My Son Gives Me The Strength To Go On.

True love is like a tree, start's small then grows bigger, as the time passes. Giving all your love now, will stand in for the times when your child is an adult ,when he might not get love. He might forget your words, never you: but your love will cause him to show love. That is the gift he has learned from you.Dont dwell in the past.Every month send your child a card. He will then have something to keep to remember you, to remind him of his Golden Days with you. My Mother lost a child aged 18 months old and never forgot them. Just as your child will never forget you.

I know sepration is never been an easy decision and the worsr sufferers are the kids. But being a mama's boy i know ur decision will be for the best future for ur son.i am sure he will understand u and will be with u like a pillar of ur existence.

Ahh, the magic and pure love that lies within children is indescribable. Last night my little boy asked me: "Mommy, aren't you daddy's wife anymore?" It broke my heart into a million pieces. You can't explain the reasons for a divorce to such an innocent pure mind. He doesn't comprehend the the meaning of words like divorce. I just hugged him and told him that mommy and daddy loves him more than anything in the world and when i look in his eyes, i know the choice I made to leave was the right one. After everything that was said and done, he still has that childlike innocence on his face and in his eyes and that is something I will fight for to keep as long as I can.

I can tell from your article/posting that you are a wonderful mother that knows it's been tough on your son not having his dad around all the time. I truly commend you for trying to ease his pain in ways little boys understand and not big people terms! Like MagickMama777, when my parents divorced (actually the whole time from 3 years on as they fought a lot) I was thrown into the adult problem world so their problems became my problems. I was an only child and was privy to way too much that I shouldn't have been. I too understand with my adult brain that their problems were theirs, but my child brain was better equipped to not deal with them and it's affected how I view them to this day (love them but too aware of their faults). I think the way you're handling these problems with your son is absolutely wonderful! I hope your ex-husband appreciates you for not demeaning him to his son and recognizing that while he wasn't a good husband, he is a great dad (I'm basing that on your son not wanting him to leave). The way you just adore your son and watch him with awe and wonder melts my heart! It takes a strong woman to do the right thing in a marriage even though in the long run (sometimes short run!), it's the best for everyone. To try to sum this up, I admire you and think you are a wonderful mother!

Awww. What a beautiful and Touching story. Thanks for sharing that experience with us.

Thank you for your comment it means a lot too me.

Recognizing these things sais alot about you as a mother. My parents seperated when I was 8 and I never herd the things your son is hearing. It makes a difference, and you are a good mother. I heard all the problems, and grew to hate my father for all the wrong reasons. As I got older I felt guilty for not looking past those things and seeing him as my father inslead of my mom's ex-husband. We have since grown closer, but I fear we will never have the healthy relationship we deserve. Keep being good to your son and only tell him what he needs to know.