Curious

So- what do you like about us?

retiredfather retiredfather
61-65, M
5 Responses Mar 22, 2009

One word: swag.
The talk, the walk, the way they handle themselves (including the bedroom)

U will get no judgement from me. Be as honest as you need to be.<br />
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Nice to hear from you.

I'm a married white man, Do you want to hear from me? It will be a male/male experience.

I'm not sure you will appreciate this coming from a guy, retired father, but I will try to explain why I feel the way I do. First, it is the physical attraction. It is the mystique, the difference, the wonder of the unknown for me. It is the stature, the style, the walk, the talk, the humor, the loyalty, the passion... It is the physical features. The strength in your hands and the bredth of your back. The muscular definition. The hair, the color of your skin, the deep beautiful hues. <br />
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Unfortunately, I do not know too many black men as close friends. I wish I did. I work with one man who works full time in my department, but he also does odd jobs of handiman, yard work, land scaping, and he drives a taxi. He is tall and strong and handsome. He is funny and full of energy. But, he keeps his distance from me, other than to say hello. Maybe he senses my attraction to him. He is a married man, as I am. Nonetheless, he flirts with the ladies and is very much a man's man, a ladies man, but a respectful and gentle man.<br />
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I have been gone down on a couple black men. I thoroughly enjoyed being physical with each one. They were surprisingly gentle and passionate and appreciative of me taking their huge members on as I did. <br />
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I work with seniors. There are a few older guys that I've got to know and help a little bit with social assistance. One man is a Veteran of WW2 and lived most of his life in rural Mississippi. Even though he is over 80 years old, he looks much younger. He is strong and virile still. He loves to talk about history and I love to listen to his stories. Even though he is 30 years older than me, I find him to be a very handsome man. Another black man who is also 80something loves to dance and show his moves. He loves to play cards and Dominoes and he has the best laugh. He likes to whisper in my ear little jokes and makes fun of some of the other seniors that come by. I think he thinks he is only 50 instead of 80. Recently, he found himself a young woman who moved in with him. He told me she was taking good care of his needs, and he winked and laughed. You gotta love that, man.<br />
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Some info about me... I am a married white man. I am faithful to my wife, but I am sexually attracted to men. At one point I was actively living a gay lifestyle, but it depressed me. It wasn't what I wanted in life back then. I guess that sounds screwed up, but this is what is good about this forum. I can be honest here.

I love all men regardless of their color. I never judge a person based on the pigment of their skin. I am reminded of how foolish this can be every time I look at my best friend. He is so wonderful and if I let pigment get in the way I wouldn't have been blessed with the best friendship I have ever had in life.

In my experience which may well be limited, in the business world and in the military, i have see the following. <br />
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The black men i have met were more thoughtful and work harder. They try to work for the best interest of the group/company/project. Not trying to be the forceful leader and having only their ideas pursued.<br />
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Black men appear to appreciate women more. Plus they don't take everything and everyone for granted.<br />
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My mother once told me that a woman regardless of her race is woman first as well as a human being with feelings. So remember, it is not her color that makes her the woman and human being that she is who is so precious to those around her. It's her spirit, her intelligence and most of all her humanity. The same is true for men. <br />
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i look to their character and their inner self as reflected in their words and actions and this is what i have seen. In my experience black men have shown through here more often than not.<br />
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We need to cover everything so i'll add that i really must admit that a black man's skin color has always fascinated me and drawn my eye, something that is innate and always been with me. His skin is lush, sensuous and electric. For my entire life i have loved chocolate, i can't lie about that either. It may start here for me but there is somuch more to my attraction, much more. <br />
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The qualities I find attractive in a man (respectful, nice body, easy going personality, style, intelligence, wit - just to state a few) are the qualities i find attractive in a black man or a latino man or a white man or a red man (since we're going on color alone). I've never been color struck ... how one dimensional is that.<br />
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All these qualities i found more often in black men than white men during my life time. (Maybe their Mothers raised them right, as i believe mine did for me.) Each group has their fair share of 'x-holes' too, if you get my drift.<br />
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The real trick in life is not finding or liking a man but rather ... finding or liking a good man.

AGain, Josie has stated things very eloquently! She said it all