Need Advice..I'm new here and I need advice. I came across this group and thought I might give it a try. When I was 15, I met this guy. We were really different types of people but we became fast friends. What he didn't know was that I feel for him the instant I saw him. But I kept my feelings a secret, the reason is because he is my cousin. We had never met before high school. I was told at the time having these feelings were wrong but as I got to know him more, I kept thinking how can it be wrong to love someone. After he left high school, we kept in contact via phone but that ended soon. I hadn't seen him in years but found him on Facebook last November 2011. We began chatting in December, he's rarely on Facebook. On December 22, he came to my house, I was so happy he decided to come see me after all this time. We got along great, and I kept thinking, maybe it might work out this time. I invited him to a Christmas party I was going to on the 25. He agreed to come with me right away. At the party we drank and kissed for the first time. Things only got better from there. But we didn't have sex. The next morning I had to tell him that we are cousins, he still didn't know. You see I was planning on telling him but I had never planned on anything happening on Christmas. He was shocked when I told him but during the next couple of weeks he kept saying he couldn't be with me but kept coming back. We started a relationship on January 13, 2012. It was rocky in the beginning because he was still unsure of the cousin thing. But we fell in love and we were happy. Don't get me wrong, there were arguments and problems because we had not only a new relationship but we were just getting to know each other again. On June 22, 2012, he told me he couldn't be with me anymore because it was too hard. But didn't explain more. He later told me that I deserve better that him. That being cousins bothered him more than he lead on. I truly believe he is the love of my life, I always believed that.
In my mind we still can get pass this, and be happy. I just keep remembering how he said he was happy that he never felt so loved, and so on. I even talk to him sometimes and he said what we had was great. I know deep down he still loves me. He even said he would like the situation to be different so that makes me believe he still cares.
I need advice on how to move forward with this and how to tell him its okay to be fearful but everyone has their obstacles to overcome and this is ours. I would like to have advice from people who went threw similar situation.
sugarlove13 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 Jul 24, 2012