Forbidden Love

Our love began 8 years ago when i was just a teenager. I was only 15 at that time when i first met my cousin. My cousin and I instantly clicked. We understood eachother very well. We both came from broken families and could understand exactly how one another felt. From then on we grew a very close relationship. For the 3 months that I was there we grew strong feelings for one another . We both new how we felt about eachother. But no one was brave enough to make the first move.

But then.... the last week I had there he finally, made a move. That night we came back from a party and we slept on the same matress. We were both sad that I was going back home soon, and we both broke down in tears. We hugged eachother closely and one thing led to another. I regret not confessing my love for him earlier. 

After I got back to Australia, I thought that maybe it was just a one off thing. I thought maybe... if I dont contact him, I would forget. We would both forget. But that didnt happen. I knew I had to see him again. From then I've tried to visit him every year. However, its so hard for the both of us now because our family knows about us. They forbid us from seeing eachother. Our family believes that by keeping us apart we would slowly forget eachother. But what they don't know is by keeping us apart, it makes our feelings for eachother grow stronger. I'm now 23 years old now and hes 28. We have been single since. We have'nt layed an eye on anyone else. We don't know what to do. We always talk about running away and leaving everything behind. but thats just so selfish.

I dont know what to do.... if anyone else has experienced situations like this please share it. I'm feeling so lonely at the moment. Theres not much people who would understand my situation.

truelove12 truelove12
22-25
8 Responses Mar 1, 2010

i cant help but share my own forbidden love story. im also in a relationship whit my 3rd cousin, yes wer 3rd degree cousin but our family is very close to each other. living in a same compound . it started when we were 1st college, same course and school. been together almost every time . but we kept the feelings for almost 6 years because we knew its not propper, my parents trust him , they allowed me to hang out kinowing im with him. at first i thought it was just a hint of attraction and later on will fade , but it didnt, instead it became more stronger, the more i deny it the more i crave being with him. but i tried to correct this mistake, i had a boyfiend for almsot 4 years just to divert my attention. i even kept distance from him after our graduation. we had our own life with out communication. but i know deep with in im its still him. until me and my finace broke up. then we see each other again. im happy and hes happy too. i dunno what made him confess . that time we cant anymore comtrol our feelings. the hiding time was over for us. we sit and talked about everything . till we decided to give ourself chance to express our feelings. ad now wer almost 2 years being in a relationship . nothing i can ask more. but my mom knew and she was very dissapointed, she wants us to stop this "crime". yes she titled it as a crime. but we cant stop. every one in the family who knows about our relationship they have all common reactions. to stop. but who are them to dictate our feelings ? who are them tell us to stop this something that giving us so much happiness? they will never understand because they never been to this situation.

relationship between cousin's huh? I am kinda related to the story, but from what I know marriages between cousin's are not forbidden even in the bible, marrying your cousin doesn't break the rules or taboo's, it's just people are idiot, they discriminate other person, but they don't even know what was right and what was wrong.

there are some cases of marriage between cousins, like Charles Darwin he was married with his wife(first cousin) Emma, another example, the norms of royal families, where they marry their cousins to retain the pure blooded families that was back on 20th century.

