The Gift Of Tenderness (guide To Being A Better Woman)This is going to come as a shocker to most people who know of my relative disappointment in modern women, some have gone as far as to call me misogynist because they think l want them bowing down at the feet of earthly men, but indeed it is true, l will write it in BLOCK so that everyone can see, "l LOVE ALL WOMEN".
The root of my disappointment in modern women lies not in primitive misogynist-like thinking, you don't really think that lowly of me do you? Rather my disappointment lies in the very gift that God blessed all women with, the GIFT OF TENDERNESS, softness, that motherly tough that has raised even the strongest warriors since the time when they were just vulnerable and defenseless cute babies. Because this is such a dog eat dog, rough and tough world women are slowly shading their tenderness, every woman is born with it but some lose it as they grow older because of the different lemons life throws at them.
Ok, so let's look at how this loss of tenderness would affect a marriage, relationship or any woman. Women are evolutionarily the soft, more tender sex, her best skills lie in diversion and deflection, not in engagement. She knows her man, knows what he wants, how to make him feel good and even how to cool him down to a wet puppy when things get heated (by using her femininity). These days we see many women involved in shouting matches with their husbands, of course they have every right to get their point across but this isn't how to do it. You can never win shouting matches with a man because men are creatures that cannot handle intense emotional fluctuations like women, in the long run something inside him will snap and he will never see you the same again, you will always be the whinny stressful wife or girlfriend to him. When this happens he will start going where he gets less drama, more tenderness and softness, you know what that means right! so don't let it get that far :)
So how can women get back in tough with their tenderness? Well first of all they need to be with man that love them, sometimes women want men that do not fully love them, well let's just say l think this is a major mistake. Being with a man that loves you is not enough also, you have to do things that ENHANCE love and not DEGRAGE it. A fundamentally important aspect is knowing your man, you have to know your man, when not to challenge him and when there is need to, they need to know when and how to do it. When things are heated sometimes silence can beat the loudest shout, when a man is in a happy place there is no doubt that you can make him do anything so why not make your point then :) So work on your GIFT OF TENDERNESS, knowing your man and diversionary skills. Remember you want to make the person you love feel happy not angry.
Just to go a little off-topic a bit, I feel like the modern woman has the wrong perception of beauty also, beauty has a lot to do with confidence and how you carry yourself. You can't expect guys to find value in you if you don't find value in yourself, some people don't know this but it shows on your exterior, your body language, the way you talk and the way you generally act, if you have self-esteem problems guys will be able to tell, personally l can spot esteem problems from a mile away, SO LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF. A good example is Madonna, even at her advanced age l would do her without wasting a second to think about it, so would many men. Weight can be lost but you need to believe you can do it, the biggest reason girls don't lose weight is because they are too depressed over it (but that's another story). So work on your inner confidence, self-esteem and the way you carry yourself and it will do wonders for your exterior. Realize that beauty doesn't guarantee happiness nor a good relationship, just a year ago one magazine voted J-LO to be the most beautiful woman in the world, God knows what kind of defective glasses they were wearing!, anyway J-lo has had 4 divorces already, so definitely beauty doesn't guarantee happiness or good relationships, so even if you were more beautiful it wouldn't guarantee that you would have been happier. Be happy with what you are, who you are.
I do indeed realize that there is a lot wrong with men as well. Women also need to raise their voice about this, raise the flag on it, even if it's as simple as a small writing like mine. The woman is going through a transition but what benefit is a transition when you are headed in the wrong direction??? The woman needs us now more than ever :)
THE GIFT OF TENDERNESS, l love all women :)