Story Of My Life

i've felt the same way about this woman for 12 years and i am ok when i don't see her I can live my life and enjoy myself but when i see her or even see something that reminds me of her it starts all over again that feeling of depression.

I'm in the same situation as you I guess.

In fact, I've been staying with the object of my unrequited love for 6mths now.

Like you said, when I see him cooking or even just his backview, I feel like hugging him from behind. Sometimes I do though.

Sometimes he would hug me back, sometimes he wouldn't.

It's complicated.

I know he's interested in some other girl right now, and also that he still thinks of his ex, but I still let him touch me and stuff. I feel stupid but I can't help melting in his touch.

Yeah, Mehameha. I know the feeling. Some people just get under your skin and stay there. Kind of like my high school crush. Any time I see or hear about him, I still get this little pang, but I know there's no way we could have ever been together, and I'm finally past wanting that now.



That's awful that circumstances are keeping you away from her, especially when you both want to be with each other. :-(



Thanks, Windy. It is difficult to love, but it's worth it. I'm finally content to just be friends with him now. Rejection helped open my eyes to incompatibilities that I had ignored before. I can safely say now that I'm over him, 10 months later. :-)



Thank you both for your comments.

It is difficult to love, even more to have it not returned. It is torture. Yet, as you say, at least you know how to love. That will have to be enough, for now. One day your eyes will spy another.... if the timing, and circumstances are all right, you will be able to experience it more fully when it is returned. It is never a mistake to feel love, only to give it to someone who cannot return it. Stay friends, secure in that small measure of affection, do not press forward, you may lose what little you have. Your time will come, be patient, wait. You have the how, you just need the who, and the when. Where and why will sort themselves out with time! LOL Make peace in your heart. Love will find its' way.

I can totally relate. It is a bitter sweet feeling. I had my chance in High School, Then ten years later. Then again just last year, with the same woman. It will never happen, but God I wish it would. It's like a bad crush that will never go away. First her with me, then me with her, then both of us just last year but we just can't change our lives with careeres and distances right now so we had to both realize it would never happen in this life. So sad for both of us but There is a reason why it never seems to work between us. Maybe it will be explained at some point.

I'm sorry, des. That's rough. I hope your H stops taking your love for granted. :-/



At least I know it's because he values our friendship and doesn't want to ruin it. I can't hate him for that. He's a great guy. I just wish he was willing to take a chance. I wish he would see that I'm worth the risk. That I'm not his ex.



But it's better than being trapped in the wrong relationship. I don't want his pity. It has to be something he wants, too. If he can't at least give me that, then I'm better off the way things are. There's no use in forcing something that isn't there.

can relate... my whole adult life has been this way.... even with my H. Sometimes I wonder if he ever loved me back. I can honestly say, that I have never felt it back, as good as I give it.

:-/

*big hugs*

It's okay, Lala. I'll live. x



Yeah, I tried, ForeverOnABoat. But he's placed me more or less permanently in the "friend zone."



Oh, well. At least I tried. :-)

Cant u tell this guy how you feel? or Take your relationship a bit further?, try telling him to like him as more than a friend and see where it does from there. Unrequited love is never easy to deal with but you will get over him eventually, good luck with that. x

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