My Loving Gestures Don't Count!I'm interested to know what the masses think about my wife's viewpoint of a constant complaint she is bringing up. She is constantly griping about me not showing enough, in the little ways, that I love her. Whenever I try to point out little things that I do do, which usually involves meal preparation or something like that, she will say "well you know I don't really care about _________, show me you love me with something I do appreciate".
I'm sorry, but I think different people show their love in different ways - big and little - and that one should be glad and learn to appreciate the ways the other person TRIES to show it, not taking those for granted and wanting everything to be what you want when you want it.
Every time I cook her eggs specially due to her lactose-intolerant stomach, I do so out of love. Every time I alter my schedule or route because she needs a ride somewhere, I do so out of love. Every time I tend to her needs when she is sick, I do so out of love. Every time I thoughtfully select her favorite things when shopping or buying treats, I do so out of love. Every time I run her to a medical appointment, or get her a presc
I know what she's getting at.... she points out how she will massage my back or shoulders, or comes out to the kitchen and squeezes my ***, or scratches my back, she's doing it just for me. Fact of the matter is I do some of these things, just not as frequently as she might like. I've also talked incessantly to her every day during my entire lunch hour (she wanted it all) for several years, before frequent arguments during calls, and resulting resentment, made me take some time back for myself. We used to do this waving and blowing kisses thing every day from the street (she was in the house) while I would go off to work, kissed her goodbye every day too. I would still do many of these things if she wasn't constantly questioning my love for her or starting arguments daily.
So let me have it..... are my little actions that might not meet a need that she cares about still worthy gestures? Or am I supposed to go on thinking that what I do just doesn't count?