Miss Being Held

 I think I still love my husband.  Just feels like we are more like brother and sister than husband and wife.  I just miss being held and hugged.  Just don't feel cared for anymore.  We haven't had sex in over 10 years and he says he doesn't have the ability and doesn't miss it but won't talk to a doctor about it.  He does; however, watch a lot of **** which really bothers me.

cat5dog1 cat5dog1
51-55, F
6 Responses Mar 3, 2009

My husband sounds the same way.

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But how do you ban the ****?

i banned it too because My husband could care less about sex too. then he really doesn't need that! i personally think there is more to men than we know, and if we really dug a little bit 95 percent of those that say they are not able or wanting really are and we don't know. I have watched so many of those types be liars. the only problem is that I am finding the more we are naggers in their minds, the more it is us that are really driving them to go that way? Either we like it or don't. I am trying to deal with it and really study it myself but men will lie even with concrete evidence so it is tough. Usually if it doesn't affect their pocket they really don't care till it does!

That was good advice from grits, the kinda stuff I normally say, however it still hurts all the time doesn't it? There is only so much the gym and vodka can give you (/me) when the one thing in your life you want the most can not be yours.....the physical love of your husband. Sorry if this sounds defeatest and miserable, I am having a bad moment, and I have only been 22 weeks without!(how sad that I count!) Could not even begin to understand how hard it would be to go 10 years, you are obviously a stronger woman than I am, and you obviously still love your husband lots, I hope he realises how lucky he is to have a woman like you beside him. I would ban the **** though!

i feel your pain. there are far more of us going through this very thing than is reported. just know you are not alone. I wish I had some answers for you but we each have to find our own way of dealing with this.<br />
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Just know it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with him. Take care of yourself and find things in life to increase your happiness and enjoy life.