17 Year Old, W Addicted Boyfriend. Please Help..

I really met him when I was 14 years old. I was a freshman and he was a senior, varsity basketball player.. He got my number from one of our friends, since we had the same group of friends.. I couldn't remember him although him and my older cousin grew up together, and was always around me. I proceeded to hang out with him that night.. I loved him the first time we hung out. He was so funny.. So fun to be around.. Everyone looked up to him. I knew that he smoked weed every now and then but I didn't really care.. I just wanted him. We dated for about 4 months then on that Christmas morning I found out he had been cheating on me the whole time.. I took him back but it didn't last long. He moved back to Indiana for awhile and I was still obsessed. Texted him occasionally telling him I missed him. For the next 2 years we remained absolute best friends. Always hung out.. But I always wanted more and he didn't. He dated a lot of other people but I didn't care stuck by him through everything.. Finally July 1st 2012 we got back together and we were so happy at first... I got him off the pills and stuff and he was clean for maybe a month... Then it was back to the pointless, reckless fights, and money disappearing. He lives with me and my parents. All we do is fight anymore. He never wants to spend time with me... He hangs around 30 year old drug dealers and makes me wait in the car at scary houses while he gets his drug. Lies about everything then won't let me see his arms because he's been shooting up.. I'm never happy. All I do is cry and wish. I love him so much and care about him but I am completely miserable. My parents hate him and want me to get rid of him but I just can't. It hurts when I'm with him but even more when I'm not. Please somebody tell me they know how I feel and maybe what to do?
An Ep User An EP User
2 Responses Jan 9, 2013

you don't deserve to be miserable girl, nor should you be spending your days crying. You deserve a man who treats you right, takes care of you, respects you and would never put you in harms way. Love sucks - love is hard - im going through a situation with my fiance right now that has me spinning in circles and I am choosing to stick by him this one time - but best believe if he gets out of rehab and goes back to shooting up I will be gone because I won't deal with this for the rest of my life. Neither should you.

you deserve to be happy, even if that means walking away. :/

im here if you need to talk hun.

Honey, I can tell you that I know exactly how you feel. I'm with a many I've loved for four years and he's stolen over $1,000 dollars from me. He's in rehab right now and I'm still with him, but I'm starting to feel as though it may not work out, even though I know that he's trying.

It's hard to say what you should do, honestly. But if you're miserable with him, then you should probably move on. He's clearly not making an effort to try, and you deserve someone who's going to treat you right. It's one thing to hide things (not that it's right), but the fact that he's actually taking you to his dealers' houses is scary. It's a toxic relationship. Somewhere in your gut you know what the right answer is, but if you're in the same boat as I am (which it sounds similar, at least), you're worried about what will happen after--but you have to worry about what will happen to you after, not him. Don't worry about him. If you are unhappy, leave and find someone who makes you happy.

If you want to talk, feel free to message me. Good luck.