How Do You Stop Loving Someone??

I feel as if you told my story and the way I feel....wow...I lost my true love too just about 3 weeks ago and I lost him unfortunately because he found out that his ex-fiance had taken her own life....It's almost as if he had not closed those doors with her and now he wants to hold onto her...just 2 months ago, he was telling me how much he loved me and crying on the phone telling me how happy he was.....and now this...He's destroyed me inside and out and I, too, hope that I can live and just move on with my life because It's still difficult to stop loving him....Thanks for your story:)

I feel you so much. I am in the first few weeks of my break with my husband. He cheated on me and left. We were married 7 months. Together 5 years.

I know how this feels all too well. My heart belongs to someone who will never love me and I'm ashamed to say that I cry every single day because it hurts so much that I can't have him in my life that way I want him. Sometimes it hurts so much I can barely breathe. I never wanted this, it just happened and now it's all I do is hurt and cry. I hate this I just wish it would stop.

I know how you feel. Your confession made me cry... I feel you.

I'm currently with my man. He's 55 and I'm 19. We fell in love so exponentially and I'm trying to stay away from thinking about him 24/7 till it's affecting my studies. I don't even care if I do well... I just keep wanting to spend time with him, to be with him, and just immerse ourselves in each others love. But we know as my exam is drawing near, he wants me to do well and that I would need all the time from now till then (1 month) to fully focus on the preparation. Initially, I had suggested we meet every other day, but I soon realize how much I would miss him and look forward to the time I would meet him, and I would spend most of my time doing nothing much but daydream about being in his arms. And right now I feel as though I love him so so much - too much - it hurts! It's like I'm going insane and he's becoming my obsession. And I don't know what to do. :'( I can't really study... as there is too much to and each moment without him brings me closer to insanity.

I can't wait for this month to be over. I wish it will end soon.

I've been dating this guy for 5 years and we just ended it. but he says he still loves me and he just isn't ready for a relationship. I don't know what to do. one minute he's all over me hugging me and wanting to kiss me then hes ignoring me the next. since I love him so much I want to let him kiss me and stuff and not have to date me but my strong side of me is saying he's screwing with my mind.

I feel the same, hope it gets better

I'm reading what you wrote and thinking to myself… I wrote almost the same exact thing a few months ago. My ex broke up with me in August 2010 and my life hasn't been the same ever since. Every day I miss him, sometimes I stay up crying and praying for him to come back to my life. I remember all of the nights he told me he loved me and couldn't believe he found me, couldn't wait to spend life with me. Our relationship felt like magic, I knew how much he loved me. A few months later, he turned a complete 180 on me. I didn't really feel like I knew who he was anymore. I had already fallen for him all the way, every time he kissed me I wanted to melt. I couldn't just break up with him after the way he changed on me. My heart was just way too invested. At that point, I was scared. I spent the next 6 months after that just working so hard to make myself perfect for him. I never felt like I was good enough anymore. It was really just such a mind fck. By the time our relationship ended, I was really screwed up in the head. I didn’t know how to deal with life. I didn’t want to walk into a room, knowing that he wasn’t there by my side. I felt like dying. But honestly, I have so much faith in myself. I am hopeful that things will be better in the future. I don’t want to be mad at him anymore. I just want to be happy and I’m working on that. You should work on that too. It’s not easy, but we’ll get through it. It doesn’t kill us, but it makes us stronger. Life is not over, this is our chance for a new beginning. We didn’t mess anything up, but now is our chance to make the next one better. You can let it take the best of you or you can let this heartache make a more beautiful person than you already are.

this is just how its is with us . I havee noo idea iff he loves me . I even fool myself into thinking im ovr him but iff I just see him once , the memories come back & I fall for him again .

I fell inlove with my bestfriend, we would hangout every single moment we could. He fell for me first (or so he said/thought) but it wasn't until after he left that I realized that I was head over heels inlove with him. He was what made me breathe and want to wake up in the morning. Whenever I thought of getting married he was the one I saw, whenever I imagined having kids it was his kids that I was having. Three years later and if someone asks me to imagine my life in 20 years he's still in it. The worse part is that he fell inlove with my bestfriend and he still calls her when he's drunk about how much he misses her and she makes me listen to the voicemails over and over again cause she thinks I'm over him. He was my first and only love. He set the standards so high that no other guy has or ever will be able to measure up. I start to get over him but something always brings me back. We only dated a short while because I moved but I moved back and I feel like me and him never really had our opportunity to really try and have a real, longterm relationship. He's dated other girls since me and I've dated other guys but he seems to be so much better off without me. He also occasionally tries to contact me saying he misses being friends and it usually results in us agreeing to hookup. H always reels me back in the casts me back out into a lonely shark-infested ocean that I call life.

So I'm going to have to say that this feelings is never going to go away, you just have to find someone better than him. Find other activities to just try to keep your mind off him. Of course you'll have a night or two where all you'll want to do is call him and cry over his memory but you eventually just learn to forget about him, or at least to not think of him as much. I'm SO sorry you have to go through this and I wish you the best of luck.

You can't.

I haven't fallen out of love with one person for four solid years. Everyone seems so tasteless and boring after him. For you, if you still love him, I'd try to hook up with him again.

that is why love hurts, the feeling of rejection because of a love not reciprocated is killing, and can eat away at you,i feel your pain, sometimes i think i love too much too deep, too intense.i send you a hug, thinking of you.

that is why love hurts, the feeling of rejection because of a love not reciprocated is killing, and can eat away at you,i feel your pain, sometimes i think i love too much too deep, too intense.i send you a hug, thinking of you.

that is why love hurts, the feeling of rejection because of a love not reciprocated is killing, and can eat away at you,i feel your pain, sometimes i think i love too much too deep, too intense.i send you a hug, thinking of you.

i feel your pain :/

only thing is, with me, me and him are still together.

i wake up every morning wondering if this will be the day he starts loving me agian.

i dont know what i would do without him.

this is why your story scares me is because im in pain now i dont want to be in any more pain :(

and if i walk out, or if he does, i wonder what it wil do to me and if it will hurt more than being with him.

but at the same time, your story makes me realise im not alone.

and in an odd way, its soothing.

we both feel a horrible amount of indescribable pain, even if it may be 2 different situations.

im hoping people are right when they say one day we will one day feel no pain,

and that one day we will learn to stop loving them.

im sure its true, i just wonder when.