What Is A Real Man?Hmm... What is a real man? What is a real woman?
A lot of people seem to think that being a real man or woman means following the cut and dried rules for gender stereotypes. For them, a real man is one who goes out to earn the bread and kill the bears that threaten his family. And a real woman is always pregnant, barefoot and in the kitchen. These notions are (most often propagated by the MGTOW men, whom I find offensive, ignorant, bitter and uncouth to say the least) equally damaging to both men and to women - after all, the man who shoots the bears often comes home drunk, having lost all his money gambling in the local pub, only to take out his rage on his wife, right in front of the children. The woman who is pregnant, barefoot and in the kitchen is (obviously) ill-equipped to teach or play with her existing children and becomes a sad, bitter, practically single mom. To bring back some control in her life, she will nag her husband, only to be beaten up soundly for doing so. And after all, can a man be truly free if he has to come home to a sad, embittered, uneducated woman, who has no control over her life?
For me, a real man is one who, while performing all the traditional masculine roles, has fully integrated the feminine aspect into his personality. He can chop lumber but can also cook up a great dinner. To his children, he can be both father and mother.
A real woman, similarly, is somebody who is essentially feminine, but can take care of herself and her family like a man. She can do great embroidery, and can also trade share certificates. To her kids, she is both mom and dad - she can take them camping (alone if necessary) and can also sing a lullaby.