When My Daughter Died

When my 47 year old daughter died two years ago, a friend sent me this poem, it was a great comfort to me and I thought I would share it.

If tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things, we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind;
All those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for, So much left yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for a while,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said, "This is eternity, And all I've promised you."
Today your life on earth is past,
But here life starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow, But today will always last,
And since each day's the same way,
There's no longing for the past.
You have been so faithful, So trusting and so true.
Though there were times you did some things,
You knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven, And now at last you're free.
So won't you come and take my hand, And share my life with me?
So when tomorrow starts without me, Don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me, I'm right here, in your heart.


mahler mahler
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84 Responses May 10, 2008

My daughter died in a car accident last week she was 25 years old....this is all I can type at this point....she was my baby

Sure was

My daughter, Candace, passed 4/09/10. I belong to a grief sight, "Loss of a child". On my p.c. I have a picture of Candace and a poem very similiar to this, this is longer, starts and ends the same though. inb

Candace's birthday is February 11. She would've turned 35 yrs old. They have 3 little girls. They were 8, 7 and 2 when she left. The years go by, the pain is a bit less, just a bit mind you. The emptyness will forever remain. 2/03/15

Thanks for sharing this poem. Its very hard for me to read through it without crying because, this is the same age my twin sister was when she passed away. I miss her dearly, and if she was here, we would be turning 50 together on October 29th. Everything said in this poem was exactly true to her. My angel is in heaven. Thea Smith

I lost my daughter in September of 2002. When I'm feeling my worst, she is the only person I think of. I have 2 beautiful boys and so much to live for, but I always feel like it's incomplete without her. I don't have a lot of faith. I miss her terribly.

I just lost my 15 year old after a 3 year long battle with leukemia. It has been 4 days and this poem really touched my heart. Thank you so much for sharing this.

I just lost my 1 year old daughter on the 30th of may 2014. 20 days after she turned 1 this poem made me feel better but nothing will take the hole away thats forever in my heart

I lost my 3 year old Daughter Mia on 11/04/14 and this poem has brought me a lot of comfort thank you god bless to u all ♡♡♡

I lost my daughter Shannon 42, unexpectedly died, Monday April 28th. I have been moving in a fog trying to make funeral arrangements, fighting through the tears and grief, finding this poem has lightened my heart. Reading other comments from families who have gone through similar times of sorrow gives me faith just knowing that you are not alone and sharing these feelings is a blessing to us all.


This is beautiful. Just the right words to share with my grieving Uncle who lost his daughter. Thank you for sharing.

this is so inspiring, i lost my beautiful daughter a year and a half ago, she was only 36....tomorrow is her birthday, i needed this poem to comfort me....thanks for posting it...

I lost my 18 year old daughter on 29.11.2013. She is my first child. She was so beautiful, brave, intelligent strong and very independant. She was due to start medical school this year. she suddenly got sick and after 6 weeks she passed. i miss her dearly and the pain in my heart is so heavy. i feel like i can't breathe at times and i just want to scream and bury myself in a hole but i have two other children who needs me so i have to stay strong for them. i read this poem in the book "Proof of heaven" written by a neurologist. it is truly beautiful. i am now reading all these stories of people who have lost a young child and my heart goes out to you all. I share your pain and trust that God know's best.

beautiful poem I think poetry is a good way for us to express our pain. I am member on a group on facebook which helps me a lot mums and dads of angels its called. I get good support. I am so sorry for everyones loss here it has brought tears reading your sadness
bless you all

oh wow...now this seems so real as to how her leaving and entering into heaven would be...I cried reading this but I am so happy you sent it to me because I see a way her entering Heaven could have happened...I can imagine this.....love you Becky

I just lost my daughter October 21,2013 when I read this I couldn't help but cry amazing it is beautiful and the one writing the song I would to hear it.

Please permit me to use some of your lines for the lyrics of my song titled 'my daughter's tears'. Would be grateful cause it's a touching poem.

