I Have Fallen For Him

He called me one morning and confessed he liked me.  This was a week after he got married.  He told me that he needed to get it off of his chest.  I told him to be true to his wife.  He told me he would never have an affair.  I saw him just the other day, I needed to give him money that was owed to him for the work he did at my mom's house.  I could tell he was attracted to me.  I tried to play it off as if I was in a hurry to move on with my day. 

What he didn't know is I have been thinking about his confession to me every single day.  He's a very handsome man, my mom said so but she would forbid me to even see him.  I want to have an affair with him.  I want to see him when he needs me.  The only draw back is he's newly married.  How can I tell him I want to be the other women.  I don't want his wife to find out.  I want it to be our secret.  Can he keep our secret?

shawntee shawntee
36-40, F
5 Responses Feb 26, 2010

Please be careful......I have been in a 12 year relationship with a married man. My heart completely aches every day of my life. The worst part of it all is that I don't feel like part of society because my relationship is a secret and I must limit myself socially so that it remains a secret. I have no support system and no hope for brighter days ahead.

I do NOT recommend aggressively seeking out a married man. its different if he seeks you out. Its incredibly hard, hes a newly wed and then to be sought out might cause some serious issues. Wait it out. If he doesn't seek you out, then just ignore him and leave him alone.

I know the feeling also...the only thing is the married guy I know is getting a divorce now. I did not see him until he got seperated legally. We were good friends up until he got seperated...we went together for 2 1/2 years. I have had another child and in a relationship and still...he asks me to come back...he just asked me again today.

I know the feeling, maybe you should get together have sex, and see what happens after..

I know the feeling. I love my wife's best friend, but I don't want to spoil either friendship.