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I think one of the most important things you can give your child is your time. Buying things and giving things is fine and great but nothing will stick with your child more then the time you actually spend together.
My youngest son will be 26 this next year and he still remember the times we had together when he was small. His 1st time helping me to bake a cake, him mixing the batter and then holding the mixer up while it was still running so he could see what happened. Which was chocolate cake all over the cabinets and us lol
We've had water fights through the house and just made his poor Dad crazy with all our whooping and running we did, but it was those fun times that made the rough times more bearable and easier to face.
And he had a spring horse that he rode in the back yard that he one day had gotten off of to go into the house. But before he got off he told his horse not to move or follow him. When we knew he was in the house we took the horse and moved it around to the front like it had followed him. The look on his face was so priceless.
I guess the point I'm trying to make is your time is so much more important to your child then anything you can buy and give them. They grow up so quickly and one day will become independent of Mom and Dad. So make the time and memories for you and your kids before you wake up and they have grown up and you miss the chance.
Nothing is more important then your children knowing you love them and want to be with them and it doesn't have to cost a dime.
It's the best part of being a Mother.
jacee1960 jacee1960 51-55, F 23 Responses Jul 24, 2011

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Spend as much time with your family I think it's great

True!

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With time comes the unconditional love, compassion, all the important things children need. No matter how busy it gets time has to be made. Thank u for sharing your story your a gr8 mom u both are lucky and blessed to have one another.

I'm actually the one who was blessed to be allowed to be Mom to such an amazing child. He always was and always will be my greatest joy and gift

So many people "just don't have time" anymore. But you are so right. Time is the most precious commodity we can give. And our true, undivided attention. A child can never be spoiled with too much of those two things.

Thank you. I would say, it isn't time per say, but the unconditional love, compassion and caring that has the greatest impact on our lives. So many people place far too great an emphasis on the material, and they forget about the far more significant emotional environment in which we also live. Of the two environments, I would say the emotional, not the material one is by far and away the most important. It is what allows us to connect with others, understand them and appreciate what is most relevant to our lives. Anyone who does not understand this simply needs to meet, talk and interact with anyone who grew up in an environment where love, compassion and caring were not part of their lives and see how it has adversely affected their happiness and self worth. Even a life of destitution, surrounding by unconditional love is associated with a far richer, rewarding and fulfilling life than a life of material excess lacking any love.

That's something I agree with totally. I didn't grow up without love, but it wasn't something given freely either. That's one of the reasons I always wanted my son to know how much I loved him and not just through words. The water fights and all the other crazy stuff we did when he was small was just a few of the ways and I hope he realizes how very much he was and still is loved.

Few children realize how good they have it when they are growing up, but believe me, kids certainly appreciate what they do not have. I was surprised when neighbor kids commented on my own mother after she died, about how she listened to them and wanted to know what they thought. They were so amazed an adult actually cared to listen to them or ask how they felt. We of course always took it for granted parents did this. Kids generally do not appreciate everything their parents do, but trust me they know the difference between a home life of happiness and warmth versus one that is not, even if they do not thank you or appreciate it at the time. Ultimately, that emotional environment will make a huge difference in their lives and many will come to understand just how much later.

We parents are like artists. We give of ourselves to make our unique creations special and important. They are always a work in progress, always with that goal to improve. We don't do it to be rewarded for our efforts, for the process and the end outcome is reward enough. It isn't even what we do right, but the mistakes we make and do wrong that worries us most. However, I remain convinced only unconditional love can overcome the cumulative damage of our mistakes. For only in that sphere of love can one ever appreciate the most important truth, that regardless of all the faults and mistakes of parents, their love still stands above all else. If kids embrace that message, how can they not make the world a little better place to live?

This story still amazes me. I've had the wayyy good fortune of having you as a buddy for well over a year now and that same amazement with what a really solid, good, honest and AWESOME person you are has only grown.....plus now I know what a naughty lil vamp you are too and just makes everything BETTER!! ♥

I totally agree with you on this. We jumped in puddles, had snowball fights, played ba<x>seball with the whole neighbourhood, etc. We all enjoyed ourselves tremendously! Now that my baby is 33, I have found something possibly more rewarding! Doing the same things with their children! (Only now I don't have to do the laundry!) LOL

Amen!!! grandchildren are the greatest gift that your children give back to you, and to be able to do the same things with them....minus the laundry.....is absolutely the best. I have 5 and adore every minute I get to spend with them.

