She Rocks!

I always hear about the people who have monster-in-laws and can't stand them and don't even want them to come over... but I love my mother in law! She's just so sweet and very smart. Even though she's not as crazy and fun as the rest of her family, she has moments when she's simply hysterical. My husband reminds me so much of her, he took after her studious and smart side. She's really accepted me into her family and I appreciate that a lot and am happy that she considers me like a daughter and thinks I'm a good choice for her only son.
Christabel Christabel
18-21, F
2 Responses Jul 26, 2007

hi chaus<br />
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that's not true<br />
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i have always gone out on a limb to love my mother in law and be as good as i could to her, but she's disliked me for no reason other than the fact that she resents me for taking her only son away. she encourages her daughter (my husband's younger sister) to treat me badly, and recently my sister in law came up to me for no reason and told me that her brother would never have married me if he had even a hint of a backbone<br />
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i have helped her daughter with schoolwork, university essays, and done her tedious editing and proofreading for her (i work as a writer, editor, proofreader, so you can imagine that having to spend several hours doing my sister in law's schoolwork over the weekend is really like a busman's holiday) and also been there to listen to the thousands of complaints and whines my sister in law has about everything and everyone...everyone is screwed up, everything is everyone else's fault, and yet she treats me like ****<br />
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my mother in law has said many hurtful things to me, making fun of my weight (i am about 5'5" and weight about 129 lbs and she says i am fat) in a very subtle and insidious way (until my husband asked her to stop it because it was hurtful) and insulting me whenever she can, whenever her son is not around<br />
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despite all this i have always been a good daughter in law and even go over to the in laws' place up to three, even four times a week whenever they want to see my son (i have friends who only visit once a month, but mine is always at least once a week on average twice or thrice), they do their best to cultivate favouritism with my own son, trying to get him to be closer to them than me, and i still forgive them<br />
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my husband has begged his mother to give me a chance, telling her that i have always wanted a close relationship with her and i love them<br />
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the last time he talked to her, she kept quiet and pretended she couldn't hear him<br />
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after that, she was even more vicious to me<br />
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she smirks, gives me knowing little looks, makes sniffly little comments laced with poison, she told my sister in law that ever since my husband has been with me he has not been a filial son and a good brother, he has changed for the worse, and that he used to be such a lovely son and brother<br />
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my parents, who used to be very loving toward my sister in law (buying her food when they were passing by the in-laws' place, getting her dessert, drinks, fruit, and snacks, my mom even sat down and listened to my sister in law's complaints for almost half an hour once when i was living with my in-laws), were shocked when she did the following:<br />
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1) complain about the food they bought for her<br />
2) not say thank you<br />
3) take food from them and then all but slam the door without a goodbye<br />
4) lie to her mother that my parents are mean to her<br />
5) be very rude to them and act in front of my husband like my parents are so awful she has to avoid them as much as possible<br />
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i have told my parents to just stop trying to be nice to her, now they just smile at her when their paths cross, but they don't talk to her at all<br />
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so you see?<br />
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there can be in laws who are just unaccepting of love and who don't know how to be loved by others

I think some girls don't want to be loved...they don't know how to accept love. That is why there are soo many monster in laws stories. <br />
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It is a question I have raised myself...perhaps they all come from broken homes and are insecure....there are not many bad people in this world...I would hope not...just people unwillingly to accept differences and feel loved. <br />
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I am glad you get along with your MIL. It will make and keep your marriage strong and your husband will love you more for your efforts.