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A Message To All: Stuff Societies Preconceptions About Love

A message to those who are currently feeling the same way I do about a teacher. It's a message to always follow your heart, no matter what anyone says.

Today in Sociology, our teacher was on about whether families are universal, and one definition of families said in it "whom maintain a socially approved relationship". A lot of the class were confused by this, and so the teacher tried to explain.

"If for example, a teacher shacked up with a student. There's no way anyone in society would approve of that. But then again, there's no way that would ever happen, so we'll ignore that."

I completely understand why that's the case. The teacher would lose their job, go to jail, and have their whole life ruined. They have an authority and a responsibility and they would break it by 'shacking up' with a student. But no-one can sit there and say that it would never happen. I know that there would be so many complications, and I know that it's not what would be best. But no-one can say that it's not possible. You can't help who you fall in love with. It's not something you can control. People say that it is, but it's not. Do people think that we asked to feel this way about a teacher? Of course not! Why would we? Why would we want to feel this way about someone that we know we can never be with. With someone who I know will never look at us once. It's stupid to even think that we'd want this, we don't. But it's the way it is.

It seems there'll always be someone who disapproves. They sit their judging how we feel, and saying that it's wrong. Of course, that's all from people who have nothing else to do. They've obviously never been in the situation we're all in. How can they judge when they know nothing about us? It's not for them to decide whether it's right or not, it's how YOU feel, not them. So there may be lots of people who count it as wrong, making it illegal. But they can't stop what we all feel in our hearts. They can't take what's yours-the feelings. And I don't know about you, but my choice is him. So we shouldn't worry about what other people think. People will try and scratch the things that shine brightest. Yes, feeling the way we feel is a huge risk. There's a risk we'll get our hearts broken, and there's also the risk of them finding out and being funny with us after. The stakes are high, and it's a long and bumpy road, but it's all worth it. Because the world stops when they're around, and nothing even matters. Not what people think, not the judgement, none of it.

I'm not even sure if this makes sense, because I've just kind of babbled here. I just wanted to get this off my chest. So yeah.
KissMeBlindly KissMeBlindly 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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Not at all! you have made complete and utter sense and I applaud your articulation of an issues that you, obviously, feel most passionate about.

Yes, society is very,very hypocritcal and at the end of the day once your aren't doing anything illegal of harmful to yourself and others you have to make the bold and sometimes selfish decision to be happy.

If you love somone much older or younger it is a problem.
If you love somone fatter or skinnier it is a problem.
If you love somone of a different race it is a problem.
If you love somone of the same sex it is a problem.
If you love someone of a different religion it is a problem...and on and on and on!

Quite frankly, if we are to take on what everyone else thinks about our love life and deny what WE know to be our truth then a lot of us will end up lonely while they rest of the world goes ahead pretending to be happy but socially accepted or truly happy but judgemental.

Do yourself a favour and live your life in a truthful, happy and respectful manner :)

I am going to be completely honest. I have been in the same boat, but I make an effort to shove it down by acting rather "cold" towards any teacher I develop a small fleet of affection for that's all it is. I also focus not on the teacher but the lessons, getting my school work done. Because you have to realise that as a teenager this term love is too deceptive for our raging hormones. It could just be the teacher is kind and helps us to learn better so we mistake it for love. Wait till your 20 and then ask yourself "did I really love my teacher?" Most likely you'll laugh in 2 or 3 years time. Besides I never believe that I love or crush on a teacher the term is preposterous for me as a teenager to even consider the idea, but I do believe that some teachers affect me emotionally more than others, the same as other people in my life affect me emotionally more than others.

I am going to be completely honest. I have been in the same boat, but I make an effort to shove it down by acting rather "cold" towards any teacher I develop a small fleet of affection for that's all it is. I also focus not on the teacher but the lessons, getting my school work done. Because you have to realise that as a teenager this term love is too deceptive for our raging hormones. It could just be the teacher is kind and helps us to learn better so we mistake it for love. Wait till your 20 and then ask yourself "did I really love my teacher?" Most likely you'll laugh in 2 or 3 years time.

Yeah, I realized it too. Didn't know how I could think it could work, me and my teacher. It was so stupid of me. How I wish it could be we...

I understand why we can't be together, anyway. And it will be complications between our age differences.

But I hope to see him, just to see him makes me happy for many days after.

It's not completly wrong (for me, I could do anything) but ofc the society thinks it's wrong.



He was or still are ofc, 38 I think, and now I'm just falling in love with MEN who's over 30... It's so wrong but I can't help it. It's gonna take long time to get a boyfriend for me...

One day before, I was so depressed because of him... :,( I love him so much

Good luck to you!