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I Am His and He Is Mine.

We are committed to one another. My Grandmother use to say "Come hell or high water..."

There is something about being totally committed that makes you do whatever is necessary to make the best of it.

We could grow apart. We could fall out of love. We could fuss and fight, but that stuff just makes you  both miserable so instead (since we are stuck together for better or worse and til death do us part) we make extra efforts to make each other (and thus ourselves) happy.

I am not thrilled with football, but he is, so we watch together and I could grumble or just stay quiet (or even fake it) and he would still love football, but I choose to get into it and enjoy it for all it is worth.

He is not thrilled about antiquing, but he will get all excited to look down all the aisles for an old lamp I want for the bedroom.

Same philosophy for the bedroom, movies we go see, resturants, cruises, and many other "life" issues. God loves a cheerful giver...so does my husband and so do I.

lainee lainee 46-50, F 56 Responses Dec 1, 2007

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This is so true I try to do the same. However, what do you do when your sexual drive is less then his or vice versa? How do you handle this?

When you write all this it makes me very happy. Me and my husband were just like this. Lately things have gone really bad. We keep fighting all the time. I just wish it is restored back to the way it used to be. Life seems so meaningless with his presence. I miss him and I know he also misses me. But most of the time when we are together we end up just fighting...fighting...fighting

It's "H-A-I-L or high water." Not "H-E-L-L or high water." Grandmother was speaking strictly about the weather.

Lovely. Thank you for the reminder!

I remember a marriage counselor relating to me an experience. He said "I had one man say to me"I just don't love her anymore". That made me so angry. Love isn't something you feel. It's what you do. Feelings come and go but real love goes well past these momentary feelings."

You are lucky to be aware of how it works. I went through two unhappy marriages before I married the right woman 38 years ago. Ours is much as yours is but it is more because she knew how this works and taught me (by example).

I hope you have a long and happy marriage.

How long have you been married? .

My wife and I celebrated our 50th anniversary this year. We were friends before we realized that we were in love and decided to get married. I think it is actually the friendship part that held us together. If you don't think you could be friends, you've probably not found the right person to marry.

Very well said. I couldn't agree more.

i find this so encouraging. so powerful. thanks for sharing

I like your post. I have expressed something similar to that to some ladies I have dated. Essentially as has been said, "I want someone to come home to", "I want to belong to someone", "I don't want to work late, I want to get home early". Keep up the good work.

I renenber a marriage counsellor saying one time "Marriage isn't a 50-50 proposition, it's a 100-0 proposition on both sides. Love isn't something you feel because feelings come and go. Love is what you do that reflects itself to others.

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I think I learned this lesson too late in my marriage for it to be salvageable. But i envy this. And I truly believe now that life (and love) is what you make of it.. I was always told growing up.. that love is a decision that you have to consciously make every morning when you wake up. I never understood how true that is until my marriage was past the point of reconciliation. However, I still believe in marriage and being 100% committed to someone. I just hope I can experience (also can contribute) to this type of relationship in my years to come. Thank you for your story. It was lovely.

Blessings to the both of you. Your story is inspiring. I look forward to having what the both of you have someday in future.

Great thought ! Helped me to reconnect with my husband :)

That's really wonderful. I adore my wife but she says that she has fallen out of love with me. I think it's one of the hardest things I have ever had to hear. I would do anything to get that back but I don't know if there is anything I can do. Bless you for having that dedication to keeping it alive between you. I wish you both the very best, forever.

Commitment is a huge thing and its amazing to see people sticking to their commitments not because they HAVE to but because they love to be. I totally respect such relationships wherein one puts all the efforts to make it happen no matter how many differences one has.

Agreed, but there are times when we have stuck to our commitment to each other and we DIDN'T love to be doing it, we just did it because that is what commitment means. So far it has always brought us to a better place together, although not always obvious at the start.

Love your story ... you're so blessed

I bet your blessed too Cindy! Wink....

very nice
add me please

stay strong, and if you are ever sad look up 1 john 1:5 its a really good verse :)

what a great testimony! Thanks for sharing!

A truly lovely story,almost identical to our marriage.Bless you both.,

Now that is a wonderful marriage! I wish mine was like that. God Bless you both!

so beautiful, I am glad that u pretend to watch soccer even though u dont lyk it...it proves how much u luv ur hubby...keep dong it..God Bless you two

What a truly wonderful story! Thank you so much for sharing it with us, you and your husband must truly share a delightful love.

I so wish me and my husband could have what you do. Thank you for sharing.

I agree that God loves a cheerful giver. It's so easy to give to a person who is grateful for what you do. Im living with a family of ingrates.

How I wish my marriage was like the one you've been blessed with.

Beautiful, every Marriage should be like this, & even tho my marriage isn't perfect, we aren't far from it ;)

I definately don't envy you ... I am really happy for you .... I think it's how your raised I really do and your values ...... Men can't be so different <br />
I think it's the values that are imposed on them as a child, some men value their family their wives and some just get up go and start a new one cuz it's easier ....

INSPIRING! Thank you!