Friend Or Child?

I love my best friend, but sometimes I feel like her mother. I've always been the one to take care of her when she's sick, buy her food, and now she looks at my very young relationship for answers. Its never really bothered me before, but since we graduated high school my patience grows thinner and thinner with her each day. Sometimes I wonder if being her friend is what's really best for me...and that thought makes me feel guiltier than anything...Honestly though, its something I need to think about. I want to grow up. I want to get a job, go to school, and support myself. She somehow doesn't understand that concept because she always whines about stuff like that. She's never had to pay for anything herself because she always turns to her mom, or a friend, for money, food, etc. I just feel like she holds me back sometimes and just need help with how to handle this before it gets ugglier than it already has...

liberoliz22 liberoliz22
18-21, F
1 Response Sep 21, 2009

Have you tried talking to her about it? i mean i know it sounds corny and she WILL be pissed at you for a small amount of time but it may get through to her that she needs it, and if that doesnt work dont support the habits, and ask her mom not to, yes its cold but she'll start working for things if they arent handed to her. and if you really feel like shes holding you back, be her friend, but be what you can be, not what she wants you to be, it may make you two go over a few bridges but she'll understand eventually