I Just Don't Get It

I don't know what prompted me to write this but it's 11 at night and I'm bored and I have really no one but my husband to talk to about this. My mother is probably the nicest person I've ever known. And im not just saying that because she is my mother. Everyone who has ever met her says nothing but great things about her. She has made my childhood such a memorable one! Every holiday was a treasure as was every birthday. When she walked in a room everyone would smile. She had the funniest stories to tell and she was always joking around. All of my friends growing up would often tell me that they wish that she was thier mother. Yes. I love my mom. And it is a privlage to have her in my life.
When I was 5 my mom and dad got divorced. It was a terrible time for her but she never let my brother and I know it. She was a strong woman and she never allowed to show her fear and struggle to us kids. She worked very hard to keep us clothed and fed and made sure we were happy. I am grown now with three children of my own. And I consider myself a lucky woman to have had such a great role model in my past. To this day she still is my role model and I can't imagine life without her.
About five years ago my father died from a five year battle of cancer. He too was a great role model. I was going through a rough time losing my father but a week after his funeral she announced that she was engaged . I was so happy for her. She felt bad that the timing was weird and all but my brother and I assured her that we were happy for her although I never got a chance to really get to know her new husband. I just decided to give them space since he didn't seem to be interested in getting to know me at the time. I just took that as maybe him just trying to get settled in and uncomfortable with new family and such. They got married and they looked so happy.
But as time went by I noticed that this became a ritual of not talking.... Or maybe just plain ignoring my presence. I thought maybe it was just a new stepdad thing that can sometimes happen. But then I noticed that sometimes when I talked to him he would deliberatly ignore me. I also noticed that he had no problem talking to my brother and they barely have anything in common.
This has been going on for so long now. My mother seems to be so in love with him that I never talk to her about this. I just let it go. But it hurts that he has no problem at all with everyone else in my family.He cant seem to stand my very presence. Do I just keep sweeping this under the rug for the sake of my mother and I's relationship? I just want her to be happy.


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Jan 12, 2013