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I Love Crossdressers

What Every Woman Should Know About Crossdressers

By: BizSuitStacy
Written on October 20th, 2011
Age: 46-50 , Transgender
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  • TrackerT

    Your statement is exactly right ! Good job.

    May 9
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Thank you for reading and commenting.

      a week ago
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  • tghubby

    Fortunately I am married to a gal who falls into Category 3 and it is great. At first it was crossdressing ... not only did she want me to dress for her, but it both pleased and excited her when I did and she started encouraging me to dress more and more and underdress full time. With each step I have taken, she is excited but always she wants me to go further. We share the feminine together and it is great! But I think it would scare the you know what out of many crossdressers to have a wife like mine.

    Jan 5
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    • BizSuitStacy

      That is so wonderful that your wife takes such an interest in you dressing for her! More CDs should be so fortunate! Thanks for sharing.

      Jan 6
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    • tghubby

      Thanks Stacy and yes I certainly agree!

      Jan 6
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  • Absity

    I'm personally quite intrigued by the whole idea of crossdressing and certainly plan to explore it further with a partner someday. However my sexual preference of being dominated can be quite restricting and would probably complicate things beyond any kind of possible compatability. :(

    Jan 5
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    • Lesleygb

      Absity

      Not necessarily a problem, you liking to be dominated. Many a dresser are also dominant so I'd say if you like the idea of men dressed in - what society considers to be - feminine attire, and also being dominated, such a relationship might press multiple buttons for you.

      Jan 5
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Hi Absity - do not dispair. A woman that enjoys being submissive, yet wants a CD lover can have both in one package. Not all of us are sissy boys. There are other transvestites out there that enjoy being dominant too. Some even enjoy going as far as wearing the leather regalea and taking on the role of a dominatrix.

      Jan 6
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  • pixelita

    I love my lover to be manly and hairy and all that is masculine but I have to admit I am very intrigued by crossdressing men ;-) I think you guys rock!!!

    Jan 4
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    • BizSuitStacy

      I find your intrigue, intriguing! LOL. Thanks for your comment. Perhaps sometime you'll take a walk on the wild side and experience a lover who is more feminine and hairless :-)

      Jan 5
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    • Lesleygb

      Pixelita (interesting name by the way)

      If you are in a stable relationship then I would encourage both you and your partner to be true and faithful to each other. If however you are free and single then a walk on the wild side might be an amazing adventure for you ;-)

      Jan 5
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    • smoothcd

      We were the same way until begining to explore shaving. The smooth body became a way of living and now we would not go back.

      Thanks for the encouragement. We love to hear those words!

      Apr 30
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  • Gr8white

    Although I am not married, I fall into Category 3. I have a male CD friend and I love it to know that we wear exactly the same "things" under our clothes on a night out.

    Jan 4
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    • BizSuitStacy

      That sounds like a lot of fun. I have a female friend who sometimes borrows my shoes. I get a big kick out of her wearing my things! The irony is beautiful!!!

      Jan 5
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    • Lesleygb

      Gr8white (hope you don't behave like one - eek)

      Category 3 and single - that makes you more precious that gold to us cross dressers. but why only the same things under your clothes? seeing as most women don't wear skirts / dresses most of the time, even if your friend is still in the closet you could still wear the same clothes - as well as undies - on a night out. I think you would find this extra special.

      Jan 5
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    • smoothcd

      Totally agree! We wear matching things under our clothes. My wife makes the selection each morning.

      Apr 30
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  • Inkspell

    I have a female friend -- she used to be my boss. We got along well at work and we continue to see one another for lunch every now and them. I'm married and my female friend is just that and more valuable to me as a friend.

    If anyone has followed my posts -- I like to cross-dress and have done so since I was 12 when I started to "borrrow" my mom's stockings and garter-belt. Therre's no way I could ever 'pass' however.

    One topic at lunch with my friend was her getting a tattoo -- finally after her talking about for the longest time. We talked about how some things become socialy acceptable.

    As an example, I told her how it was strange that it was acceptable for me to color my skin with a tattoo -- but not to color my fingernails with polish.

    She laughed and said -- in a low voice-- that she once had a boy friend who shaved his legs and painted his toe nails. Then, she got a funny smirk on her face and said, "It sure worked for me."

