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He's Perfect

A few years ago I was fortunate enough to meet someone. He came at the right time. He had all the qualities I could wish for in a partner and he was the perfect gentleman with impeccable manners. He had a sense of humour second to none. As we were not living close to each other we would write to each other every day, several times a day. This went on for a while until we were able to spend some time together.

I remember one day when I was waiting for him to arrive, I had butterflies in my tummy, my heart was pounding..... Eventually he was right there in front of me. I stood there looking at the most handsome man ever and savoured the moment as I gazed into his beautiful eyes. He then opened his arms and I just fell right in there. He held me so close and it was such a wonderful feeling. It was just what I needed.

Over the years he wined and dined me at every available opportunity we had to be together. I used to sit across the table from him and my eyes would examine every inch of his body whilst we waited to be served. Anywhere I wanted to go he would take me, it was never an issue, mind you I’m not a demanding woman.

He would always compliment me on how I was dressed, my hairstyle, how beautiful my skin tone looked in the light......

I used to send him little gifts once in a while just to make him smile. I just wanted to show him how much I cared about him.

Our quiet times were wonderful times, he would have me totally relaxed. His kisses were the sweetest kisses I’ve ever know, they would melt on my lips. When he kissed me my heart would race, I would go dizzy and my knees would go weak. He always filled me with desire.

We did not intend to develop strong feelings for each other but some things cannot be controlled. I thought I was being silly, that my feelings were somewhat confused, but they were not. I fell head over heels in love with him. The first time he told me that he loved me happened to be on my father’s birthday, I will never forget that.

So what is the issue then? I love him, but I can’t have him. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, if he’s not free, you can’t have him. And that is what really hurts......

But you know what, I love him and if it means that we are just friends, then that’s what it is because when you have found someone as fine as this man, I know it is a blessing having him in my life. It may not be in the capacity that I want, but I’m thankful for what I have and what he brings to my life. He's Perfect.

We are still friends, still close......
EbonyLady EbonyLady 41-45, F 18 Responses Jun 24, 2011

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A bit jealous :(

But everything is fair in love & war

Don't worry you lovely little head about that my dear....

There comes a time we set our eyes on someone, but they are taken already. There is nothing that we are able to do as we would not want to breakup their family as we care too much about them.

Just shows, in life you cannot have it all.

But we can always work around it by making a few adjustments so that we get something out of it..may not be the full 100%

I have a friend like that.
She is wonderful and I am so lucky.

You make sure you keep her in your life. It's great when you have someone that special in your life...

A very good and mature way of looking at it. If you can't have the relationship you want, have the one you can.

You can't always have what you want and no matter how much you may stamp your feet, it will not change a thing. Sometimes one has to make the best of a not so good situation and play the cards they have been dealt...

If he is so unhappily married why is he not yet divorced. Sounds to me like he wants his cake and to eat it too. Why just settle. Why not have your own man if you don't want to share. Be true to yourself. And how many other women does he tell that he is unhappy in his marriage to have them as well?

You are soooo unbelievably right! Thank you for your valuable contribution my dear.

That is a fine story. No matter if it does not fulfill the requirement of the genuine rules and regulations of a story but still it has got attraction bcoz its brimming with Pure Love Of Two Lovers

Fantastic story. Obviously it's not what you wanted but I respect your attitude and acceptance of the situation. I can only hope that things change in your favor given time.

It's funny but you can't help but love some people regardless of whether you can have them or not. One thing I don't worry about is whether or not things will change. If they do, they do :)

You're right...things aren't ever simple. Things are the way they are....

Quite! In life there are winners and losers. If life was simple it would be very boring. I read somewhere, "For what shall it profit a man, if he gain the whole world, and suffer the loss of his soul"? Me, I don't judge anyone....

This is a very moving story. When you write, I can feel your emotional attachment. You convey your thoughts and feelings very well. Like I tell my wife all the time, things happen. I've known a few men and women that were in your predicament. What some of them decided to do was to compromise their integrity. But, I do not judge them. Rather, I hope the peace they found in the arms of another will eventually be found in the one they married.

Life is never that simple though. Some people are fortunate enough to find and marry the right person and live happily ever after. Many try to work on their relationships but some cannot be repaired so have to end. Hence finding comfort with another.
This story is of an historical event not a recent thing. I love the story. Fortunately for me things moved on and I am in a happier place. I have someone in my life that shows me that they value me, I just hope they realise how much they truly mean to me.

Wow. I haven't been here for a while but I came at the right time. The woman I am connected with means so much to me. We are impeccable together but I cannot have her. Its heartbreaking. She is tailor made to my tastes. Everything about her is what I want from a woman, the woman I always dreamed of.<br />
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And your words seem to play the movie reel of our memories together right down to every detail.<br />
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But life wouldn't be life without its weird and often devilish equations that we must solve. Thank you for this story. It was most needed

I couldn't have said it better than BluTravir just did, Bravo! I am in a similar situation but I'm not as gracioius as you! I guess I want what I want, NOW!

I am fortunate in the sense that he has never hurt me. He's always wanted the best for me. If there was anything that I ever wanted I would just need to ask. For me it was all about trust, love and sharing. I can't tell you how many times we've made each other laugh out loud. When I think about those special times, they make me smile.

I don't think it was his intent to hurt me but he did all the same...When I think of him I have no anger...and yes the longing remains....

Most times someome will feel hurt when a relationship ends. You just have to deal with it the best you can. The longing will remain if they meant a lot to you, especially if they were, in your eyes, Perfect!

I understand How you feel I met someone and had very strong feelings for him..ours ended differently and I got hurt but I still don't regret meeting him...However I do still miss him. Thanks for sharing your story.

Some people never get to experience what I did. That depth of love for one person. There is not a day that passes that I don't think about him and what he means to me. A song will come on the radio and I think, oh that's his song.<br />
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The longing remains, I would give anything just to hold his hand right now or run my fingers through his salt and pepper coloured hair.....

This is truly moving. You are so lucky to have what you found and be able to accept what you can have. Sometimes it is better to take what you can get - cherish it, love it, nurture it, remember it - than to miss out on something so beautiful.

A beautiful love song. What elegant flight.

When love is spoken from the heart, it will always be beautiful.

Could not agree more :)

Thank you for your feedback. We are both adults and it’s not as though I didn’t know of his circumstances from the outset. It was a friendship that blossomed. I am lucky to have had such an amazing man in my life. Will never regret “US” for one minute.

Your story made me cry - I am in exactly the same situation, it happened totally by accident and is blossoming. We can't be without eachother yet we cannot be together. It hurts but is also wonderful. We shall continue to be close friends but with great restraint.

As they say, "Who feels it, knows it". In my eyes, there will NEVER be anyone who could equal him, ever. Nothing compares.....

This a a moving story.<br />
It sounds like you've shown commendable insight and restraint.<br />
I hope you can come to terms with the situation and find fulfilment elsewhere.