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Need Advice..

I'm new here and I need advice. I came across this group and thought I might give it a try. When I was 15, I met this guy. We were really different types of people but we became fast friends. What he didn't know was that I feel for him the instant I saw him. But I kept my feelings a secret, the reason is because he is my cousin. We had never met before high school. I was told at the time having these feelings were wrong but as I got to know him more, I kept thinking how can it be wrong to love someone. After he left high school, we kept in contact via phone but that ended soon. I hadn't seen him in years but found him on Facebook last November 2011. We began chatting in December, he's rarely on Facebook. On December 22, he came to my house, I was so happy he decided to come see me after all this time. We got along great, and I kept thinking, maybe it might work out this time. I invited him to a Christmas party I was going to on the 25. He agreed to come with me right away. At the party we drank and kissed for the first time. Things only got better from there. But we didn't have sex. The next morning I had to tell him that we are cousins, he still didn't know. You see I was planning on telling him but I had never planned on anything happening on Christmas. He was shocked when I told him but during the next couple of weeks he kept saying he couldn't be with me but kept coming back. We started a relationship on January 13, 2012. It was rocky in the beginning because he was still unsure of the cousin thing. But we fell in love and we were happy. Don't get me wrong, there were arguments and problems because we had not only a new relationship but we were just getting to know each other again. On June 22, 2012, he told me he couldn't be with me anymore because it was too hard. But didn't explain more. He later told me that I deserve better that him. That being cousins bothered him more than he lead on. I truly believe he is the love of my life, I always believed that.
In my mind we still can get pass this, and be happy. I just keep remembering how he said he was happy that he never felt so loved, and so on. I even talk to him sometimes and he said what we had was great. I know deep down he still loves me. He even said he would like the situation to be different so that makes me believe he still cares.
I need advice on how to move forward with this and how to tell him its okay to be fearful but everyone has their obstacles to overcome and this is ours. I would like to have advice from people who went threw similar situation.
sugarlove13 sugarlove13 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 24, 2012

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hi. how are u doing. my names Samantha or Sam for short. I've been on this site awhile. long enuff to be happy to say I've met a lot of great people wit great advice & stories & experiences regarding cousin love. & of course there's those equally aweful pervs we deal wit day in & day out here on EP & I too am in a longer termed secret romantic relationship wit a 1st cousin & am glad I stumbled onto this site when I did to realize I wasn't alone. I've also realized that cousin relationships are more common than 1 thinks. I'm sorry ur in the position ur in & wish it wasn't that way. from the different people I've met here it sounds like maybe the cousin u got wit wasn't entirely into u & sorry to be the 1 saying it but I've had the opportunity to chat wit guys who say they've gotten wit cousins & got with them only to "get some" & said they said & did what they did cause their hormones got the best of them & started thinking wit the wrong head misleading female cousins just to get theirs & felt bad about leading on who they did. Im not saying that's what it looks like ur in but I'm just saying men are pigs. most of em at least & I thibk u should move on if thats the case but who am I to say. I'm glad u shared ur story & look forward to hearing/reading more. keep up the good wirk & would like to get to know you more if you'd like. until next time take care & t2yL

hi. how are u doing. my names Samantha or Sam for short. I've been on this site awhile. long enuff to be happy to say I've met a lot of great people wit great advice & stories & experiences regarding cousin love. & of course there's those equally aweful pervs we deal wit day in & day out here on EP & I too am in a longer termed secret romantic relationship wit a 1st cousin & am glad I stumbled onto this site when I did to realize I wasn't alone. I've also realized that cousin relationships are more common than 1 thinks. I'm sorry ur in the position ur in & wish it wasn't that way. from the different people I've met here it sounds like maybe the cousin u got wit wasn't entirely into u & sorry to be the 1 saying it but I've had the opportunity to chat wit guys who say they've gotten wit cousins & got with them only to "get some" & said they said & did what they did cause their hormones got the best of them & started thinking wit the wrong head misleading female cousins just to get theirs & felt bad about leading on who they did. Im not saying that's what it looks like ur in but I'm just saying men are pigs. most of em at least & I thibk u should move on if thats the case but who am I to say. I'm glad u shared ur story & look forward to hearing/reading more. keep up the good wirk & would like to get to know you more if you'd like. until next time take care & t2yL

Only you know the answer to that...maybe you'll eventually fall in love again ...it all depends in you...how willing are you to forget and move on and how long is it going to take to your heart to accept this...but it all takes time and a lot of suffering...<br />
I'm sorry you're going through this...<br />
Wish you the best.