My beautiful daughter Aly passed away October 4th, 2013 at the age of 22. This poem was so comforting to find, I don't even have the words. Like the poem I pray every day and night that she knew she was loved. Myself and her sisters and brother will love her till the day we die, we miss her so much. Thank you for sharing this poem, I think I will type it up and frame it. Thank you again.

its a buetiful poem i lost my daughter to

My daughter and grandchildren were in a horrific car accident August 25, 2013 My granddaughter was killed instantly and my daughter passed away from her injuries on September 1st. My grandson is still in ICU with multiple injuries and possibly will have disabilities. My faith is strong! Thank you Jesus! But I wanted to say what a beautiful poem. Look to the Lord. Read the book "Heaven is for Real" Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. "

Thank you so much for this beautiful poem our daughter died 25th April 2010 she was 46 she was not just my daughter she was my best friend I loved her so much I cry for her everyday she left us 3 lovely grandchildren which has been a comfort to us and now she as a beautiful granddaughter of her own I so wish she could be here to see her. The poem as given us all a lot of comfort because it sounds just like her speaking thankyou

I am 74 years old and my daughter was 47 when she died February 23, 2013. I am hurting so much. I put into search that my daughter passed away and found your poem. Thank you for sharing. It is so appropriate.

that was so beautiful my blessed daughter leftus july 5 th will be two years we loved her more than words can say and miss her so much we still cry when we talk about her my precious precious daughter im 77 yrs old she was 46 when she left us i pray we ll meet agaain some day in heaven. thank you for this beautiful poem

Thank U so much for writing this poem. It will help my daughter very much.

This is a beautiful poem thanks for sharing it too

The 7th anniversary of my youngest daughter, then age 47, has just passed. I thank the person that originally sent this poem to me, so many of you have read it and it has brought some comfort to you all. It has drawn so many of us together and given us an opportunity to write down our feelings. It is so hard when a child of ours departs before we do, but I am sure that when our time comes they will be there waiting for us with a loving welcome. May God bless you all and help you in your grief. xx

This is a touching heart poem it says that we should love everyone before they past. I loved this poem because of my brother in law he pased for a bad dieases when he was feeling a pain i would relize that the life past some in some time so i most belive in life as adestiny

I lost my daughter Vanessa who had just turned 25 a couple of weeks before she passed away. She was killed in a sense less car crash. Not a day goes by I don't think of my daughter and miss her every moment of everyday. She has so many who love her so very much and miss her very much. I have never known such love and such loss in my years. Your poem touches my heart from the beginning to the very end. Thank you all for for sharing what is most definitely the most painful part of all our lives. May God watch over our sweet children and each of you.

I lost my only child at the age of 18 her name is Alexisjade <3
She passed 6/12/05 i was alone when i found her,that image is cemented in my mind. I miss her every second. I was a single parent i had her 6 days b4 my 19th birthday.We went 2 concerts did each other hair went 2 tha movies ... everything :'( she was n always will be my best friend.I find it harder 2 deal with as time goes on.All her friends n cousin are havin babies, goin 2 school n just straight up livin she should be here she had her whole life ahead of her.She did great in school , had a job n lots of friends... a very beautiful girl both inside n out.. she was caring n funny , helpful n smart n alot of fun 2 be around.Imiss her n look forward 2 that 1 sweet day that we reunite.She is my life and afterlife <3 2/8/87-6/12/05 <3

I\'m so sorry for your loss....I too lost my only child, my 19yo daughter who I gave birth to when I was only 19. Your story really touched me because its so similar to mine. I know everyone feels a different sense of loss....I believe in the case of you and I, we lost someone who was a child, a best-friend &amp; someone we \'grew up with\' essentially and NO ONE can ever replace THAT bond. 2moro will be 5years without her (she passed away on 8/18/08) and I still haven\'t went to bed ONE NIGHT without crying myself to sleep. When a mother buries a child, it leaves a whole in her soul that NOTHING can ever fill. God bless &amp; please know you are NOT ALONE. -Valeri

