Love of My Life-her Husband-leaving Her For Me
T he more I read everyone else's stories, the more I feel the need to share mine. While it is some much like all the others, there is a twist.
I met this man, 13 years my senior, when I started a new job last January where he was my boss. I was in a relationship at the time, a very new relationship when I started working there. We immediately became the greatest of friends. He shared a lot about his life with me, and his marriage. We work in an oil town and no one that works there, lives there. So every 10 days we go back to our normal lives for four days, then back to work again. His wife told him that he should get a girlfriend for while he was at work, and I later found out that she encouraged him to pursue me. A couple of months into our friendship, my relationship was deteriorating, I was fantasizing about my boss, what chemistry we had, how he took such an interest in who I was and what I had to say. Not to mention the amount of time we spent together, driving to work, all day at work, and more often than not dinner after work with our team which usually led to me and him left alone talking away the night. My relationship had ending with my boyfriend at the time accusing me of having an inappropriate relationship with my boss, that was married and had three kids. While this was untrue, I did develop feelings for him and it wasn't fair to stay in my relationship and I left.
The weekend after I moved out of my place with my boyfriend, I headed to my boss' hometown for a work event where I stayed in a hotel and he partially stayed the night with me. The next morning is when he first told his wife about me, although he did not tell her who I was at that point.
This happened July of last year. November he came back from days off and told me he decided he wanted to spend more of his life with me, that this would take time but he wanted to be with me. At Christmas time he told me he was going to fly to my hometown to visit me, this was after he had gotten back from his cruise with his family...and yes his wife. January he told me that his wife told him she needed help for her intimacy issues and she thought they should give their marriage a fair chance since he would be relocating back to his hometown to work. He ended our relationship. I was devastated and heartbroken and completely inconsolable.
As I was still working at the same job and he was still my boss, just from a distance, when I was leaving the company in March, he returned. He did specify that he was returning to see me and take me to dinner. I should mention that in the time we had broken up I had started dating someone else. Once he returned (it had been a month and a half since we seen each other) I was quite happy. But as the day wore on, my emotions consumed me and I was hurting badly all over again. The distance had made me think that I was finished with dealing with this issue but had not been at all. I just thought he's only here for three days, you can get through this.
That night was my going away party, and go out in style I did. We all went out for dinner and as we always do, we ended up at another pub for drinks after dinner. As usual it ended up just being me and him and the bar...alone. He told me that he was still in love with me and he thought he could just go back to his wife and everything would go back to how it was. This was not the case. Although I did reveal that I was seeing someone new and at this point thought that this was the reason he was telling me this. Needless to say, I stayed with him that night in his hotel. He said he didn't want to promise me anything but told me he thought it was meant to be that I get this job I applied for in his hometown. It's a rather huge city and my intention wasn't to be near him, it was to get out of this work town I'm in.
Fast forward to today...right now. It's looking like I'm going to get the job where he lives. I've spoken to him everyday since he's gone back home and when I go down there for interviews for this position I have lunch with him and we enjoy each other for a short time. I told him yesterday that he needed to do something selfless and let me go. He wants me to give him to the end of April to sort out his life and try and prioritize our relationship. I'm letting him have that time..although I'm positive he's not going to leave her.
There is so much more to the story and so many blanks to fill in. I appreciate comments and if you'd like to read the entire story, I'm putting in on my blog so feel free to read.