    Yikes! -- I thought. I better change the direction of this conversation really quickly!

    But, that told me a lot about her. Perhaps too much. Category three. But I'm married.

    Jan 4
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    • BizSuitStacy

      That's awesome! She does sound like a category 3. I have a friend who is a category 2, with whom I confessed to as being a crossdresser. She was cool with it. We are good friends and occasionally go out to dinner or have a drink together. One night, we went out, and I brought along a few pairs of my high heels. She got a big kick out of them, and even tried them on. Another time, after I shaved my legs, I wore pantyhose under my jeans along with a pair of black pumps. She thought it was great. She even had me get out of the car for her, and walk around the parking lot in my heels. She laughed and said, "you look like you've been walking in heels for years." And...well...I had. The point is - we are friends, and I can let a little bit of Stacy come out around her, and I treasure our friendship even more because of it. I would never try anything with her as it would not be fair to my wife. So, I think you can be honest with even a Cat 3 woman and still keep things on a friends level.

      Jan 4
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  • lindabo99

    Thank you for your explanation of the category of women when talking about cross dressing. Luckly my wife fits into category 3 and has nurtured me into becoming a full time feminine submissive house husband. All the things that was explained in category 3 hits home very much. I will do anything that she wants me to, she is the dominate person in our relationship and i am the subservient partner. Thank you for your information.

    Jan 3
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    • BizSuitStacy

      I'm glad to hear that you have a category 3 wife. Sounds like you both are quite happy together.

      Jan 3
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  • crsdrsr61

    Hi sweety, I'm one of those rare women you wrote about in catagory 3. For years because of abusive men in my past, I turned to other women with whom I felt understood my needs. Until meeting and eventually marrying "Leah" a male crossdresser with a huge woman's heart, lol! "She" is more than willingly to do my bidding, and is thoroughly contented with me in total control of our intimacies. My physical fulfillment could not feel more pleased than at the moment of this writing!!

    Oct 8, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Oh that is wonderful, and thank you for your comment. I absolutely love hearing from women who say they have a happily fulfilling relationship with a crossdresser. We make great husbands and wives all at the same time!! Bless you and Leah! I wish you many years of wedded bliss together!

      Oct 8, 2012
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    • crsdrsr61

      Thank You Stacy you truly are a sweethart! Leah has often commented on his two divorces being due to her crossdressings. I do not understand these things, my own gender? But then again I have always been regarded as how you say "wicked witch from west" by my female contemporaries. I do not care! If being a slave to men makes them then so be it, lol!

      Oct 9, 2012
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  • louisestjohn1

    Your views represent many of us,I being one for sure.If I had a woman that would accept me totally I would do anything for her.

    Louise CD

    Sep 12, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Hi Louise - Indeed!! Women that find gurls like us attractive or even hot are worth their weight in gold. Put them on a pedastal and treat them as the goddesses they are. I honestly believe some women don't realize just how good they would have it, otherwise they'd be signing up and standing in lines. LOL

      Sep 14, 2012
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    • louisestjohn1

      Thanks for the kind words girl.
      Girls like us need female companionship real bad.
      We suck men but prefer women all the time.
      Louise

      Sep 14, 2012
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  • louannatg

    Very Well Said Stacy, Thank You from all of us wanabe girls

    Jul 13, 2012
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  • veronica7769

    how come it's okay for a woman to dress in a suit and tie that she got in the ladies department, but it's wrong for us men? you've claimed our wardrobe soon a man in a suit will be crossdressing!

    May 14, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      I know. When I was in high school, I took a girl to one of the formal dances. As typical of the day, I wore a tux, she wore long gown. The day after the dance, she asked if she could try on my tux. Of course, I said, sure and even took a couple of photos. Of course, there was no way I was going to ask her if I could wear her dress (although I would have really liked to try it).

      Point being, society has dictated a man must look and dress like a man (as per what is defined as a manly look for that day and age). A woman, on the other hand, can dress in just about anything she wants. if she wears clothing that is typically considered "male" it's fine...perhaps even quite fashionable. It's screwy, but that's just the way it is.