My Husband & I lost our Daughter she was only 18 & We also lost her very Best Friend in world they were like glue who I also called My Daughter & Loved hearing her come in my door looking at me with her sweet face & Hugs & hearing her say Hey Mama how are you doing today :o) She came to pick up my Daughter Brittany to took her shopping for new work shoes for my Daughters new Job that she started 10am the next morning. I know something didn't feel right when Britt walked out that door her & Candace always came back in the house to tell me bye & they loved me & see me later. Brittany got out the shower got dressed walked by me at the sink where I was cleaning & walked out the door, well I said to myself she is walking to her Nanny's house who lives right in front of us & when Candace get here they will come in to let me know they were going now. Well that never happen & if they didn't have time to walk in & tell me Britt would always send me a text saying Bye Momma love you see you later!!!! that also never happen. Well her & Candace went back to Candace's house as we know & both had went to sleep looking at a movie when Candace got a call from one of her friend needed a ride cause they had been drinking. Candace & Brittany got up to get that friend safely home but never made it Sept 3 2011 Candace's car went off the highway hitting a tree at 50mph in a 55 & Candace passed on the shot my Daughter passed 9 days later never too open her eyes again & went to be with her Best Friend on Sept 12 2011 at 7:31am. The person that got them up walked away & they passed saving him who has told friends time & time again when he was drinking a lot the he is why my girls are know longer with us because he pull the wheel & if he did so I can rest & my girls too would just let us know & help us from the pain from not knowing. My Daughter not only left me she had a 15mths old sweet baby boy who I have with me & always lived in this home with his His Sweet Mother Grandma & Dad, & his mama Sisters & brothers. It will be 15mths come Dec 12 2012 & I have dropped so much & now sickly at 42 not knowing what really happen to my girl & a Mother taking from her baby boy & Family the day before her sisters baby girl my Grandbaby 1st Birthday Sept 13 2011. I need some closer soon.

So many of you have had such sad losses, and my heart goes out to you all, I am so pleased however that you have all come across this poem, it was sent to me and I found comfort in it too. At least it makes each one of us feel that we are not alone. God Bless you all xx

I lost my 23 year old daughter on July 16, 2012 and tomorrow would have been her 24th birthday, she left behind a 3 year old son. I have read this poem many times and if my daughter could talk to me one last time I believe this is what she would say! Thanks for sharing!

when I lost my daughter I was so sad because i did,nt get to say i the things I needed to say to her,but after i read your poem the words were there and it touch my heart so much,I can,nt stop reading it,and it make me fell so much better now, thank you for that poem.my daughter was 54 yrs old.(doris)

I lost my daughter on October 18th 2012 she had lung cancer and was 43 yrs old, , I read this poem over and over again it upsets me but it does make sense and I take comfort from it thank you for sharing it . (Ann)

When I lost my daughter I felt that I was the only one! But reading how many of you have been through the same awful experience is so sad, but I am so happy that this poem has brought comfort to so many of you. I know that our children have gone through that door to which we have not yet got the key, and that they will be reunited with us one day. They are still around us and want us to be happy. Remember that God gave us tears to wash away the pain.

That poem touch my HEART!!! I lost my 4 year old daughter from Childhood Cancer July 11, 2012. It's been hard the past few months. I always wonder if she was here would things have been different!? But I know she is in a better place... She is with GOD and this poem is so GREAT it helps me heal my heart. It brings tears to my eyes just reading the first few lines but I still read the whole poem and I am glad I did. THANK YOU FOR THIS GREAT POEM. MAY GOD BLESS YOUR HEART!!!

