomy, which wasnt a sucsess, she contracted MRSA and i thought cancer was bad enough, but that stuff eats you alive, they had to keep trimming my poor mothers wound to get rid of the bacteria before it spread, this made the wound take nearly a yr to heel in turn she couldnt have kemo with an open wound and the cancer spread we were told one minute she had 6 months and within 3wks she passed away, on the 22 nov 2010, i feel alone in the world no one will ever match the relationship i had with my mum x

My mum was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in November 2006 and she then underwent a full hystorectomy and chemotherapy (during which time my sister was pregnant with my mums first grandchild). We were told in June 2007 that the treatment had been successful and that she would need no more. Unfortunately within a couple of months my mum started slurring her speech and we found out that the cancer had spread to her brain and was untreatable. She died on 15 December 2007 at the age of 58 at home with her family around her (when her first granddaughter was 8months old). I want to express my sympathy to all of you who have shared your story - to lose your mum is horrendous and even now, nearly 3 years on I still think about my mum and miss her every day. I just heard a song that was played at her funeral and this prompted me to post this message. You only get one mum so make the most of her and try and show her you love her every day (as cheesy as it sounds!). I miss nothing more than sitting having a glass of wine and a giggle with my mum! My thoughts and condolences to all on this site who have suffered bereavements. x x

I lost my wonderful, brave mother to ovarian cancer last week less than 36hrs from the diagnosis. At this time palliative care hadn't been arranged and plans hadn't been made. My family were still trying to come to terms with the diagnosis and the fact that she had been given 3 months at the most. She luckily passed quickly and was conversing with us right up to the end when she suddenly slumped forward in a chair.Before diagnosis we all suspected that there was something far wrong but were led to believe that it was heart failure which was causing all the symptoms that she was having. I feel guilty in my sense of relief that she didn't suffer for long but selfishly still wish that she was here. I will miss her forever and still expect her to walk in the door.I wish I was stronger but feel so lost.We've lived next door for ten years but the house now seems so empty and days are too long. I can't cry any more as I seem to have no tears left.I feel that I have to get back to normality, to a certain extent, for my children who are broken hearted.Their gran has always been in their lives and played a major role in their upbringing. I'm trying to hold them together and support my father who is completely lost. Are my feelings normal? I don't know how to get through this. Mum, I love you and miss you so much.

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I am amother of 4 children my oldest is a a girl 15yrs old and my 3 youngest are boys age 13, 10 & my newborn who is only 2 months. On my two month check up it was discovered I had cervical cancer cells, they have removed these but there was a few still left in me. Doctor said these may go away on their own. When you are given the news that there is some type of cancer living in you it is one of the scariest things to hear especially being a mother. All I would think about was not being there when my daughter graduates Highschool, or seeing my 13year olds dream come true when he goes to collage, not being there for my 10 year old when he goes to the police academy and worst is not being around when my new one begins to talk or walk & not be there on his first day of school. The thought of leaving this world and my lil one having no memories of his mother.. all of this would just make me cry till there was no tears left in me. I received news from the doctor of her telling me evrything was ok for now and that all I had to do was just eat well & get a check up every 6months. I am really scared this might come back and attack me and that I wont be as lucky the second time around. Reading everyones stories and thinking that my children can be soon writing their stories just breaks my heart. I as a mother can tell all of you that no matter where your mothers are at they are looking down at you and smileing.. but they will be happier if you let teh pain go. I know it is easier said than done but I would harte my children to be sad even years after I am gone. Just know your mothers anre no longer in pain & suffering, & you can still talk to them because they are always with you. Take care of y our body and be more educated of all the cancers we as women are bournable to get. Dont give this deadly disease the pleasure of putting your kids and loved ones through the same pain you are going through. I am verry aware that I can soon be next. But I am not leaving without a fight and without making sure my kids understand that if I go there will be peace in me as there should be peace in them knowing I will be in a better place. you all take care.. by the way I am 34 years old.

MY mum died on the 3rd off may this year she had cancer witch come bk after 3 years ago <br />
my mum passed away in front of me in my mums boyfriend,s flat in eastleigh i miss my mum so much x

hi. <br />
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i'm so sorry about your loss. i can only imagine how you feel right now. <br />
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my mom has colon cancer III and just started with her first round of chemo a month ago. she's already pretty down from the side effects. she stopped talking 6 days ago and almost hasn't eaten in 4 days. i'm just so scared! sometimes i just don't know how to cope. i'm her primary carer and in my final year of high school. it's all just too much.

I Lost my mother Yesterday at 7 o clock in the morning to cancer... I feel so alone :( i feel so broken.. i cant believe it...

I forgot to tell you, my mommy was 53 when she passed away too.

I forgot to tell you, my mommy was 53 when she passed away too.

