Trust!! Is The Only Way It Really Works!

I'm not sure how many couples here really have a 'Hotwife'  relationship, but I suspect that most posts are from guys with a fantasy that in actuality, they could NOT handle. Even couples (that we have gotten to know) have a difficult time finding the comfort levels of both partners.                                                        In our case, Annie always makes sure that I know that I am her rock, her main man. That this is something that we do for fun and excitement periodically....it is not life in itself. She does not lie, she does not cheat. She does however enjoy flirting to fruition with my approval.                                              ME? I keep her safe. I do not allow her to get into a possibly dangerous situation.                                                                                                                                    She also had her own fears of this lifestyle,.....If he loves me why does he want me to be with other men?..If I do this will he use it to leave me?.. Will he hate me afterwards?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I am convinced, that to go against societal taboos regarding any 'different' sexual lifestyle, you have to be more than husband and wife. You also have to be "best friends'.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            I would like to share some of our experiences, but I would be more motivated if other like minded people joined us here. Please write!

                                                                                              John                                                                                                                                                                                    By the way, that IS Annie in the logo for this site.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             

Ourharmony Ourharmony
56-60
2 Responses Mar 5, 2010

Thanks for your sincere opinion.

I am sure thats the way to deal with this life style.

Ourharomany, love your input. I asked my wife years ago about her having a lover and I don't want one if that's what you think. At first she thought I had cheated on her and wanted to make things right by her having a lover. She said no way! Well several years went by and I had given up hope when when one day she came home kinda excited it seems a young guy maybe in his early twenties tried to hit on her while at a bar she was at. The way she talked I knew right away she was thinking about what I said and to cut things short I talked her in to seeing this guy. Well they became lovers for some time letting her see this guy any time she wanted. From there it's history. We made up some rules and have gone by them since. My wife is a good looking gal and at 52 she still has it. I love my wife and I know she loves me. I get turned before and after she has been with some guy. I let her stay a weekend with a guy and when she came home we spent the day in bed...hell she was a different women happy as ever and she plans to do it again some time with the same guy........I love it.