So beautiful and so true thank you

Wow...beautiful poem...Its been 5 years when I lost my oldest daughter, Cynthia was only 23 when she left. Leaving behind 4 wonderful children. Then..I lost my youngest daughter Alyssa she was only 19. She left us 3 years ago. The pain is overwhelming...I always wonder why??? This poem is very heartwarming it brang tears and I broke down...I reread it and this is what my girls would of said...thank you. God Bless You All...

So sorry to hear about your daughter, mine left 4 children too. Anniversaries are the worst aren't they, they bring all the memories back.

we lost our daughter 4 yrs ago oct 3rd..She died of a drug over dose..I know she didnt mean to leave us.. Our daughter Brandi left us with 4 beauitful children, we miss her so much, not a day goes by we dont think of her, ty for the poem made me cry but I know some day we will hugs again..

When we lose a loved one, it is natural that we grieve, but time does take the edge off of our feelings, we do not forget them and God gve us tears to wash away the pain. When my daughter died I knew that she would not want to see me in everlasting pain, and she gave me lots of happy memories. I know that she is still with me in spirit, that we will meet again when the time comes, our golden thread of love will never be broken. My thoughts and sympathies are with you all.

Oh my goodness, I lost my beautiful daughter on july 23, 2012. This poem is beautiful. I just wish someone could tell me how to stop the hurt. She was 37, and had so much to live for. I guess she didnt think she did. I keep looking for something, somewhere, some words, anything to ease my heart, but I just cant find any.

i lost my beautiful daughter two and a half years ago,the pain wont go i loved her so much,she sufferd all her life..now she is gone,she loved me more than anyone has ever loved me.she was only 41.yhis poem is lovely,i can hear her saying these words ..mum.

i love this poem, it such relief.. i lost my one and only daughter just this april, she was only 1 and a half year old... she died in blood cancer.. i love her so much and i am still having a hard time to accept it... she was my only child, my first child.. i dont understand why things like this happen to me, or for those who lost their loved ones... i cant imagine my self how i get through everyday knowing from time to time i am longing for her... and when i pray i told God just to listen to my heart, cuz words are not enough to describe how i truly feel... hope for all of us can get through with it, and may God bless us, give us strenght to overcome... and Give us hope for everyday.

The years speed by don't they Myrtle, but our loved ones are still here with us in our hearts. I am glad the poem helped, I was grateful when someone sent it to me. xx

Thank you to all for sharing. I lost my 23 year old daughter a year ago on the 18th June, she had diabetes and died as a result of really high blood sugar. It has been such a sad time and the pain of loosing a child and beautiful daughter cannot be described. I was looking for some lovely words to post on her Facebook page and this is just right. Thank you Mahler.

I am so glad that the poem was sent to me, it has helped so many people. To lose a young child is so hard, I lost a son at 7 years old so share your grief. God Bless you all.

Thank you for this beautiful poem. My wife and I lost our beautiful son 14 months ago. We miss him dearly and we appreciate the reminders that he is where we ll hope to be some day and when we see him again it will be forever. Thanks you so very muck. God Bless.

Today makes the 30th day that my daughter passed away. She was only 12 days old. This poem made me start crying within the first few lines. I havent had a chance to properly greive, becuz my work only gave me 5 days off. It has been so hard faking it around my other kids and girlfriend/mother of 2nd daughter, becuz I have had to be strong for everyone. Thank you for the poem.

When I first read the poem after my daughter died, it moved me to tears but comforted me as well, I am so glad that I shared it with you all, it seems to have brought comfort to a lot of bereaved people. I also feel that our dear departed ones would not be happy to see us feeling so sad, I know that we will all meet again. when the time comes. God Bless you all.