Thank you for sharing. Time we spend with the children in our lives is vital to their growth! You must be a great mom.

What a story. It is the time one spends with their chuldren is vital. Thank you for sharing!

What a story. It is the time one spends with their chuldren is vital. Thank you for sharing!

Our daughter is 27. We spent all kinds of time with her and still do. I think the 2 most important things one needs to do as a parent are-<br />
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Spend all kinds of time, work, play, sad, happy, with your child (no matter what their age is)<br />
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Allow your love with your spouse to be an example of the joys of life

that's so true Fltguy......all times good and bad that you are there for your child makes a big difference in his or her life. And if they can see what a good marriage is it's even better.

Being a single person, I envy what you have with your son and your family. The experiences you shared with your child when he was little is priceless indeed.

it's not just something parents share with their child. It's a gift you can give to any child that may need just a friend.

Yes, I totally agree with your message. The time my father spent with me when I was little are some of my fondest memories. At Christmas it was kind of a tradition that my dad would wait until a couple days before Christmas to go shopping for my sisters and me for a gift. We didn't have a lot of money growing up but my dads gifts were always special and our best gifts. But my best memories is when he would play with me. I will never forget when I was 6 or 7 and we had a big driveway and me and my dad would kick my football around. I remember how he would kick it really high and how good it felt when I rarely was able to catch it and he would praise me when I did. Your post really brings back some good memories. I also remember when we were living in L.A. and we lived on a busy street and there was a grass median. Every now and than my dad would gather us kids at night and we would go out and just run on the median;of course he could run faster and further but it was just the sheer joy of running and doing something with my dad that counted. I remember when I was 6 years old he taught me how to play chess. We would play every night and he almost always won but the times that I won were so special. He did not EVER deliberately let me win , I had to earn it. It was a principal he went by and it taught me how to play better and a lesson in life. We must of played a thousand games over the years. But you know what ? It was almost as precious to me the time when I was 19 years old and I was working in a tobacco factory and one day he came to my job when I was working. I forget why but for some reason it made me happy.<br />
It probably made me happy for the same reason when I was 17 years old and I was down the street working on my first car at my friends house. My dad had never done this before with me and my friends but this particular day he walked down to my friends house. Again I forget the reason but I remember my friend had 4 older brothers some of who didn't treat me well . But one brother who was there said something purposely about me that made me look cool in front of my dad. It was just cool of my dad to come down .there.

awwww what awesome memories you have. You are so lucky to have shared those with your Dad. Money never brings the happiness to a child that just some true time does. Wish more people knew that

Thank you, I totally agree with you again.

Hi Jacee,<br />
Thanks for your reply. I must confess I saw little of my family because at the time my nieces & nephews were young, my eldest brother was away in Africa working for the Colonial Office. He returned to England after about 10 years & settled down in Bournemouth. My middle brother lived in Essex & I was teaching down in Kent at the time of his death. So, sadly I didn't see a great deal of them. I feel I rather missed out on them. Still I see the family from time to time which is always enjoyable.<br />
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All the best.<br />
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Martin

that had to be rough for you I'm sure. I don't see my family as much as i'd like or probably should but we do enjoy our times together. But I do spend time just about every day with my son and we see the grandbabies usually every weekend so it makes up for the rest.

Hi Jacee,<br />
Thanks for your reply. I must confess I saw little of my family because at the time my nieces & nephews were young, my eldest brother was away in Africa working for the Colonial Office. He returned to England after about 10 years & settled down in Bournemouth. My middle brother lived in Essex & I was teaching down in Kent at the time of his death. So, sadly I didn't see a great deal of them. I feel I rather missed out on them. Still I see the family from time to time which is always enjoyable.<br />
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All the best.<br />
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Martin

Hi Jacee,<br />
Thanks for your message. I have had many regrets in my life, but the greatest is that I never married. Both my brothers married & had families. Sadly they died some years ago. Their children were a joy to them. My midde brother died suddenly at the age 0f 43, so he never lived to see his two children grow into adulthood. If he had lived he would have been proud of them because they have done so well. My oldest brother lived to 75 (I'm not far off that age myself) so he had the joy of seeing his two sons & two daughters grow, marry & have children of their own.<br />
I'm now a great great uncle, which is very nice, but I wish I could be a great grandfather. <br />
I'm sorry this sounds so morbid, but I count my many blessings.<br />
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All the best.<br />
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Martin

awwwww you would have made a great grand pa I'm sure. But the time you've spent with your brothers children, especially the ones who lost their Dad was special too and you should be proud of that

AMEN!

