Mush

*runs to Snowy with popcorn and daquiri... cuddles with her on her sofa... Snowy hits "play" button... Sylph starts her nervous twitching*...

I haven't really watched it again, Snowy... I can't... it took me weeks to get over it... and I'm not really sure I'm over it entirely... *cuddles with Snowy*...



Dean... I didn't mean for the true selves to be gone... the inner we would always be inside us... but it needs to grow, too... and that's what I meant on changes... we grow to become better because the inner we, our spirits are sustained and encouraged... if for example, you paint but are hindered to do so, how then would you know, how would the rest of the world know, if you can become the next Picasso or Van Gogh or Warhol or Monet?

And that is where the problem lies, too... if in the beginning the spirit has already been deprived, how then can it grow and develop... it remains inside... getting ignored and disregarded... it becomes sick... a disease that would spread on the entirety of our being... because it remains just inside...

*holds Dean's chin up*... don't look at my torn wings... they'll be okay...

Youre not weird at all, but I dont quite agree with what you said. Our character changes and grows but who we are, our essence doesnt. That remains true. Its how we try to be something were not to accomodate others that we lose our immortal selves, the spirit. You have to be true to who you are or you become mortal, wither and die.



Hmmm. I think youve written a story about this concept around here somewhere havent you? *Still looking at torn wings* So I believe I see it and understand it.



Ive really got to watch that movie all the way through some day snowbunny. Ive seen the very end of it, thats all.

I adore this movie and have watched it so many times. It's the connection, the fulfilled promises, the love, the heartbreak...all of it combined to make you a big ball of mush Sylph :)



Umm it's Sunday and gloomy outside, I might watch this again!! LOL

Well... do you see one?...



Immortality isn't just about not dying... it also speaks of timelessness and lasting... that in spite of changes in each person, this is welcomed and accepted regardless of time... not bogged down and disregarded just because it wasn't how it used to be... we all change and grow... if this is not nurtured, then we are stuck in a time zone meant for mortals...



I'm weird, no?...

So yo have to look for someone who can see the immortal if he isnt.

Ideally, yes... but not everyone sees it that way when you're in it... mortals they will ever be...

I understand you trult Sylph. It would be nice to be loved and understood for youre individuality even if its not exactly what youre partner enjoys. Shouldnt someone want their partner to have things in life that make them flourish?

Dean... I think what happens in real life is that one person controls the relationship to a point that the other identifies him/herself to the other... I think the controlling person is afraid that once the other one maintains his/her identity, he/she can never be as one, as a couple...

Which is totally ridiculous...

But more often than not... it happens... *sighs*...



Mick... I have yet to read the book... can you believe that Sylph is still building the courage to do so? I promised Glowy we would read it together...

Maybe in ten... twenty... years...

I will be honest and say that I had to stop the movie several times...so I could see what was happening, dry the eyes......reached the end of the movie just lost it.....totally....thankfully I was alone. I am reading the book now...and have to do it it bits...so beautiful in places, so sad in others...and then the page becomes blurry.....

Ive never seen this movie Sylph, well all of iit. But thats what any one who loves another should do. Give them the things that will make them soar. Its an investment that pays dividends in any relationship. Its sad that its rarely attainable in real life.

Oh for sure, Glowy! Wouldn't have it any other way... just coming out with a big bang... the only way to do it... give everybody heck for not getting us... *shakes head*...



I like you, too! *high five*... and bring your guitar... we can sing songs while we cry... or I can teach you how to use the guitar to whack people... *looks around*...

Ooh detonation...



*big grin*



I like you! Because a slow meltdown into the abyss would just be painful to watch. Let's have a spectacular explosion.

Good luck with that, Michelle... I am right now, along with Glowy... very, very unstable... the detonation can be catastrophic!...

Thanks, Glowy... I was probably too busy bawling to hear the commentaries... You even looked it up... you're a sweetie... *hugs*...



Okay... we'll read it together... give me time though... I haven't gotten over the movie yet... and yes, I, too am staring at the darn book on the shelf... it haunts me from time to time... argh!...

