Your First Experience Nursing And Sore Nipples
I am writing again as I am continually being privately asked about certain aspects of ANR. The phone calls I have had with Dana and Lane have given me more inspiration to share my thoughts on certain subjects and will start addressing their concerns so that others male and female can benefit from others successes and challenges. I didn't say failures unless you did not research how to make an ANR work.
I continue to find women who desire having milk and giving it to someone with ANR as an objective. The idea sounds great but many women are ill informed or just haven't done their homework to deal with the initial time they begin their nursing with a man, pumps or a baby. I have had many successful ANR's and all experienced the transitioning of their nipples from being quite sensitive to the riggers of nursing and the adjustment their nipples made to toughen them up. Its a period of time that should be about 2 weeks. Anything can happen from very little soreness to scabbing and bleeding. I do know how to latch properly which can be a major cause, but this is NORMAL. About 35% of women nursing their babies the first time decide it isnt for them. So for those who have never had a baby to nurse and finally meet a guy who shares your desire for ANR, this can happen to you as well. I have been with women who havent nursed in many years and the same thing can happen then as well. I will always preface my first time nursing with someone by advising of all the things they will or possibly experience. However, the mindset is often times driven by what they anticipate about this glorious experience to occur and are totally unprepared for the discomfort that causes them to rethink how beautiful this experience was going to be.
I cant address this problem too lightly as it can affect a marriage as well as the first time encounter with a man who is far from wanting to hurt you in any way. I am not talking about the men who havent done their homework either. I addressed that problem in a past story. You have a partner who is desiring to be a part of your life in a very special emotional way and you both need to be aware how difficult this period of transitioning is to your breasts and nipples. Recently, I met a 58 yo woman who had been on another site for 3 years expressing her desire to meet someone like myself for an ANR. She had not found anyone to have the experience with and after chatting on the phone we decided to meet. As always with any woman I meet, I advised her on everything she would experience initially and for her to make me aware of any discomfort she was experiencing. I also advised that my objective is for her to experience a normal session of nursing not a sexual experience which can take you in the wrong direction for first timers. It does happen and in the this case she was driven to rub herself off while I nursed. Since this was going in a direction I didnt intend I decided to spend less time on the nursing as I felt a normal time for nursing might become painful for her the next day. Despite spending no more than 10 minutes between both breasts, I was advised in her followup email, ANR was not for her and she pulled her membership from the ANR site. How discouraging for someone to have had the desire for 3 years but invested little time in knowing what to expect. She had never had children and never nursed in the past so a brief nursing session did what many mothers have said in the past, "NOT ON MY BREASTS YOU AREN"T. "
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I know there are other women out there besides Lane and Dana that need encouragement and desire ANR. With the right person who will make a commitment to you it is an incredibly beautiful time to share as often as you can. If you would like to chat I will give you the time on the phone to address your concerns.