Job Search

My job search isn't the problem. It's that I submitted my resume to a company out of state.

I saw the writing on the wall about 8 months before. I put my resume out on all the job boards ( Monster, Hot Jobs, Dice, etc. ) in Oct 2008. I applied for every job I found that I thought I was qualified for. I also went to the web site of every company in the area that I heard about. Some I read magazine articles about, some were employers of people I knew, some were big names in town. I submitted my resume for 20 or so specific positions. I ended up getting a call from 4 of them. 2 of them were not looking for my skills. I interviewed for the other 2. I didn't get a call back for either one. In Apr 2009 the shoe fell. I was part of a 6000 person layoff. I updated my resume everywhere and hit up every job that sounded close. I had two head hunters looking also. Most of the jobs we found were not looking for my skill set. The headhunters found a couple that might have worked but they were 1 and 1/2 to 2 hours drive each way. I did eventually find a job. It's an entry level position making half what I was and it's still right at an hour drive each way. It was a very disheartening search. Made me feel like I wasn't worth much. I was out of work for 6 months and took a job I had 12 years ago.

With the above in mind... My wife and I went to my home town that is in another state. While there I was talking with my cousin and he said the name of his company. So... I checked them out. They have an office fairly close to where we live but no openings there. They did have an opening in my home state. I created an account, submitted my resume, and selected the opening down there. I figured it would be like countless others and I wouldn't hear anything back. I got an email the next day from their HR saying they would like to submit my resume to the manager for a job down there. I assume it was the same one. So, I talked to my wife about it. That was March 13th. Now my wife is angry at me for making the life changing decision to apply for a job out of state without so much as considering her feelings on the matter. I understand that she considers the initial submission as the point I decided to try to get a job in another state. I didn't see it that way. I don't think I decided to try for the position until after our discussion.

I hate to ask "who's right and who's wrong" but she told me to. We have been arguing about this for 3 days. Any thoughts would be helpful.