Soft Swinging Couple
Having grown up in what could most generously be called a "conservative" environment, I think both my wife and I were very sheltered from reality and what goes on in the real world. Comparing ourselves to our immediate neighbors, we were definitely far from mainstream. We had both been married before and were now going into our second marriage. While not unheard of, that was certainly not the norm in our city at that time. We ended up getting involved with Soft Swinging before we even knew what Soft Swinging was.
As I wrote in a previous story listed under a different experience ('The Dream Comes True') we got involved via hot tubbing with some very good friends. Like many others before us, relaxing many evenings in a hot tub with good friends and drinks led to discussions, what-ifs, and finally the much anticipated shedding of suits. Without rehashing all the steps and facts, this led to touching, rubbing, oral pleasures, and a nice long tradition of everything just short of cross penetration. We graduated from activity in the hot tub to similar activities in the recreation room('The Hot Tub'), the cabin ('The Cabin'), the hotel ('The Birthday Present') and variations of swapped partners, and various **********. (The details are all there; go to my profile and them simply read my stories).
We enjoyed the experiences as well as the comfort, trust, and safety of doing all this with people we had known for years, and whom we trusted to never do anything to hurt any of us. It was only when these "more than friends" moved a thousand miles away that things stopped. All this time, we just thought we were different. I didn't know until years later that there were others who enjoyed the same activities, who got great satisfaction from watching others, and watching others with their own spouse. I was surfing the internet one day and found the term "Soft Swinging" and the definition, and found that in certain circles, what we were doing was perfectly normal, and practiced by many others.
Now we are years older, and have all the side effects that come with age. We aren't as ideal looking as we might have once been. We sag in areas we didn't used to sag in. At least one of us has trouble getting the physical engine started and the other has to help out from time to time. We both still look back fondly at the experiences we had, but in discussing it have come up with a long list of reasons why we can't recreate the past.
1. We are too old, only young people do it.
2. We are too fat, only skinny fit people do it.
3. We don't want people to laugh at us.
4. How can you do it with a stranger?
5. How can you trust them?
6. How do you keep it from going too far?
and the list goes on and on.
So, we find ourselves still liking the idea, still wishing we were still doing it, but scared to reach out beyond the present comfort zone, and get back into soft swinging.
Are there any of you out there who can offer some genuine, honest, answers and/or advice for a couple of people who used to really enjoy it, but are a little scared to take the plunge? Any and all responses, comments, and advice are appreciated.