I Am A Submissive Male And My Wife Is VanillaEver since I was a teen the thought of woman sexually controlling me has turned me on. When people have joked about whips and chains or strap-ons it has always secretly excited me. At one point I used to go to an S&M bar with a friend out of curiosity, but I think deep down I really wanted to meet a dominant woman. I have been trained on-line and was turned on every second. I want to be collard. I think I suppressed my desires for dominant woman because of how my friends talked about BDSM, they seemed to think it was not acceptable.
Now I am in my thirties, married, and with a wife who is purely vanilla. I recently revealed my desires to her and she was a bit upset. She said she was willing to trying anything to make me happy because she loves me. she has never revealed a kinky side and we have been toghether for seven years. It does not seem to turn me on if she truly is not dominant, I want the real thing. So, I am torn about leaving her. She is a great person and I would miss her vary much and she would be devastated. I love her but am not in love with her as she is in love with me. Yet I think of finding a dominant woman all the time and being her submissive lover or ****.