A Few Words On Dating Married Men
I am not necessarily proud of the fact that I have had many affairs with married men over the years. My first one started when I was 15 and started messing around with my best friend's 38 y.o.step-father who was married to her crazy alcoholic mother at the time. He wound up divorcing her and I was with him for four years and nearly married him but at the last minute came to my senses and moved to California with my parents who were retiring out here. Even though I was with him I managed to have a couple more affairs with other married men during this time. It was something I was good at. After I was married it curbed the habit some but I eventually was drawn into yet another affair with a married man..or two. I was somehow drawn to these situations. I'm also attracted to older men so many of them happen to be married or otherwise involved. Part of the attraction for me is the "NSA" aspect because no matter what he might say, and no matter how unhappy he is in his marriage, a married man will most likely not want to leave his wife so you can't set yourself up to fanasize that this is something that could happen. For me this works.
Also older men are more experienced and the married ones are sometimes sex-starved so they can be a lot of fun that way. They can let go with me in a way that they can't with their wives because of the history between them or the issues they're not talking about.
As I get older the married men get older too, and even more skilled and appreciative. I think it's sad that in many cases their wives just aren't into having sex anymore or only on the obligatory birthdays and holidays. It's sad for both of them. I know one of my lover's wives was sexually abused as a child and she didn't want to go to therapy or marriage counselling or work on it in any way and just didn't want to have sex anymore period and he was supposed to just be ok with that. When I met him he was 65 and we had a year-long hot sweet affair until his wife found out about us and threatened to divorce him and turn his grandkids against him etc and my question is why? Why all the drama and discord when SHE didn't want to "do" him. I was actually doing her a favor, he's happy and taken care of, she gets the benefit of a happy satsfied man and doesn't have to lift a finger. It's not fair that he should never get to have sex again just cuz she doesn't want to. Then she gets him back afterwards and has the companionship and financial security of her husband without the fuss and muss.
Anyway, I'm just saying.....people get so worked up about these things.