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I Lost My Sister to Cancer

Loss of a Sister

By: auz
Written on September 16th, 2007
Back in November 2005 I lost my sister to cancer . I live a long, long away from her and I was not able to be there for her funeral. We spoke by telephone just a couple of weeks before she passed away. At the time that we spoke she was doing well. She spoke about having me and my family stay with her for a visit. We had started plans, but then on a Sunday afternoon as I was driving toward home I got a call from my brother to tell me that she was gone.

It still seems so strange to me that she isn't alive anymore. I traveled back to my home six months after she died to visit my mother and my brother and sister. It was good timing I think because I was able to reconnect with my family.

I went to my sister's home while I was back and it was difficult as I expected her to be there and she wasn't. As we pulled up to the driveway and got out of the car I hesitated and walked inside slowly, not fully realizing what was happening to me. I am still very sad about it.
By: auz
Age: 36-40 , Male
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9 responses
  • Aminasiddiqua
    Aminasiddiqua

    really sad to knw abt tht...may her soul rest in peace...Ameen

    May 6
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  • Msdebym
    Msdebym

    And why didn't you go to the funeral?

    Oct 25, 2012
    1 like
    • auz
      auz

      Hi, it is very expensive, and I didn't have the money to be able to go.

      Oct 30, 2012
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  • Scooby64
    Scooby64

    Sorry that you were not able to say goodbye. I too thought I would have had the chance. My sister died of Cancer this July 2012. It was a hard thing to swallow. I know It will take me a long time to get over the death part. I always feel like she was not ready. She was lively and quite the traveler. You don't need to get over the sadness. Just the reality that she is dead but not forgotten. Keep her stong by remembering what you two did to keep each other a strong family.

    Oct 12, 2012
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    • auz
      auz

      Thanks for your kind word and thoughts.

      Oct 13, 2012
      1 like
  • michalmos
    michalmos

    The most iportant thing in all those desease is to not allow to feel anybody alone during the most difficult phase of desease. I think about chemotheraoy, a passsing of a part of treating. I think about a first whle when the doctos says "You have got a cancer". It is normal this diagnosis is frightening. More drizzling is a feeling of lonely in the hospital and thing about how to do all to make her not suffering. It is that same in case of old and young. When you have got somebody cloed friend or closed relatives whie your death, there is someting the most beautiful in the world.

    Apr 18, 2012
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  • MontiPora
    MontiPora

    I lost mine to metastisized breast cancer in September 2005. She was diagnosed with bone cancer in 2002 with an expected duration of 3 years. I got to see her about 4 times between then and the end. And you are correct. It never truely goes away. Hail Prozac and Effexor for keeping the survivors functional.

    Mar 6, 2009
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  • MichaelsWidow
    MichaelsWidow

    I am so sorry that your sister is gone. Mine died of Soft Tissue Sarcoma in 1997. Sometimes it helps to sit and talk as if she were here. I can almost hear her answers...when I finish, I always feel cheered, as if we really talked. Maybe we did.

    Oct 8, 2008
    2 likes
  • timmerb
    timmerb

    The sadness never really goes away does it ? There's always something to remind you of the one you lost, and that's not an entirely bad thing. I lost my sister in May of 2002. She was in her 2nd remission from ovarian cancer and suddenly two days after her last chemo treatment she was gone.

    Nov 20, 2007
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