Child Ego State

 Characteristics of the "Natural Child Ego"

1. Affectionate
2. Impulsive
3. Sensuous
4. Uncensored
5. Curious

1. Fearful
2. Self-indulgent
3. Rebellious
4. Aggressive
5. Self--centered

People who primarily function with these characteristics are dangerous because they have little to no conscious when it comes to their actions towards others and they are ALL about themselves. You usually can't reason with them either and they usually lack sympathy and empathy because they are functioning with their unconscious--the CHILD within them. They also usually lie to get what they want and they want what they want, when they want it, and they don't care about what has to happen in order for them to get it. They are the ones who don't take NO for an answer and throw a fit or get extremely angry when things don't go their way. They are also the ones that take risks and are players.

OneVoice36 OneVoice36
36-40, F
2 Responses Dec 21, 2010

It should. I know it helps me ALOT. Also, by reading other people's texts I can tell what part of their personality they are using and if they are using the CHILD ego then I usually don't want to respond back because I know it's only games (usually psychological stroking) and there is no sincerity behind it. One day maybe you will be able to do this as well.

I am so glad that you asked that question because I have the answer. YOU focus on and use the ADULT part of you personality as much as possible.<br />
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The PARENT part of your personality is what you learned from YOUR parents and other adults with authority. When you use your parent personality you are nurting and judicial and you seem to repeat the words that were used on you as a child to others. Example: (Nurturing) "It's cold and it's getting dark, come inside so I can help you get warm." Or (Judicial) "Kids should respect their elders!"<br />
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The ADULT part of your personality is only for reasoning, collecting data, and analyzing. It's the part of you that thinks and asks questions to others as well as yourself.Example" "What are the pro's and con's of getting married?" or "I am a hard worker but I don't think I will ever get the raise, time for a new job."<br />
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The CHILD part of your personality is many things from being affectionate to being self centered and aggressive. Example: "Jennifer doesn't love me or she wouldn't be out tonight!" Or "I am going to play sick tomorrow and not go to work." Or "I want sex!"<br />
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Now the trick is to realize exactly what part of the personality you are thinking with at any given time and make a contract with yourself to try to analyze the situation with your ADULT personality by raising the right questions before you act on them. An example: If you are sensitive to people criticizing you--learn to evaluate criticism. Stop and think "What if that assumption is true?" and "What if it's NOT true?" The same goes for a person who always want to be the center of attention. They can make a contract to share the stage with someone else and if and when they get the strong sensation to step up and take over that stage again--they could think "What do I have to do or say that everyone needs to hear? and "When is enough-enough?"<br />
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By allowing the ADULT to sort the data logically between the PARENT ego and the CHILD ego will you be able to see that:<br />
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The job that you are in is a dead end.<br />
Your spouse or girlfriend is mentally disturbed and not just off in the head.<br />
Beauty has no magic power.<br />
Your ship is never going to come in.<br />
The frog is a frog and not a prince.<br />
Etc.<br />
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You begin to see life more realistically!