I am 24 years old and I'm in love with an alcoholic! Since I can remember he's been telling me that he's going to stop drinking But I haven't seen much of a change yet. I can't leave him alone for a second without him gettin drunk. It's hurtful and embarrassing at times! I just don't Know what to do anymore
Msprettypink86 Msprettypink86
3 Responses Jul 12, 2011

Hi,dear! I do understand the position you are in. Me,myself- I love an alcoholic -it's rather difficult at most times. Questions and difficult to be taken decisions arise constantly and it seems to me it's impossible to find any sort of solution. Yet,there is one vital question you need to ask yourself before attempting anything-'Do you really love this person and you really ready to take all the actions required to help him and yourself?' Neither love,nor alcoholism is simple. It's a battle ,dear, a constant one. <br />
I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. The very fact I write in this chat room or whatever means I still fight for a better live with him althought I knew about his issus with alccohol from more or less the very begining of our relationship. But I took the decision to stand behind him and to support him. Maybe it's the wrong one,maybe not. But the main thing is to find your own peace, your own religion....and to feel comfortable with the decision you took. I have so much to say,so much pain and joy to share...but I must be strog-cos this is the decision I took

Thanks so much for your reply! I completely understand and I'm so sorry for your loss. experienced the same thing with both my grandfathers and it just hurts to see another person I love with this disease. I tried to leave but I love him so much. Eventually you love people, friends or lovers because of their flaws, we all have flaws, it just takes the right person to accept them and  love you enough to stand beside you to help sort it all out and CORRECT them! Problem is will the person except the fact that they have a problem?!

let me start by saying.........please leave before it's too late.......My dad God rest his soul....died from drinking. He would hide his booze any where he could. The doctors all told him he needed to stop but did he? No!!! He passed away 3 years ago. He really was a good father. He had 10 children to provide for and worked till the time of his death.I loved him . My parents had their fights but what marriage does'nt? Please do what ever it is that you need to do. Try AA. It didn't help my dad but it may help you..Good luck..please let me know how your doing?