Parent Ego StatePeople who grow up without a parent tend to have an incomplete PARENT EGO state. Unconsciously they are looking for that missing parent in other people--while some may be even put off by anyone who acts paternal towards them. The way to fill in this gap is by programming (the self) with information about parenting to develop appropriate parenting patterns. They can do this by reading books about parenting or observing friends with children. They can also CONSCIOUSLY focus on the needs
of others and try to accomodate those needs in an appropriate manner. It will take time for the PARENT ego state to feel some what--if not whole once again.
(Transactional Analysis TA)