My Outing........

I came out to my wife about a year and a half ago. I had been having an affair with a local man. She overheard us on the phone and it 'went from there'.

I had been having sex with men for 10 + years. I had been very careful to not reveal my orientation to my wife, or to others in my life. I live in a very conservative community. It is sort of like Larimie, Wyoming, where Matt Sheppard was killed. This is the type of western community in which I live. We discussed and cried about our relationship dilemma. We later began counseling with a wonderful lady. She is very good. We have dealt with so many issues, but not the gay/bi issue. That will come.

I continue to have sex with men. I love both gay and bisexual men. I believe that I am 90% gay. I love my wife, but I cannot give up my passion for men. I have three boyfriends. They enjoy me a lot. One is married and the other two are fully gay. We have wonderful sex with each other. They also have sex with other men. Living here in rural America is a challenge. I go to the big city of Portland Oregon and find many, many men who love other men. I also go to other smaller nearby cities and find gay/bisexual men in large numbers. They are all over the place. I think the numbers nationally have to be wrong. There are so many gay/bisexual men that the percentages have to be larger than what has been considered in the past.

I believe that I will be gay/bi (mostly gay) till I die. I am so pleased that I finally discovered my orientation. As I mentioned earlier, I have been sexually active with men for many (nearly 13) years. After 30+ years of being faithful to my wife I realized that I was going to die without having lived fully. I had to experience this other part of me. Thank goodness I did. I am disappointed with my infidelity to my wife, whom I love very much. I am pleased with my discovery of this key and important part of me. I live with this dual discrepancy in my character. I will continue to do so.

rb71246 rb71246
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4 Responses Feb 24, 2010

Naughty angel in disguise: I always do 'safe sex'. I have not had sex with my wife for many years, but want to be safe anyway. I'm pleased that my story turned you on. I hope that you will have the opportunity to do the three way. another man would be so much fun for both of you. I have done three way and four way encounters. I still prefer one on one. Men can be so passionate and I love being with them. I just stayed with a boyfriend on my way back from a family visit. He is so well hung. I wanted to feel him in my 'nether' region and he complied. we had wonderful sex. He loves to suck my '*****' and then put his very large phallus up into my 'love canal'. We had wonderful sex together. I will go back again and again. Be well. Phil

Hi Naughty, thank you for your thoughtful comments. I always practice safe sex. I use a condom for all of my anal activities. For oral sex, I don't, but always check for obvious signs of stds on my partner's important body parts.<br />
My wife knows fully that I am bi and gay. That is part of our reason for counseling with a fine therapist. We again hit the highlights of orientation at our last session. I have been honest about that. However, I have been deceptive about my sexual activities with men, which have been extensive. I asked her for an open relationship. She declined. I wish she would have the same open mindedness that you speak of. Again, thanks for your thoughts.<br />
I like that you were turned on by my comments. I haven't had sex with a woman for nearly 15 years, but am excited by women's bodies and my head turns when I see a sexy lady. I believe that I could satisfy a woman if she would accept my gay side. I think a three-way with both a man and a woman would be a fine way to spend a night. Phil

Besides being turned on, my only comment is that I hope you are being sexually safe with these people. Other than that, at least your wife has a hint of who you are. I always say that if my husband told me he was bisexual today, we would have a boyfriend tonight. :)

Besides being turned on, my only comment is that I hope you are being sexually safe with these people. Other than that, at least your wife has a hint of who you are. I always say that if my husband told me he was bisexual today, we would have a boyfriend tonight. :)