I feel I can comment on this. I have my story and feel I can relate. <br />
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June 13th 2012 my family finds out that my uncle is in his final stages of liver failure. We drive 3 days from Cali. To Missouri to see him before he passes. <br />
When we arrive he is still doing bad and not recovering. I see his daughter, my cousin. She is sitting by his side. She is sad and seems lost. I give her a warm caring hug and ask her how she is doing. <br />
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We start talking. Then we leave together from the hospital ( she was showing us the way home I her car) I'm in the passenger seat and we start clicking, sparks, that I have never felt with anyone before. I'm making her laugh, happy, and feeling good. She says she has not felt like that in 6 months! <br />
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We get to her house and settle in. At this point we are inseparable. We stay up late and talk about everything and anything! Good bad ugly nasty sexy dirty loving caring amazing things! There is no judgment. Not a single boundary between one another. <br />
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A few days go by like this. And I start to fall in love with her as a woman. I think to myself " this is my cuoisin! Why do I feel this way???" I keep this to myself. <br />
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We go out to a bar. Get some drinks. Talk more. And just bond more and more! <br />
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We get home and my uncles being taken home. But with the hospis bed waiting for him. My cuoisin come home crying bc someone in the family told her at work that her dad is coming home. On hospis. I flip out! I know she is emotional right now and that is not something she needed to hear from someone while at work!<br />
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I give her some space. So she can regroup. We are very much the same. Extremely alike so I know how she is feeling. <br />
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We finally speak and she tells me it's ****** up how the family handles ****. <br />
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We are hanging out watching tv together that night and she mentions something to me, saying, "I wish we were not family" <br />
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At 1st I was dumbstruck! Confused. Didn't know how to take it. So I brush it off for the night <br />
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The next day I ask her what she ment about wishin we were not family. Then she tells me. <br />
"you are the only guy who has ever cared about me. Just bc! You have no alternate motives with me. You truly want to love me and no one has ever done that for me in my entire life!"<br />
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That's when I knew I loved her more than family. At that moment. <br />
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Knowing this now. We did not act differently around one another. But we became almost unseprable. <br />
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A week and a half goes by. My uncle is not getting any better and on the 23rd he passes away. <br />
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I remember me and her and some family members being in the ba<x>sement and she was telling me about what I taught her about music. I loved that she learned something from me. Then my other uncle comes and gives us the bad news. <br />
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We were sad. But sat outside with all of our cousins and started talking about all the good times we had and good memories. So even after my uncle passed we still had high hopes. <br />
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The next day me and my cousin take home her brothers back to there other mom. 7 hour drive. She asked me to go with her. <br />
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We talked some more. And then I start to finally get a little physical with her. <br />
She resists only bc of the fact that we are family. <br />
I back off. But then she starts telling me all the things she has been dreaming and thinking about doing with me. That makes me want to be with her even more. <br />
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That night. I know I'm going home and we stay up together. We sit on the couch together. I'm holding her. I finally lean in and kiss her ear. She playfully resists. Then we start to really get heavy. <br />
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This went on for the entire night off and on. We did not have sex. We wanted to. But we could not do that to one another. <br />
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So now back home. It is the 28th we left the 25th. And my heart hurts and I wish to be with her. <br />
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I know I am wrong. But my heart feels so sad and right at the same time. <br />
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I love my cousin more than anything I have ever loved before. <br />
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That's my story. Just know I understand that being apart makes you want them even more :( you have my empathy

I slept with my 4th cousin but that was b4 i new he was my cousin. He was pretty good, id prob do it agian lol jk well... maybe if i was super drunk

Where i come from family is nunber 1 priority as well.... But me and my cousin are trying... His mom and his sister already accepted it... took his mom a few months and my cousin (his sister) always accepted us... My mom still don't know but now that we go there in Dec. we both plan on breaking the news to her because we cant' stay apart anymore... Dont deny your heart the love it has! Love is a beautiful thing! Don't run from it, run towards it and embrace it. Lose the fear, thats what i did after (like you) 8 long years!!! I finally spilt my feelings and now we're trying to make this work..... I know its hard cuz of family because thats what i always thought as well.... But as my aunt (his mom) told him, she sees him soooooooo happy with me because he laughs and is happy... hes always in a good mood and she would rather see him that way, happy and alive, then how he was before me..... she said she hopes God helps us becuase she sees how happy we are together and that's all she wants for her son, happiness. It might take a lot and be hard and fustrating, but eventually with the love your family has for you they will accept it... show them your happiness with eachother.... show them how strong your love is.... show them its real love.... Have a little faith and im sure things will work our fine! =)

i dont believe its that simple. i guess becos different ppl have different believes. where i come from family is always your number 1 priority. thankyou for the kind thoughts though. you dont know how good it feels to talk to people about this situation.

i dont believe its that simple. i guess becos different ppl have different believes. where i come from family is always your number 1 priority. thankyou for the kind thoughts though. you dont know how good it feels to talk to people about this situation.

OK, Here are some answers for the *unasked* questions: <br />
http://marriage.about.com/cs/marriagelicenses/a/cousin.htm<br />
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I was amazed at which states do allow it.<br />
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DingDao