Why

I've been married to my husband for 6 years and we have 2 kids together. He is in the military and I am a housewife. 3 years ago he cheated on me and got herpes, he tried to deny what he had but I saw what it looked like and did my research. I did not leave him because, I told myself, we were overseas and I had no money to just up and leave. We have had no sexlife since, as you could probably guess, and I am still here and we are in the states. Our children are both under the age of 7 so they are sumwhat unaware of the strife between me and him. 
After we got back to the states, I believed that things were going ok and that our marriage might actually have a chance. Only to find out he has been sexting multiple women. I check our phone records and after repeated lying about even talking to these women, I'm still here. Why, you ask yourself. I really don't have a good reason. I married the man right out of highschool and don't really know how to take a care of myself, I guess, I'm scared. No other way to put it. So now, Im in this loveless marriage, hating to stay but afraid to leave. 
Cyntarah84 Cyntarah84
26-30, F
1 Response Aug 2, 2010

Why do people do this? I will never understand why people are so cruel, but I guess that when a man sleeps around while he has a woman at home, he doesn't equate the two. Its like you are home, in the bag already, so he feels free to go out and get some extras.<br />
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There is one near certainty here. If you stay, this is how it will always be. Can you cope with the knowledge and are you strong enough to not let it chip away at your self-esteem?<br />
Fear stops us doing all sorts, but this is the kind of thing that is capable of breaking you as a person and short-changing your children in their formative years.<br />
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I guess you could always ask him that if you are to have an open marriage, then perhaps he would like to babysit one night so you can fulfil your half of the arrangement. I bet he sees things differently when the boot is put on the other foot.