I hope my children look back someday and remember the stuff we did together while they were growing up. i've never had much money,been through a divorce and suffer with terrible back problems. It sometimes makes me sad as i can't run around with them or kick a ball with them because of my back,but i try to take them on holidays and spend time with them, i just hope they look back one day and say i had a good childhood and remember something happy.

money was never something we had a lot of either Matt, but we made up for it by just doing things together. Didn't really matter if we went anywhere or not. Just the fact we took time to actually BE with our son. A lot of parents are there but not really THERE if you know what I mean.Life has a way of being a horrible distraction. I'm sure your children will always remember the special times with Dad.

My son wrote a story in 6th grade about the best day of his life!<br />
It was about a day he and I traveled from Pitt. to Dallas for an overnight then back home to San diego.<br />
His brother and Mother went to gettysburg, we went back home!

kids never forget the times spent doing things together. And if it's a son and his Dad then it's all the more special. I bet he still remembers it today too

Awww, see, this a real real demonstration and even bigger....a whole mind-set of "selflessness" you put the "feeling" of your kids wayyyy above just a mess you might have to clean up. Lot's of folks talk about selflessness and unconditional love but a LOT fewer "live it" Your kids were soooo lucky to have you and the grandkids get DOUBLE the benefit . Cause they have the parent you raised this way and a really ROCKIN grandma!!

yeah I am a pretty cool Granny lol My 16yr old told me she can't wait to turn 18 so we can go hang out together cause she thinks I'd be fun to hang with....now that's a compliment

Awwwww, how sweet is that!! I can only imagine how hard the green glitter is cause I helped my niece and her mom put like 4 BIG jars of silver glitter on a princess costume we all made her. The costume was for Halloween 2 years ago and my poor sister in law say it's still showing up and she even had the carpets CLEANED!! <br />
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But it is all worth it cause my niece still remembers and laughs about it. Memories make beautiful "albums" in a mind..... I read that somewhere and totally took it!! I just wish I could remember who said it to give them credit.... <br />
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It's so true that what you teach kids about parenting is what you do with them when they are growing up too! You have really awesome kids cause you were a really awesome mom!!!

it always saddens me when i see parents freak cause their kids jumped on the bed or played with something that might make a mess they have to clean up later. We did have a few food fights and water throwing through the house, but I always felt the mess could be cleaned but the feelings of a child couldn't be changed if all you ever did was tell them no. I adore my furniture and stuff in my home, but the smile I see and the light in now my grandsons eyes when we occasionally jump on the bed means more then anything else.

Awww jacee, You're kids are sooo lucky to have you and you're just as lucky to have them and sone such a great job with them.<br />
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I loved reading this. I don't have kids and have no plans on having any either but I can so TOTALLY see what you mean by seeing my brothers kids and the way they react to just the simple day to day activities they experience in their own little worlds. <br />
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I remember watching my mom make a cake and then her letting me lick the bowl or her coming in and holding my ponytail when I was sick. I remember how pretty and great Christmases were but what I remember most was my folks getting the tree and teaching me how to hang ornaments and poor dad making tracks on the roof for ,proof positive evidence that Santa was real!! <br />
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All my fondest memories revolve around my folks gifts of time, effort and love.....Thanks for sharing this and bringing some AWESOME memories back to me!!

it is the best of family. My son was born on Saint Patricks Day so that has always been a special day for several reasons. We spent one yr making a trap so he could catch a Leprechan....do you know how hard it is to get green glitter out of carpet??? lol But he remembers it and it has brought us closer. And I hope it's something he remembers to do with his own two boys