Is It Me Or Does Cousin Love Seem Stronger?

Sometimes i feel like cousin couples and cousin lovers are meant to be..the immense chemistry, the way your heart skips a beat when your around your loved one.. why is it that these feelings are so strong and uncontrollable?

The days seem longer when he's not around, i think about him every second of my life. i dream of being with him once again..

WHY do we have to be related? :( !!!!!!

LIFE ISN'T FAIR. Why does everyone get to be with the one's they love and show them off in public, but we can't because it's against "society" screw society! i love him and i don't care what anyone says!
J05209 J05209
22-25, F
8 Responses Nov 28, 2012

I know how you feel. It is an intense chemistry unlike any other! I just reconnected with my first love my cousin. I moved away when I was 12 and we have not seen each other in 38 years. We have become inseparable online talking for the last few weeks. We both still feel that connection. I gave up trying to figure out why and just thank God for his heart. I was engaged too! Not any longer! God put many cousins together in the bible so don't worry about judgement from others. You have one life to live, be happy and don't live to please others except your partner. God bless you!

Awwe I'm so glad you two are reconnecting again, hope that you two end up together, good luck! and thanks

I know exactly how you feel. I've loved my first cousin since we were kids. Although he's married now with small children, my feelings for him have not changed. He feels for me too; I've always known there was something between us. There have been many times I have told myself that no, he doesn't love me that way and that I'm just imagining things. But whenever there is a family function that throws us together, I see that look in his eyes when he looks at me, a tenderness that seems to be reserved for only me. He even exhibits some of the classic signs that a man is attracted to a woman (yes, I had to look them up to be sure!) but I know just by the way he looks at me and by the way he hugs me. He treats my other female cousins differently in that flippant way he has. But with me... it's all seriousness.

I wish that Fate had not been so unkind as to make him related to me. But if he was not my cousin, how would I have ever met him? I know I'll probably never find a man like him.

He is the love of my life.

I know exactly what you mean when you say you feel it by the way he looks at you, the sparkle in his eyes right? I feel the same way with my lover. But then I remember that we're not together :( but that's okay life goes on, and everything happens for a reason. I hope for u to find someone special, someone you can love :) good luck and thanks for the advice.

I support this 100%. You don't have to listen to anyones judgement if you love your cousin and he feels the same then go for it. You can't help the feelings just there. I was in the same situation when I was 16 and now me and my cousin/boyfriend and I going to have a baby. I'm already a month. Don't think its wring because many many states allow cousins to get married. Few states accept all, some states only first cousins and others are under cercumstances. But I'm telling you you won't regret it because your in love.

Wow that's great! i'm glad there's people that are actually willing to fight for their love, best of luck :)

I agree it does seem stronger like it's so meant to be. Me and my cousin are very lucky, our family supports us and we live as open as any other couple. We will marry soon but already share the same last name. Good luck to u :)

Aww i'm happy for you! Good luck with your lover :)

agree wth you but maybe you need to think about everything more postivily

I agree with you totally! I love my cousin, and it actually pains me when we don't talk. I am counting down the days until I can see her in 32 days, and cannot wait for her to come out to where I am so we can live "happily ever after"!!!

Don't let society tell you that you guys should be together or ever have any babies. As you saw in my open letter, there are tons of cousin couples in the world, many of them with perfectly healthy babies. God bless you and your cousin lover!!!

I'm glad you can be with her and that you'll spend the rest of your life with her!! Yes, cousin love seems way more real and beautiful than the love you see in "normal" people.
Thank you so much for the advice :)!! And yes i don't care what society says , everything anyone does seems wrong to society anyways. God bless you and you lover also!!

yes do follow your heart. yes cousin couples are very stong couples there is much stronger then none related couples there nothing like it in the world and you should be allowed to show it like every body else.

Yes the chemistry is very strong it's amazing! Ur right i don't think love should have any restrictions.

yes i agee you there shouldn't be any restrictions on love.

I think Royalty used to marry their cousins.

I think you should do what you want to do.Adopt a child if the relationship is working after a few years.

Move far away from home with him and try living together but don't EVER tell people that you are related.

I had cousins that I wanted to sleep with but my parents went on and on and on about how wrong it was.WELL,'s wrong not to be happy in a very short lifetime.

Thanks for the advice it made me feel better! and yes i've heard about royalty and their "tradition" on marrying within their families.

True, i believe everyone should do whatever makes them happy because no matter what you do people have bad things to say, so yeah thank u for the advice :)