I Did Respond to This Experience, Moments Ago

I AM SORY ABOUT YOUR RELANSHIP. I KNOW IT HURTS. MINE DOES TOO. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 28 YRS.SHE WORKS NIGHTS, I WORK DAYS. SHE SLEEPS ON A COUCH IN THE LIVINGROOM WATCHING TV.  I SLEEP ON A KING SIZE BED IN OUR MASTER BEEDROOM. IF WE GET A DAY OFF TOGETHER WE ARGUE. I AM A VERY EASY GOING MAN. ASK ANYONE WHO KNOWS ME,INCLUDING EVERYONE AT WORK. ON MY DAYS OFF I CLEAN THE KITCHEN, DO LAUNDRY, YARDWORK, AND THEN COOK DINNER. THIS GOES ON AND ON..... ON HER DAYS OFF SHE TAKES OUR GRANDDAUGHTER OUT WITH HER FRIENDS AND HAS FUN. THAT IS OK, EVERY SO OFTEN. BUT SHE GETS 3 DAYS OFF ONE WEEK AND 2 THE NEXT. THE HOUSE IS A MESS, AND I AM TIRED OF BEING THE ONLY ONE THAT DOES ANYTHING.

vetro vetro
51-55, M
5 Responses Mar 15, 2009

wow, I think I love you! Where is the nearest swap shop!

Finally, after a month my husband just put away his basket of clean clothes. After our 7 yr old asked why he had to clean his room if Daddy didn't have to clean his, without any prompting from me. He always says he is helping so much around the house, I must be blind and deaf since I don't see it. Yes I will give him he on the rare occasion will help, but not a regular basis. But running the vacuum maybe once a week does not consitute helping on a daily basis to me, and does not warrant any great appreciation. I take the kids to school, pick them up, pick up from most practices, do the Dr,dentist appts etc because I know about that stuff!! Make sure he has a hot supper every nite, even the nites I have group at 5:30 I make sure supper is either done or almost done before I leave at 5, which is not always easy when running with kids. <br />
Yes, he will tell me thank you sometimes. But that doesn't make up for the fact he thinks its his duty to point out what I don't do. Of course the fact I have severe restrictions(like 5 pound lifting restrictions, no bending ,twisting,turning among others), never are considered.<br />
Ok, I needed to ***** since we just a nite of him doing the blame game.....well you do this or you don't and you you you. Never me or I.

Sounds just like my marriage too.

you seriously need to talk to her about that!<br />
you should be sharing the house work etc.

wow this scares me. I've only been with my wife 5 years and she is the same way. I always tell myself that one day she will get with it and start doing her share. I don't know if i can hold out another 23 years.