Thank you Mahler for the beautiful poem. I read all of the comments from the bereaved parents and I was so moved. I lost my dear sister just over a year ago and not a day goes by i do not think about her, My poor mum is also heartbroken and I thought I would show her the poem, it might bring her some comfort.<br />
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God bless you all

Thank you for your beautiful poem. I will show my mum a copy of it, as we lost my sister just over a year ago and she may find some comfort in it.Words can be such a powerful emotion and reading your poem moved me to tears. I know that there comes a time when life ends but we are never really ready for it are we. The pain of losing a loved one is so physical. Your heart actually aches.<br />
God bless all you people who have lost a loved one

Dear Myrtle, I know exactly how you feel, it is my daughter's 6th anniversary on the 30th of this month. The years go by so quickly but we take comfort in knowing that we will meet our loved ones again, in the meantime we have our memories. God Bless you.

Sorry to hear about your daughter. My heart goes out to you. I lost my daughter 10 yrs. ago today. She was 20 and now she would of been 30. It is the hardest thing to go through. God has seen me through. One day we will get to see our beautiful daughters. I love your poem. It sounded just like what she would say. God Bless! Thanks for the beautiful poem you shared.

Sorry to hear about your daughter. My heart goes out to you. I lost my daughter 10 yrs. ago today. She was 20 and now she would of been 30. It is the hardest thing to go through. God has seen me through. One day we will get to see our beautiful daughters. I love your poem. It sounded just like what she would say. God Bless! Thanks for the beautiful poem you shared.

My heartfelt thoughts go out to you, to lose your daughter at such a young age, in such a terrible way is heartbreaking. To lose a loved one through illness or natural causes is bad enough, but by murder, I just do not know how you come to terms with that. I hope that the person responsible has been caught. It is said that time heals, you do not believe that now but I can assure you that it does eventually, you do have memories of happy times with her and part of her is in her two lovely daughters. There are many stages of grief and we all have to go through them. Although your daughter is no longer with you I am so very sure that she is still near you and would not want to see you all in such pain. You have to keep strong for her childrens' sake, take care of yourself and help each other. Bless you.

I had just lost my daughter in the hands of a muder he had killed her and then wricked her in a truck to make it lok like that was the cause of her death she has two beautiful daughters and she was only 24 years old i miss her so much that it is killing me and her babys she died July 31 2011 @ 4.30 pm

I had just lost my daughter in the hands of a muder he had killed her and then wricked her in a truck to make it lok like that was the cause of her death she has two beautiful daughters and she was only 24 years old i miss her so much that it is killing me and her babys she died July 31 2011 @ 4.30 pm

My 18 year old daughter passed away peacfully in her sleep , as a result of diabetes.<br />
This poem touched my heart so deeply that i used it as an ex<x>pression of love and encouragment to all her family and friends on the day of her 19th birhtday which was exactly 4 months to the day she passed away, i am a writer and have written many poems, but i was so distraught i was grateful to find such beautiful words...i am so sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing.

So glad it helps you, I remember how I felt when I first received it.

I lost my dad to cancer some year's back but never a day pass's that I dont miss him. But your poem help's to remind me that I know where dad is and that he is waiting for the rest of the family to join him. Thank You for posting this. My Best.

So sorry to hear of your loss, that must have been the hardest thing to cope with. I am glad that the poem helped a bit.

My precious daughter stacey took her own life october 23rd 2010 been having such a tough time your poem truly helps thank you so much.......

So sorry to hear about your daughter, she will always be in your heart thus will never leave you, that golden thread of love can never be broken.

oh miss louise this bring tears to my eyes because as i was readying it it started to sound like tammy was telling me the things i was readying i really like that poem i think of her everyday thats my way of keeping her alive in my hearts R.I.P tammy i will see u again someday ur at peace loving it love u from me to u

I am so sorry to hear of your loss Becky, and I fully understand how you must be feeling. I am glad that the poem has helped in a small way, it seems to have touched the hearts of so many. My thoughts are with you.

My daughter died last week. She was only 21 and this poem helps thank you.

I often read the poem and it always brings tears to my eyes, but is a comfort too, I am so glad that it has helped all of you who have lost your children and I know how you feel. But life has to go on and we all have our memories to help us get through the hard times. Our children are still with us, they have just gone through the door to which we have not yet got the key, we will meet them when the time comes.

