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I Still Love Him

M y boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and have had a great, loving relationship.  He graduated college last year and I am finishing my senior year this year.  He started hanging out with my best friend (who also graduated with him) a lot because she was lonely and depressed and going through a bad time in her life.  They ended up kissing a few times this past month when they were drinking together.  We had a huge fight about it and he basically said he would do anything to keep me.  I am still with him now and I love him very much.  We are trying to work things out and he has done everything right, but I still have these horrible feelings sometimes.  Has anyone stayed with someone that has cheated and can help me deal with this?
blueeyes22 blueeyes22 21-25, F 13 Responses Mar 13, 2007

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It's extremely hard to stay with someone after they cheated, but sometimes it's worth and other times you just might need to let go. Sometimes you just need to fallow your heart, and if that's the right choice then time will tell.

Wish you the best of luck though.

It's always understandable to forgive a cheating partner. But you should only do it if you know in your heart that your partner is willing to work on it for you and is willing to earn your trust and love back. If not, then a cheaters always a cheater.<br />
But there's always exceptions.<br />
Good Luck <3

try and give him a chance...may be he has learnt from his mistake..but if this happens again dont even think before saying good bye..

There are two issues here. There is love and there is lust, and it is important not to confuse the two, despite them having the same 'action' which in this case is a kiss to another person. Like we all have happy days and sad days we can have eyes for just one person days and eyes for other people days, its how we as individuals deal with this latter that forms us as a person and its our morrals that enable us or inhibit us from acting upon those impulses.<br />
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I'm not going to say what he did is right or wrong, because it is his life and he has to lead it for him self. If there rules are set and the rules are broken then usually they carry a penalty, whether that is an awkward conversation or a break up depends on teh people involved.<br />
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Someone can be in love with you and have other 'lustuous thoughts' about somone else I'm afraid, but as long as they love you and show you that they love you thats all they can do, its how you interpret these signs that defines whether youre relationship is working.<br />
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The biggest thing with love is trust, they go hand in hand. The mother looking over them is forgivness. Once you can learn to forgive, and I dont mean just saying it, but believeing it they you know you love him back, all he has to do is hold up his end of the deal!!

Helloo :]<br />
iv been with my boyfriend for 3 years next month and he kissed a girl in the past and we got throught it but got throught it together the main thing is is that he picked you over her and said he will do anothing to keep you, dont that say he loves you?, well jus keep workin at it, its really hard at 1st but it dose get easyer, all the best thought :] <br />
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All I can say is that sometimes the things you have to work for or think about hardest are the most worthwhile.

Ok you know, it is up to you in the end. Because without letting your love and feelings get in the way you need to realize one of two things... DO NOT let yourself get back into a relationship knowing you cannot trust this person 100 percent, like it was before he/she cheated. You cannot allow yourself to do it, if you do not trust him with all of your heart and soul AND mind then don't do it - it will only enevitably lead to more bad, be it on his side or perhaps yours.<br />
I have been in this situation, with my current boyfriend. He has had a fair share of cheating on me, with two different women... but eventually we talked and reconciled and we're back together now and thusfar it's been the best times we've had.. Sometimes, and I am NOT in any way justifing cheating but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do... and I forgave him and accepted him back into my life... I know he's changed for himself and for me - he's ready to commit now.. and it's up to you to figure out if your man is too.. if not, I would give it some cooling time.. Def. And goodluck! I guess you really don't know how to react or how to feel unless you've done some cheating yourself.

For me being drunk and trying to console someone else isn't an excuse to go make out. My boyfriend went to a ***** club in secret one time and I nearly broke up with him. It's up to you in the end. Talk to him about it before you do anything.

I forgave a guy who cheated on me four month into our relationship. He worked away and used the excuse to fall out with me so that he could see someone in the two weeks he stayed there. I found out off my friends but stupidly carried on seeing him for another on and off four years. Can't honestly say whether he cheated on me again but it was disasterous in other ways. He was actually very insecure and accused me of cheating at every opportune moment. Probably because he knew what he was capable of it turned itself on him and caused him to accuse me of doing what he did. Killed us in the end!

hello there..u should go away from ur boyfriend for a moment and think what is the best for ur life and hapiness..but it is ur choices if u really ended up still with him, everybody makes mistakes but if it happens twice then it is not a mistakes anymore!!remember

hi their.my name is robbie,my girlriend cheated on me twice and i forgave her both times and she did it again.so i dumbed her for good.its a year ago now i havent meet anyone sense cant trust anyone.i dont mean to upset u but keep doing to u.if he really loved u he wouldnt of didnt it in the first place.let me no how u get on.dtake care.

hi their.my name is robbie,my girlriend cheated on me twice and i forgave her both times and she did it again.so i dumbed her for good.its a year ago now i havent meet anyone sense cant trust anyone.i dont mean to upset u but keep doing to u.if he really loved u he wouldnt of didnt it in the first place.let me no how u get on.dtake care.

hi their.my name is robbie,my girlriend cheated on me twice and i forgave her both times and she did it again.so i dumbed her for good.its a year ago now i havent meet anyone sense cant trust anyone.i dont mean to upset u but keep doing to u.if he really loved u he wouldnt of didnt it in the first place.let me no how u get on.dtake care.