The Family Curse

Cancer has a pretty long and bloody history in my family.  I lost my mother when I was 10 to it, can't recall where exactly it started in her but it spread to her brain and thats what ultimately killed her at 35.  I don't remember a whole lot and quite frankly have no desire to, mostly I just remember that she had to wear a wig since all her hair fell out due to the chemotherapy and everything else.  It did go into remission once but then came back with a vengeance.  It also took my grandmother when I was 17, her's was pancreatic and at least it was quick unlike my mother's two year struggle.  Two years later my grandfather found out he had it, by the time it was discovered it had already spread to his liver and that was the end of it. 

Grandmother and my mother smoked heavily though neither of theirs was likely caused by that, grandfather did smoke for a short time in his youth but hadn't touched a tobacco product for 50+ years.  Its also what ultimately carried out the great grandparents on both sides of the family.  So, I suspect that though the smoking may have contributed, its something in my family.  I'm glad I quit the tobacco when I did in my younger years though my father just took up smoking again, despite my threats to strangle him ;).  I do not understand it, why after 20+ years without it he would want to start again, particularly in light of our family history with cancer.  It seems a more than a little foolish to beard the lion like that, as though he's almost taunting his genes to give it to him.  He knows how most of the family feels about it and continues to smoke so there's little we can do, he's an adult and its his life, he can do as he wishes with it.

FranzJosef FranzJosef
26-30, M
1 Response Sep 25, 2007

Your family does seem to have a very high number of cancer victims, but all different types from what you have said. Hopefully you will remain cancer free, along with your father. Best wishes.