Bitter Battle Between Parents - Result : Daughter Commits Suicide

The most important thing I've learned in life is not to let one's conflict with someone else affect others. Let it affect only the combatants and not innocent 3rd parties. My daughter committed suicide in part because this lesson was not learned early in life. Her parents allowed their animosity for one another get in the way of her happiness. Result - one daughter who never reached the age of 21 and 2 parents who still have bitterness toward each other. Don't let it happen to you. !!! 
sakamato sakamato
51-55, M
4 Responses Mar 3, 2007

I am so sorry for your loss I too have had to go through the same loss. I am a retired therapist and understand "PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME" my first daughter died by alcohol and drug abuse last year my second daughter died this month by suicide. I tried for years to have a relationship with my children ; however my ex husband who is very wealthy alienated my children at a very early age. He went on to marry and my daughters were told I was not a good mother etc. etc. They took the least effort and bonded with stepmother. I was not welcome in their home and stepmother decided there was some competitive game with me. She attended all functions at school. Told the children and my ex-husband the children had to attend and become members of her church. Eventually it was easier for them to disown their mother. Now at this time I have lost two daughters and I am excluded from funeral services as my exhusband had my daughter cremated and told the funeral home he was the only one to pick up the ashes. My family of origin believed the negativity towards me as truth because I COME FROM A HIGHLY DYSFUNTIONAL HOME SO I AM ALONE WITH THIS TRAUMA. I am , however blessed with a very good husband who is always there for me.
I understand the pain of losing a child to suicide .Ihope you have been able to understand you did not cause this to happen. Warm thoughts to you and sad feeling for all those women and men that have suffered from parental alienation and family negligence.

I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy. Really our problems and choices so often do not affect just us, it affects everyone around us.

I am so sorry that this daughter had no other option but to commit suicide. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I know the hurt because I have been there.

I'm sooo sorry for your lost... I lost one of my friends yesterday and I've realised How precious life is... Thanks for sharing your experience though it must have been really hard.

Aww *hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't really know what to say. I'm thinking of you