I did tooo. OMG I am crying right now I lost my mom on february 4 2002 my daughter was three months old and i was 8 days from my 21 birthday. I still cry so much I am still so sad it happened very similar to your story too. It is too hard to accept and get over. It doesn't hurt me any less than the day it was it hurts more because then at least i was numb and in denial even though i saw it all myself. My mom was my everything and she still is. OMG it hurts to write this. I miss her every day always I dream of her so much we talk and hold hands no sickness there and wake up to the same horror that she is not there. I talk to her still in my mind and sometimes out loud too. I sang to my mommy too and I promised her I will always be there for her and love her and how pretty she was, minutes later she was gone. She was in the hospital 6 days and it was over after two years of fighting hard and a false story from the doctor that it was gone. Her stomach was bloated beyond that of a full term pregnancy when they found diagnosed properly. I don't know about any tumor I was too numb to remember that many details about the cancer and I still don't. I love her and dream about her with me so much and I wake up to the same brokenhearted feeling of my mommy my one and only friend and my everything is gone. Thank you for sharing your grief I feel your pain.

I did tooo. OMG I am crying right now I lost my mom on february 4 2002 my daughter was three months old and i was 8 days from my 21 birthday. I still cry so much I am still so sad it happened very similar to your story too. It is too hard to accept and get over. It doesn't hurt me any less than the day it was it hurts more because then at least i was numb and in denial even though i saw it all myself. My mom was my everything and she still is. OMG it hurts to write this. I miss her every day always I dream of her so much we talk and hold hands no sickness there and wake up to the same horror that she is not there. I talk to her still in my mind and sometimes out loud too. I sang to my mommy too and I promised her I will always be there for her and love her and how pretty she was, minutes later she was gone. She was in the hospital 6 days and it was over after two years of fighting hard and a false story from the doctor that it was gone. Her stomach was bloated beyond that of a full term pregnancy when they found diagnosed properly. I don't know about any tumor I was too numb to remember that many details about the cancer and I still don't. I love her and dream about her with me so much and I wake up to the same brokenhearted feeling of my mommy my one and only friend and my everything is gone. Thank you for sharing your grief I feel your pain.

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I too lost my mother to cancer, cancer of the cervix... she had had a pap smear only a couple of months before and there was no sign of it... she then started getting pain under her right rib, and I had to nag her to go see a doctor, in which she did... what they discovered was a mass on her rib cage wall and she also had the cervical cancer, which she went in to get removed. When it was removed they tested the mass and it ended up being cancer as well, they couldn't say if it was from the cervical cancer. They thought they had removed it all, but within 3 weeks she was vomiting and back at the hospital after 6 weeks for her results. I so wish they had of started chemo straight away to ward anything off, but instead it was so rapid that she was riddled within that short time fr<x>ame. She was diagnosed July, and passed away November last year. She too was my best friend and the only other family I have other than my children... I know your pain all too well.... xxx

I am so sorry for your loss-just reading your story brought tears to my eyes. My mother is also my best friend, and I think sometimes I take her for granted, but I don't know what I would do without her. If you ever want to talk, do not ever hesitate to message me.

i am sorry for your loss. we almost have the same story. it's been two months now since we lost our mother to cervical cancer.she was 54. i don't think ill be the same person again after she left us. i can not function very well. i just wish that i would die also. im 28 years old but still i long for parental love. my father died 19 years ago and it is so hard knowing that at a young age, our parents are not here anymore. i wish that everybody who is going through tough times be stronger. GOD bless.

Hi,<br />
I also lost my mum 2 years ago to breast cancer.I was 35 then and she was 66.I totally understand you and I know how a miserable experience this is..I miss her every day and still cry over her,being without her is just unbearable sometimes..I was feeling so all alone going through this experience but now I know many people have gone through this.My mom was like an angel and I wonder why good people die earlier..I'm so sorry for your loss..

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My Mum passed away at 12 of May this year. She was only 55! She was diagnosed with womb cancer IV evidence at 1 of December last year and...after being operated she was diagnosed with colon cancer and...then with brain one. I absolutely understand your pain about your Mum. I loved and still love my Mum very much. Only now I see how much she has done for me. I am 32 now. In spite of being raised in poor country as Russia I had everything that a kid would want. I was the only one child of her. I had a very happy childhood and she supported me all my adult life. I have been crying (sometimes drinking) every evening since her death. I moved from my Mum & Dad less then 2 years ago to Australia. I don't know would I do without my loving husband's support when she got sick in Russia (I went back to Russia to see Mum and berry her in May this year)... I wish I could give everything Ito the person who invents the medicine against cancer. I don't want anyone to suffer us my dearest Mum did. Please write to me if you want to talk about your loss I will be happy to help you to cope with it.

Hi,<br />
Oh my god i have just read your story and it sounds oh so very familier,I'm so sorry for your loss and i completly understand.<br />
My mum had breast cancer that also led to her bones spine, leg, arm and then her jaw.<br />
I was 31 when she died and although it was 2 years ago in July, it sometimes feels like yesterday and yet other times it feels like a decade ago.<br />
I was my mum's primary carer and in a way i/m pleased she is no longer in pain. She was my best friend and i miss those mother daughter moments so much sometimes. <br />
I Felt i needed to write to you as sometimes i feel like that i'm alone in what i went through.<br />
I'm so sorry for your loss.