How Wonderful to See

It truly is an anomaly in a world such as ours these days to see a truly happy couple...divorce seems more common than having a dog.

But to see an older couple holding hands...showering each other with kindness and affection just melts me. I believe it gives us hope that marriage can be good. Perhaps it is possible to survive the struggles of young love, child rearing, work and everyday stress....then come home to the one that is connected to your heart and soul and have nothing but love for them. Go to bed glad to have them next to you and wake with that same unconditional love.

For those of us who didn't get it right the first time I have confidence  in seeing love between men and women in their older years. I hope that one day I will marry the one I was made for and when I am old and gray inspire the younger generations in love.

Wish me luck.....

MegJgeM MegJgeM
36-40, F
60 Responses Dec 8, 2008

when I was a child I saw this elderly couple all dressed up and fancy the man was in his late 70's the woman was close in age and I asked them why they were dressed so fancy and the woman held her husband's hand and he smiled and said they were going out for their 50th wedding anniversary . it was so beautiful to see that kind,of love especially since I witnessed the traumatic divorce between my parents

It's true my wife and I still do it with love and affection

I saw a old couple holding hands today. One of the prettiest thing ever


It absolutely can happen! My partner/fiance and I both spent long periods in unfulfilling marriages (15 years for me, 22 for her), and finally each of us left - coincidentally at the same time. I moved to a different city, with the full intent of living an active dating life and having all the experiences that I'd been missing in my marriage. Funny how things work out - I met "L" within two months, and in three we were hot and heavy.

Five years later, I still feel like I'm on a honeymoon - neither of us can believe how happy we are. We've just bought a beautiful house together, and are getting married later this year. We're really looking forward to growing old together (well, except for the getting old part!). We're in our fifties, and fell like we finally got it right.

The thing is, we've noticed that several of our friends are in the same situation - second marriages, not young people anymore, and blissfully happy. Perhaps it's understanding better what really matters *to you* in a relationship, especially long-term. Also, I know that I'm a better partner now than I was before, too.

You'll do fine!

when i was dating my wife 30+ years ago i found it hard to commit.
my parents were never demonstrative when it came to showing love to each other.
in fact they seemed to be fighting with each other more often than not.
so naturally i was more than hesitant about settling down myself.
then my best buddy at the time invited me and martina to his parents wedding aniversary celebration.
they were an elderly couple both in their 60s still so so close and loving to each other.
i was blown away that a couple could be like that with each other after all those years together.
from then on i knew i could have the same as them and not what i seen with my parents.
and thankfully over all we have been very happy together for 33+ years.
life is what you make it, so make it a good one.

I see this story was written quite some time ago. I just wanted to tell you that I am one of those that did get it wrong the first time around. But I am now married to the one that God put on this earth to grow old together with. We are on our ninth year of marriage and still love to hold hands, go places together, and cuddle up when we lay down our heads at night. Hopefully in the last 4 years, you've found your perfect match. If not, don't give up, and certainly don't ever settle for second best.

Hi thanks for sharing .
I am older person even thou I don't feel or act it.
I now in late life married with two children.
I feel there is always someone out
There for you.
When you do find them it's worth wait and searching
That's life
Good luck

Well GURLS! What about all of those JEALOUS Women, I have had the unfortunatel experience of having to deal with my entire life!

My wife and I have been married for 30 years, together for 35 years. We still hold hands even in bed at night going to sleep.

Oh my goodness, you just brought tears to my eyes its sad to say my husband and I don't even sleep close to each other, let alone hold hands in bed! It makes my heart happy to hear this! You have been truly blessed!

I sure envy your wife she is a very lucky lady!

You need to work on him Elena. My wife and I also work together. we have been partners in our own business for the past 12 years. We are together 24 hours a day. I wish you good luck. xx

Well, it is both of us that are luck I suppose.

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60th anniversary this month for my parents. 38yr. last month for my wife and I.

there are no formulas ,believe me. it is a gamble and i love it.

Married for 25 years. Forget money, looks. Same values and great sense of humour!

never had much money in my life, but feel really rich, because i married the woman i love.

My husband and I have been together for 22 yrs. We still hold hands, kiss in public, get mushy in front of our kids (2 of which are grown) and they say "Ewwww, lol" Our daughter said the other day she said " When I see other couples who have been together just as long as you two and they take seperate vacations, are cold, or are never effectionate, it doesnt make sense to me. I thought they way you two act was normal for couples" <br />
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That's a complement but hard part is getting her to realize it takes a conscious effort to have this kind of relationship. She just became engaged.

Hubby and I, married since '54, didn't get it right the first time, either. Or the second. But we kept hacking at the problems and now we have a wonderful marriage, plus the knowledge that we made it so.

I look at these couples with a great deal of wistfulness, but also joy and envy for themselves. One day that will be me???


thank you so very much Jules65 for sharing your experience.......

