I Could Have Helped More

U r a very strong man to deal & cope with such a life experience. I admire u even more......Bless u!

No u couldn't. Ur not God. U had no way of knowing her intent, nor could u have said anything that would defray her actions but u were there for her so much more than u realize. That is why she confided in u.

Ur friend,

Jan75

Wow. I am saddened about your loss. :( It was not your fault and nothing you could do would of changed her hearts desire to leave this place. She went to another level maybe to go and come back again. Maybe her soul mate wasn't here and she went to find them. Unless we step into their soul we don't feel what they feel and we don't see what they feel. Sometimes saddness is just so dominating and one cannot see or breathe and everyone seems to know what you need to do. They treat you like you do not know how to think for yourself. Sometimes darkness overshadows all color. Its the one choice no one can make for you. Sounds really morbid. Some people live there and unfortunally they die there. :(

My father commited suicide last Sat and my sister is a crying mess. She needed him still. I am angry that he chose that path. I sound cold hearted and empty. I have been hurt so much I have learned to numb my feelings.

Don’t cry for me.

My soul is at rest.

I am at peace.

Don’t cry for me.

You couldn’t ease this ache

It dwelt too deep in my soul.

But I knew that you would if you could

Take the hurt away

And that helped to ease the pain.

Don’t cry for me

My soul is at rest.

I am at peace.

Don’t cry for me.

One day we’ll meet again

It’ll be in a better time

In a better place

No more pain, sorrow or suffering.

Know that my heart ached as I left you behind

For I knew the struggles left to face.

Don’t cry for me

My soul is at rest

I am at peace.

Don’t cry for me.



~jym

You can't blame yourself! Regardless of what you could have done or said that night, if someone is intent on suicide, they're going to find a way. I'm sure you made her life somewhat better by listening to her and being there for her. Don't continue to beat yourself up.

I think she loved you so much a a friend..you made her last days happy, im sure of that..

I am sorry to hear that you lost your friend. It may have just been that she would have killed herself even if you were there to talk to her. Please don't blame yourself.

I am so sorry for your loss! It must have been a tough time for you. I hope you can get over the pain one day. I hope the young girl's parents can move on one day too. Blaming your self is not going to make you feel any better. Death is part of life. It comes in many forms. I wish it did not turn out to be that way. Yet, it did. I believe your friend was grateful to have you in her life. i'd say try to hold on to the good times and see if can let go of the bad ones.

please try to be happy.

Oh love you were there for her and I imagine were a big part of her life.

This young lady was so troubled that nobody could have stopped her from taking her life.

Her pain must have been very bad for her to end it.

Take some comfort in the fact that you helped her while she was in that pain, but you COULD NOT have taken it away.

Perhapes with treatment she may have recovered but she also may not.

She chose to let you into her heart and I believe that she is in peace now and a better place than this world.

I have suffered terrible depression for 20 years, I have lots of love in my life and lots of people who care and mean the world to me.

But when I'm in the middle of the torment and sheer darkness nobody can help me.

I have felt many times that ending it is the only option to end the misery but I have somehow managed to carry on.

I'm well at the moment, (long may it continue) I wake up each day and feel life is worth living again.

I bet your support helped this girl

More than you will ever know.

She made her choice but she knew that she had people who cared.

She would not wish you to hold on to the pain and guilt, she chose to end her agony but this was honestly no reflection on you.

I hope that helps in some way x

I just want to start off by saying I am sorry for your loss. Losing a friend is hard enough, but losing one to suicide is even more gut wrenching in my opinion cuz there will always be that qs: is there something more I could have done to prevent this? Sometimes, I think we put too much blame on ourselves when in these types of situations. I don't believe you could have stopped her, especially considering how far away you two are from one another. Yet even if you two lived next door to one another you still may not have been able to stop her, especially if her mind was already made up to do such a thing. Im sorry again for your loss, I'm sure her folks are more than devastated as well :(

Sorry for your loss Gel. Sometimes, we just never know.

I can say this ... I was in a place where I wanted to leave this world. The thing is, I never understood how a person could think this way and there I was, right there. Just know that when someone does this, they are so desperate and without hope. As "selfish" as others may feel it is (and I suppose it is), it's not a purposeful selfishness. What it takes to actually depart from this world is unfathomable. She most likely truly wanted to say goodbye for your sake as much as maybe hers. She probably thought long and hard about how what she was about to do was going to hurt those who cared about her, but had lost all strength to fight anymore. She probably felt that in saying goodbye, it at least brought some sense of closure for you and for her. You will most likely never find the reasoning or the "closure" she may have wanted to give you, but you must know it is not your fault ... in no way could you have really known what she was thinking. We never want to believe someone would actually depart from this world purposely. It is my hope and prayer you will allow yourself to be free from the burden that guilt puts on us. She made a choice and a decision apart from anyone else and it is not anyone else's fault. :D

Please do forgive yourself, friend. Its not your fault. You always tried to be there and be a friend to her. Where ever she may be, I don't think she would want you to be angry at yourself because of what she did. She would more than likely want you to be happy and live your life without blaming yourself for what happened to her.

It is hard to tell on the net. Generally, but not always, in real life those intending to do themselves in will not so readily announce it. I suppose because if they do and because it is real life then someone will stop them. So the trend is that those who want someone to stop them will announce it, a cry for help. But on the internet I think more people feel that if they announce it, because it's the internet and the person(s) they announce it to are so far away that they couldn't stop them if they wanted to, Also the fact that the person they are announcing to may not check their email before it is too late, etc. Don't blame yourself.