I Dont Know What To Do Anymore

im 17 years old and lateley iv been feeling so rejected by my family and friends. my parents dont let me leave the house at all! they dont trust me and i blame it all on my sister becuase she got pregnant at 17. i also have a younger brother (16) who they let do anything (drink,smoke,LEAVE THE HOUSE!) i dont understand why there like this to me there trying to keep me away from my bestfriend for no reason. and it seems like every move i make they can think of a "reason" for it to be wrong. i have been wanting to move out but im not usre if i can i know moving out at 17 isnt a very good idea but i just cant take being her anymore . i finished school a whole year early and i though my parents would have been super proud of me but nope! my sister graduated a year late and they were like so proud of her. it bothered me so much. my parents and i argue for mostly everything. iv been hospitalized before becuase of my anger issuse and there they told me that i had ADHD. and i was bipolar but what teen ager isnt. i dont kno what to do anymore. i can honestly and truely say that i have my life.
Kim072 Kim072
18-21
2 Responses Aug 4, 2010

Hey Kim,<br />
I'm no therapist and I'm not going to say who is right or wrong. Nor am I going to give you a bunch of pep talk.<br />
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You are justified in your feelings. You want some freedom and some appreciation. That's cool, everyone needs that.<br />
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I'm going to give you practical advice on how to get that. It will take effort on your part since your parents are not reading this.<br />
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First thing is not to assign blame. If you do that it continues the cycle you are in. So when you talk to your parents don't say "Yes, but you..." they will feel attacked and make things worse for you.<br />
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Second, keep your anger in check. Stay calm. Easier said than done, I know. When you are calm so are they. If you start yelling they will tune you out and hear nothing you say. They just see a 17 year old screaming and they want it to stop.<br />
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You need to calmly tell your parents exactly what you said here. They think they are saving you from mistakes of your sister. They may feel justified in the lockdown based off what they see in your behavior. Right or wrong it is their perception.<br />
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Ask them calmly, so you get a thought out answer "why don't you trust me? I graduate early, I didn't get pregnant, I don't drink. I didn't even get a 'great job' from you. What did I do or am I doing to deserve this?" then let them think. Remember to stay calm. Tell them if you have to "I'm trying to stay calm, I want to know exactly."<br />
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This may not solve your problem like in an hour. They may want to see some kind of action from you. But even if limited freedom comes with a gesture on your part, it's better than no freedom at all. Right?<br />
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It could be they, not saying it is, don't know how hard they are being on you.<br />
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Go for a small win right now. Stay calm, tell your parents as genuinely as possible, what you wrote here. Then ask why they don't trust you.<br />
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Hope that helps.

You don't have a life at home so it is time to plan your future. Please don't set your plan in anger, but start with getting money, like work from home, hello internet job. Find a organization, weekly workout, or friend that is active and join. <br />
The only reason legal age of adult is 18, is because of labor laws, but starting nothing today mean you get nothing when you are 18.<br />
Good luck on your very own life.