      May 14, 2012
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    • Lesleygb

      This might initially seem like an absurd comment but the skirt was once an item of male clothing and wearing that item of clothing is now dominated by women to the extent that a man wearing a skirt is seen to be creepy and deviant to large sections of western society.

      Nov 18, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Not absurd at all. History gives us a very clear indication that fashionable men's clothing 200+ years ago was rather feminine looking. Affluent men in particular wore gowns or dresses, skirts, hosiery that looks much like stockings, high heels, wigs, makeup and even perfume. Of course, today, that's no longer considered high fashion, just weird.

      Nov 18, 2012
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  • anothertime

    Personally it intrigues me, but I would probably put myself as a 2/3 if actually confronted with my H saying he was a CD. The prospect of fulfilling sex is very attractive!

    Feb 2, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Hello Anothertime, and thank you for your comment. It is wonderful to hear from a woman who is open minded and intrigued by the thought. Yes, the sexual aspect can be amazing. One possible thought...try asking hubby to wear a pair of your panties during romance. Many women are surprised by the response and are treated to a wonderful session of intimacy!

      Feb 2, 2012
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    • louisestjohn1

      I would so love to show you how much a CD like myself would make love to you darling.
      Louise CD
      zxoxoxo

      Sep 12, 2012
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  • allwrappedupinit

    My wife loves the attention she gets when I'm dressed up.

    She knows she's in for a great night of fullfilling sex!!

    Feb 2, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Hi Allwrappedupinit, and thank you for your comment!! I am so pleased to hear from other CDs who have wives that love it when they crossdress. It is a wonderfully common theme I hear again and again...the sex is incredible!

      Feb 2, 2012
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  • babybearjean

    Very good post. I am blessed to have a category 3 wife. Thoght she does go for the slutty look. Not for her but for me LOL



    Who am I to complain

    Feb 2, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      That's wonderful! Since posting this "story" I have heard from many CDs with wives or GFs that fall into category 3. Yes ladies...many of you really do enjoy a little crossdressing. Thanks for sharing!!

      Feb 2, 2012
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  • HonestlySpeaking

    Great post Stacy,



    I have always told any woman I have ever dated and the one I married that I was a crossdresser and that I had bi-sex. I either told them immediately or within a few days and up to maybe 30 days into it. I have never lost a woman because of being a crossdresser and because I told them all upfront about it. The responses varied as some women were ok with it and didnt want to really see it or participate in it and to the other end of the spectrum, some were intrigued by it and loved every minute of every time she could be with me en femme. Those that were "category 3's" were so supportive and participated in helping with makeup, buying feminine gifts, clothes, makeovers, mani-pedi's, etc...



    I'm also bisexual with a male preference and I have a loving gg gf of 2+ years now who knows all about my sexuality and my femme side. I have not been with a man or have had any bi encounters although she says she is ok with it if I do. She doesnt want to see it or participate at this point if I were to be with a man or preferably, another effeminite male to female cd.



    I feel so fortunate, so lucky, so blessed, or however else I can describe it. It has all been based on total honesty, trust, and communication.



    She has attended annual transgender conference events with me and she encourages other girlfriends and wives of crossdressers to indulge and enjoy the benefits of a transgendered man or having a crossdresser for a boyfriend or husband. Research has shown that there are namy positive benefits in a relationship or marriage where there is a crossdressing husband or boyfriend. Your post was well written and addressed the key issues and concerns. I only know this from experience with my situation and it works for me and my category 3 :)



    ~hugs~

    Marlene

    Honestly Speaking :)

    Feb 2, 2012
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    • HonestlySpeaking

      oh,, I forgot to mention that I got divorced from my wife before meeting my lovely gg gf and that my divorce had nothing whatsoever to do with my crossdressing.. :)

      Feb 2, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Thank you for you comments Marlene. There are indeed many benefits a couple can share where the hubby or BF crossdresses. I personally enjoy shopping for clothes for my wife. I know her sizes, her tastes, what looks good on her, etc. Sometimes her friends will compliment her on something she is wearing, and will ask where she got it. Her friends would be so surprised when she would tell them that I purchased it for her.

      Feb 2, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Divorce is sad, but sometimes it is for the best. It does sound like things have worked out well for you snce, and it's great to hear that you are happy.

