When The Going Gets Rough, He Signs Up On Various Dating/sex Sites

He was bored after 23 years. And it was just so much easier to sign up to half a dozen dating/sex sites than to put an effort into the marriage.

So nice to know that I have a 57 year old child I must constantly entertain. And it's even better to know that *I* am the one who has to make drastic changes to myself to please him while in turn he will make no change what so ever.

And of course I should be more understanding of his needs and not ever expect him to consider how all his active dating memberships make me feel. Because after all, he's bored and I'm almost 50.
insanityrunsinthefamily insanityrunsinthefamily
51-55, F
3 Responses Dec 8, 2012

He should be all over that gorgeous body of yours ...

He knows. But he doesn't want to talk about it. So I won't tell him that I'm socking away money, paying off all my credit cards and cancelling them, opening my own checking account and completely by passing the joint one. Taking his name off the utilities, and one of the cars. Buying new locks for the doors.
So when he does decide to leave, (or I kick him out), I'll still be good.

I'm also highjacking all his dating profiles and changing all the info to the truth. Married, cheating, busted, NOT 47.

Good for you! It's definitely a safe bet to cover all your bases so you don't end up blindsided. I agree with AuthenticLady42 that you have to take the attitude that I love you but I love me more. I'm still debating the part about putting down the skillet though...it's pretty tempting at times. I hope that you find the happiness that you rightly deserve.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this crap...and it is crap. Part of me wants to tell you to do as he is doing but of course that will only leave you feeling more empty. Does he know that you know? If yes what does he have to say about it?

"Crap" is right! At this age we are at now we would believe that they would have grown out of their boyish-selfish ways and finally grow up to be the true honorable man (and woman) in the house. Sometimes when we find out about the disappointments that our supposed life mates bring into our lives, we need to show our hand (in a calm and controlled manner as possible - yes put down the skillet) and clearly let them know the line they've crossed and lay the tolerance boundaries down to make them understand you will not tolerate it and cast them out of your heart and home as they did you. Despite all you need to ask yourself what is it that YOU truly want for your life - to be truly (honestly) happy or absolutely miserable. If it means you need to follow the expression, "I love you, but I love me more" - do what is right for you. God bless.