What a beautiful poem... I lost my daughter aged 28yrs old , and the words say it all, its isn't easy far from it but I live with the comfort that I will see my daughter again one day....xxx

Dear zo, I am so sorry to hear about little Laura Ashley, she knows of your love for her and she will never leave you. It is not long since you lost her and your grief is still so fresh, but take comfort from the fact that she is now out of pain and would be happy to see a smile on your face as you remember her with all of your love. One day, when the time is ripe, you will be together again. God Bless you both xx

My daughter Laura Ashley passed away on August 24th, 2010, after a long battle of an autoimmune disease which of as of today still don't know much about it. It has been a tough time for me. I only hope an pray that she is happy now. Everyday I wake up thinking of her and missing her so much. As I read the poem it bought tears to my eyes because I know that eventually I will get to see her. I love you Laura and never forget that..

I am so sorry to hear your sad news, and can feel your pain. We never expect our children to go before us, but it happens, all part of a plan that we can never understand. People will tell you that time heals, that is true but it does not help how you and your family are feeling at the moment.<br />
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I am at a loss as to what to say to help you, I can only wish you all strength to get through this tragic time. One thing I am so sure of is this, your little daughter will always be around you, that golden thread of love will never be broken and she will not want you to be sad for too long. In your quiet moments speak to her, I know she will hear you. I gained comfort in this way., my daughter was a great practical joker and silly things still keep happening here and I know that Liz is still around! God Bless you and keep you strong xx

Thank you so much Mahler, My daughter was hit by a car and passed away on the spot on the 18th of February this year.. she was to turn six the following day and was coming home from school. It has been very hard for me and family and this poem talks direct to our hearts, may God bless you.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter Destin, I know how you feel. I have just re-read the poem and it, once again, brought tears to my eyes. It will be five years in January since my daughter died, but I know without a doubt, that she is still near me, and her five children.<br />
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On 22nd December my first great granddaughter will be one year old. My granddaughter was so sure she was expecting a boy, but one night she had a dream, Her mother, Liz, was standing on the other side of a field of poppies (one of her favourite flowers), and was calling out POPPY, her name is Poppy. Sure enough, on the 22nd a baby girl was born and guess what, she is named Poppy! Now let anyone tell me that my daughter is still not around and is looking over us.

My daughter, Destin, died two months ago from injuries sustained in a car accident. I called my mom this morning and through tears, read this poem to her; how beautiful.....I plan to share it with a host of family and friends who did see the tomorrow that started without our Des. Her niece had a dream the night she died where she saw her Aunt Destin lying in the grass (which she was) with a huge, bright light illuminating her from above; her eyes closed as if asleep with 'a really big smile'. I know only that I am not afraid of dying anymore. Thank you so much!

This is beautiful, I shared it with a Facebook friend who just lost her 4 yr old daughter in a drowning accident, hope it will comfort her! thanks for sharing.

Its been awhile since you posted this poem. I felt a need to reach out. My daughter was taken from me 5 years ago. I miss her so. How do you deal. I still hurt so much! I want to go with her.

Thank you for sharing. You are truly special!

A treasure mahler, as are you. It was lovely..SOB! you always hit the nail on the head.

it was wonderful-thank you again .

I am glad you like the poem, I still read it now and again and also have passed it on a few times lately.

Thank you for sharing this .

I'm soo sorry to hear about the death of your daughter and I hope she rests in peace. You're a wonderful person to share your knowledge of poetry with others around the world. <br />
That poem definitely hit the spot for me, too when my dad died in 2000 of lung cancer. I haven't found the ways to grieve properly because I'm still grieving. Again, thanks for sharing!

Thank you Mahler....as you know, my husband died 3 and a half years ago.....this definitely hits the spot.

I know it's been awhile but I just lost my little girl about 2-3 months ago &amp; this is true even though it still hurts.