*i* Decided To Wait.

I have no doubt in my mind that this man is the elusive "one". And, I know he feels the same way about me. Now, after that being said.. I'm a 25 year old female that was always weary of having a family until I knew it was absolutely right.

We decided to start a family and that it was time about a week before he deployed to Afghanistan. I made the choice to wait until his deployment was finished to begin the whole process (November 2010). I sometimes feel a bit selfish (although I know he understands - I didn't want to go through 7 months of the 9 month pregnancy alone although I know it is done quite often by military spouses)


Now my question is - Was it selfish on my part to want to wait? Should I feel guilty?

jcdaj jcdaj
22-25, F
3 Responses May 8, 2010

I think youre you did the right thing. I'm sure he wants to be a part or that whole process and him being there with you will help make you both feel even closer. And in some cases if you had the baby with out him you might in some way resent him for not being there, not saying that that would be you. But I think you did the right thing for the both of you and not selfish at all:)

I think that each person knows what's right for them. IN this case if that's your gut instinct then I think you're 100% correct!

i dont think it was selfish of you at all! im sure he wants to be with you during this time too. its all apart of having a family together and if he can experience everything with you, then he should be able to. dont feel guilty about it at all... it would be soooo much harder while hes gone and you would miss him that much more. i think you made a really wise decision to wait. a smart decision for you two and the future baby. thats so exciting though to know that he is the one!!