Hey, I got it wrong first time too. But one day I got it right, very right. <br />
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I had about 6 years on my own and I was determined to really understand who I was, what I stood for, what I had to give and what I would need in return. <br />
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If someone showed interest in me it was very easy to make a quick estimation. Most of the time it was safer just to let the interest pass by rather than risk becoming emotionally involved with someone that would not provide what I needed and vice versa. <br />
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Lonely hearts cling to anything if given a chance!! I guess I didn't give that too much of a chance. <br />
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But one day I met someone - One introduction, One conversation, One laugh together - led to more & so on. This had potential. This was one person I could hold hands with & that would hold mine. Perfect - No but super huge potential.<br />
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After 11years of a totally wonderful marriage. Lots of holding hands & Full of support, care, laughter, tears etc. I am totally greatful that I got to know me!!<br />
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The 6 years alone were the greatest years that I have ever invested in myself - Despite the yearning to have a hand to hold - It showed me all about me.<br />
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Things to work on, things to be proud of, things to learn. Things I had to give & would require in return.<br />
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Good luck. Use your time wisely. Never stop building the YOU who you are. Don't wait for someone magic to come along and do it for you. <br />
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You will find what you seek. Because you will know how to identify it - before your heart confuses things.<br />
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Good luck - let me know when you get to share your dream with a true friend that holds your hand through every day of your life.

That was really nice . And I kinda did the same as you but have to say I would love to have that special someone to come home to and to listen what her day was like and get those butterflies when I open the front door . My best friend soulmate and lover . Maybe someday I will find that .

It is very easily missed when you are far apart. I hope you two can get together and stay together very very soon!

Not being able to hold Sugar's hand when we are not together is one of the things I miss most.

We all do. It is a ray of hope in a world of hurt :-)

My parents used to do that, my Dad since passed away, he was a sweetheart, my mom too, we miss him all the time. ..and so when I see older people holding hands, I get the awwww factor inside my heart.

u kno...i totally agree w/u. i've seen that n i've also seen them (on accident) kiss. i luv it cuz it jus gives me the hope that i need in m relationship.

It is one of my oldies....but a goodie none the less :-)

Oooooooh... Thanks for keeping this story out in the open...It would be sad if it dropped out of circulation...


Aww so sweet! I want to be that too. Lovely story.

Agree agree. Sweetest sight :)

It certainly is a wonderful emotion and feeling that truly should be nurtured. Its awesome to see it flourish over many years.....

I've been married for 21 years. My dad told me that love is like a seed and you have to take care of it and nurture it and feed it so it grows. Guess he was right...

You know, Meg, I sometimes feel that it is the people between 20 and 50 who are the "old" people. They are totally involved in relationship, career, child-raising, family, etc., and work harder than at any other time in our lives. I am in my 60's, my husband in in his 70's, and we have been together for 36 years. I don't know what I did to get such a great guy, but we've been through it all and we're still together (mind you, we both kissed our share of frogs before finding each other). Throughout our lives, we continued to date each other. Drinks at the local, dinner out. When the kids were gone, we'd date once a week for dinner and drinks. Now we are "old" (still the same living-flame personalities) and we still date each other and we still hold hands. Maybe that's the secret, but through all the joys and **** that life hands out, he's still the handsomest man in the room to me, and I am still prettiest girl to him. Romance does not have to die.

Of course relationships will never EVER always be peaches and cream but it should always be what you strive for with no expectation but all the hope in the world:-)

Damn you kids! Keep it down.... :P*<br />
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Kidding of course. I am mushbucket, hear Hmm...That sounds odd. =/

Awwwww thank you so very much intreoidtraveler:-)<br />
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We will have lots of stories to share (g-rated.....tee hee) when we get home.....<br />
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Bassy I too owe a lot to this place....I found him here:-)<br />
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Mello I welcome growing old especially with the hopes of being with the one I love.....

It has changed my life dramatically for the better. I owe my future to this place :)

Seeing the way older adults in love with eachother touches my heart....and in the same way it warms my heart when I am here and feel the caring and kind words from others:-) <br />
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This is a pretty special place in my little opinion....

Me too :)

Well I have found some pretty great people here and I am very glad about that:-)

The mushbuckets are a rarity Meg. Truly. People that consider another person before themselves are few and far between.

Those exist? Like really really not just in stories?<br />
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Ha! Can't be true.....nope can't be!

Non mushbuckets?

LOL....who doesnt love the works:-)

The works? Like extra pickles and mayo? :P

Boat? I was thinking 1.75's...Maybe my priorities are skewed? :P

I wish you lots of luck! <br />
It truly is a testament in this day and age to see an older couple holding hands, if you look closely you can see the love and adoration held for one another over the years. How he looks at her and her at him, the body language, the trust and love that they have shared over the truly is wonderful :)

Either way Meg and Eric are going to have a grrrrrrreat weekend together boat or not:-)<br />
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Oh oh oh a boat!!! <br />
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Now that sounds fun!!!

I have seen a little basspla<x>yer mushiness myself.... Hides not he does...<br />
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***hmm.... rubs chin.... devising plan***

lol<br />
I have hope, faith, dreams, happiness. I have it all. Jackpot :)

Let us rent the boat HS...Stock it with 1.75's!<br />
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Bass is more than partially responsible for the EP mushbucketinessnessness... So, you better have hope!

yeah.....more mush :)<br />
My mom and dad still hold hands. I still have hope :)

Ooooops sowwy.....<br />
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Forgive us:-)

Don't you guys think you should pull the blinds before things get too steamy in here?<br />
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Or is that one of your kinks.....<br />
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(off to hell........

LOL <br />
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Surgical intervention could make it appear that way?

Well, I can't grow young with you, that's for sure. :P

Grow old with me......and we can make this happen:-)

I'll see what I can do?