The book will make you cry. If you want someone to read it with, I'll read it with you! I have been looking at it on my shelf for a while now. But avoiding it because of the unhappiness in my own life. It will make me cry too. A lot. Like, have-to-put-the-book-down-for-a-little-while-so-I-can-see-to-read-again cry.



Oh, and to clarify...I was pretty sure I read in the liner notes for the book about who it was based on. But I haven't read the book in maybe ten years. So..I went to his website. And I quote:



The Notebook was inspired by my wife's grandparents, two wonderful people who spent over 60 years together.



Here is the link to the whole background story of the book, in case you want to look. :-)

http://www.nicholassparks.com/LearnMore.asp?BookID=1

Now I am really scared reading the book... give me some time, LV... I will get there... when all these mush clears up... Question is... will it ever clear up???

I cried as well,



both while reading the book and watching the movie

Hi Glow... I have to find the courage to read the book. I got it already, last week with the mail. Yeah, I ordered it, in spite... I know I would be reading it eventually. The question is when.



Was it his grandparents? I tried watching the commentaries from the DVD, and while it was based on an old couple, I am not certain if they were his grandparents; but just an old couple who told their story to him and who lives in the South. Don't quote me though. During this part, I could not stop crying. Everything was turning into mush...

Now this is where I get to be a nerd...The Notebook was based on a true story. I forget if it was Nicholas Sparks' own grandparents or his wife's. The book is way better than the movie.



The bits about connection...and being willing to risk everything for that safety she felt with him. It's scary to leave behind something familiar even when we're not happy with it. It's comfortable. But wow...and so now I have to go re-read that book.

Sighs... *hugs Michelle back*... thank you... truly...

Yes, Michelle... I'm taking baby steps... unless someone pushes me here and I will fall flat on my face again.......... *takes a swig of Smirnoff*..... ahhhh...

The help is very much appreciated. But this would take a looooong time to get fixed. The faerie wings need mending and well, she hasn't found the proper medication for them... been looking for that right band aid... it evades her most of the time...



Drink? and stiff?? LOL... *Sylph whacks forehead*... I will just have Smirnoff, Michelle. Maybe Mick wants some...

{Hugs} girl....if someone else can be helped and learn from my mistakes, then I am only too happy to share.



Thank you Chelle. I'm glad I have friends like you and huibby.

I could do with a stiff drink too...and not the type you're thinking of Chelle...

Ooohhh... *Sylph runs to Mick for a hug*... thank you for giving the time to write these... best wishes to you, too...

Sylph, the middle path is where your reconnect to stay together. You can go and follow your own path, but need to go back often to that middle ground where you can stay connected....you don't have to stay there in the middle ground if you're not happy there...or he isn't.... and even though I don't know your man, in my opinion his hard and uncompromising stance are not good ingredients for a successful partnership that marriage is supposed to be.....and the fact that you can't share what happened on you path scares me. If it were me, I'd want you to share even though I may not agree.

Compromise is essential wich means it is a bothway street..........my bests wishes to you girl

Mick... I dare say I am more shocked now after knowing you had 29 years. Mine now seems a fraction. A middle path, you say? Sounds promising... the problem is agreeing to stick to the middle path. And I know what you say about drifting apart... we tend to be like that lately... only because I keep insisting walking my path... but then I can not even share what happened on the path, what I saw, what made me laugh, what scared me... I can not share because he does not like that path to begin with................ thank you for your words... *hugs*...

Buit you always cry in the sad bits Chelle. I watched the Notebook too and it affected me.



I'm sorry Sylph that it wasn't a path side by side. I have learnt a lesson the hard way that sometimes the solo path can be just as destructive as my wife and I parted after 29 years together. There always needs to be a middle path where we can meet to stay connected otherwise we drift apart off on our own paths....

I don't even need a blender for my brains... the mind is just a mush...



I think this needs Smirnoff... what do you think???

Snowbunny... Snow... thank you for your words... *hugs*... I only watched it once... I need to give myself time to recover from the mush in my brain before I can watch it again. It simply touched a nerve and... I can only sigh right now...

I absolutely adored this movie! I have seen it at least 3 times, and cried every time. The connection they felt, the love that always drew them back together. This is a great example of letting your love be the person they are and loving them through all of times, good and bad!