      Feb 2, 2012
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    • HonestlySpeaking

      I understand.. I get a kick when my gf wears something of mine to her work where she supervises about 85 people and all the girls compliment her on what she is wearing and only she knows its my outfit and attire .. :)

      Feb 3, 2012
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  • tghubby

    Wow, how neat to find out that my wife is category 3 ... but I already knew that. She 'discovered' that I crossdressed on occassions, which intrigued her, and she wanted to know if I enjoyed it. When I admitted I did this excited her and she insisted, wanting to see me. The next date she did and ever since then she has been both supportive and encouraging, wanting to help and explore my femme side. It is awesome!

    Jan 27, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Thanks for you comment TGhubby! Yes, there are category 3 women out there. And what's wrong with enjoying a little clothed kink? Absolutely nothing! So gald you two can enjoy it together! I hope more women read the comments everyone has shared with this story. Open minds and horizons!

      Jan 28, 2012
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    • tghubby

      You're welcome and I agree BizSuitStacy.

      Jan 29, 2012
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  • valleygirl011

    I was involved with a man that after we fell in love that he was a crossdresser, but later on found out he wanted to be with a man and wanted to be all women, and he wanted me to tell him what it feels like to be with one, so I ask, where does it leave the women? If this man wants to be with a man, will he ever accept a women? And he is married...how would his wife feel if he asked her if he can have a mans private part in his mouth or any where else for that matter...How do I handle this? I still care for him, and we have broken up more than once and got back together recently, but don't know how to handle it..

    Jan 2, 2012
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    • sherrynpantyhose2k4

      I feel for you in your situation. I am a hetero fetish cross dresser. My wife's only question when she found out over 33 yrs ago was "Are you gay or something?. I shook my head No. She was cool. I wish that I could help you in some way.

      Jan 2, 2012
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    • BizSuitStacy

      Hi Excited - I know this may sound like double talk, but it sounds as though this man with whom you are involved with may be a transsexual, instead of a crossdresser. I'm not positive about this, BUT - I do think it's important for you to find out for sure. There are very significant differences between CDs and Transsexuals. It goes well beyond the clothes you choose to wear.

      I think it is fair of you to ask him about his sexual identity. Does he really want to become a woman? OR Does he just like fantasizing about it? I would venture a guess that all CDs fantasize about being a woman. I've had this fantasy myself, but it's only a fantasy. I realize that I like being male, and want to keep my male parts. Transsexuals typically take hormones, go though therapy, and transition to living as a female full time. Some will even have SRS (sexual reassignment surgery).

      If it turns out he is transsexual, he may prefer men as he identifies himself internally as female. He may still choose a female partner, but that has more to do with social acceptability.

      If he's not a transsexual, and instead is a crossdresser, then it's important to address his sexual orientation.

      I know that some CDs do have a "bi" side to them that only surfaces while they are crossdressed. Normally, this type of CD is not interested in men, unless they dressed up. But when they are dressed, the bi side surfaces, and they are likely to take a man orally and/or anally.

      I honestly believe that this "bi" tendency is the result of years of sexual frustration. CDs are notorious for finding themselves sexually frustrated. Trannies want to have sex with a woman, while dress like a woman. Unfortunately, very few women are interested in having sex with a tranny. Therefore, IMHO, some trannies do begin entertainiing the idea of being with a man. And there are lots of men that think transvestites are hot. If a tranny wants to have sex, it's much easier to find a willing male partner than it is to find a willing female partner.

      I am going to send you a private message to finish my thoughts.

      Stacy

      Jan 2, 2012
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    • valleygirl011

      I was cool with the dressing up part and so is his wife, but when it came to being with a man and wanting to be all women, then that kind of got me thinking, all what we had is gone and it breaks my heart, because I don't think I can be with a man, even if we do someday, that wants another man instead of me...

      Jan 3, 2012
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  • BizSuitStacy

    Exactly! I am hearing this more and more from people. Women who are open to the idea of having sex with a crossdresser says the same thing...the sex is great!



    Try it ladies...you will love it.

    Dec 14, 2011
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  • nurseguy

    My wife is accepting of my crossdressing and loved it sence we were married. she says the sex is great.

    Dec 14, 2011
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