Women Simply Rock!

I have been blessed to have known from my earliest recollections that I have ALWAYS been attracted to the male of my species.  I don't recall a time in my life when I was ever romantically attracted to females.  I didn't know when I was a kid about "gay" or "straight", I just knew I liked hanging around the boys.  I guess we're all like that in the beginning.  As children, when the mention of the opposite sex came up, we'd usually say "Ewwww...boys (or girls...depending, of course, on your point of view)!"  I guess about 90% of us grow out of that "phase" and go on to have a complete change of heart, but--for some of us--the "phase" to which I referred lasts a lifetime.  Case in point: me.

I know I am giving away my age & my "eclectic" taste in music & popular culture, but I was simply head-over-heels in lust with Donny Osmond, Andy Gibb, Leif Garrett, Vincent Van Patten (with whom I share a birthday...except he's 5 years older than I), Lance Kerwin (from the old TV series James At 15), and Michael Gray (who portrayed Billy Batson from the old Saturday morning live action TV show, Shazam!), among others.  I even thought Freddie from the Scooby Doo cartoons was an animated hottie!  ;-)

Yes, I have always enjoyed being gay.  That's not to say it hasn't been difficult to be gay in a mostly-hetero world; it has been one of the most daunting tasks I've had to undertake in my life to just be ME.  I tried hiding it, and denying it, but I can't.  As Popeye used to say (NO, I didn't think Popeye or Bluto were animated hotties...before you ask! ;-), "I am what I am and that's all that I am!", but I digress...

While my romantic proclivities have always been directed toward those of my own gender, I have always been a big fan of females.  This may come as a shock to some, but most of my friends for most of my life have been straight females.  I've blessed with wonderful lesbian friends, too, who've been so very dear & so important in my life, but most of my own personal experiences with females have been with those of the heterosexual persuasion.

Gay men & straight women, in my opinion, make the perfect pairing where friendships are concerned.  Straight women who have gay male friends usually know that we have no hidden sexual agenda (well, not a sexual agenda that includes them, anyway ;-), and that all we want from our hetero gal pals is their friendship & their companionship.  We really do love them for who they are, and we expect nothing in return but their undying adoration!!  ;-)  There's no unspoken competition for any available males we might see, because--if we do--he's either playing on our team or on her team!  :-)  Though most of us are NOT professional counselors, or course, the gay male friend can sometimes offer advice & insight to our female friends on the nature of men, knowing that we'll give them the "straight" dope (as we see it), as they say.  Some things about men are just universal...gay, straight, bi, whatever...so--on some things--we can speak from personal experience, and when we give the advice (especially where issues of her hetero heart are concerned), it's usually not just what the woman wants to hear, but what a friend believes another friend should hear based on that friend's point of view & experience.  It should go without saying (but I'll say it anyway ;-) that the same is true if the positions were reversed and we gay guys need advice in matters of the heart, or life in general.

I can only speak for me, of course, but I truly do love women of any & all kinds.  It's been my experience that women are fiercely faithful friends whose comparatively gentle exteriors belie the iron constitution built into their DNA.  Whoever said that females are "the weaker sex" truly had NO idea what they were talking about.  It HAD to be a man who thought up that stupid saying.

So, I genuinely believe that females rock!  They give us life & they help decorate that life so beautifully.  I love women in nearly every way (and I am sure that--if you think about it long enough--you'll understand why I say "in nearly every way ;-), and I can't imagine my life without them.

MisterC MisterC
46-50, M
5 Responses Feb 27, 2010

thank you for this!! Well, well you may need to talk to straight men about the beauty of a woman. All they see is a vagina , **** and anus that they can play with and stick their penis in /Uterus. You see the beauty of a woman that isnt physical which is amazing. I think some people forget the beauty of being born a woman and all the things we do to make this world go round. Maybe its the feminist in me but YOU ARE AWESOME!!!

Ladygodiva110, to be honest, because EP blocks some "adult language", I'm not really sure I know what you're trying to say in your response to my post.<br />
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It's funny how a couple of words can be so important when you're trying to communicate an idea or opinion to others!

I hate *******. Gay or straight. Male or female. if you are some crazed *****, I don't want to deal with you or your drama.

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I just have to say that I LOVE the way you wrote that particular sentence! It is undoubtedly true, but I just love the way you communicated that point. Obviously, you have a way with words! I truly, truly admire that! I try to write in the same sort of style, but I am still learning!! :-)<br />
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I hope you don't believe that I don't see the logic behind your assertion that (at least some) straight men hate women. It is an ugly fact of life, no doubt! Not that it's an excuse (IT MOST CERTAINLY IS NOT), but I think maybe part of it is that white, Christian males are just NOT the center of the universe anymore (as if they ever were!). Like most people who hate, it all stems from fear or ignorance, or--more likely--a combination of both. <br />
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Men like me LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the idea of strong, independent women: women who do know their own value & who understand that before you can love & respect anyone else, you have to love & respect YOURSELF! For me, there cannot be enough women (or people of any gender) like that in the world! Some men fear strong women & feel as if--in acknowledging & recognizing their strength--females are taking something away from them, as if it were a zero-sum situation. Straight, white men have been at the helm for centuries & I think they become irrationally fearful & childish when they think they're having something taken away from them. It doesn't make it right, it just makes it true, and it makes it THEIR problem, not someone else's.<br />
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One last thing, I promise, I was telling someone the other day that when President Obama does his 12 years in the White House, I hope MIchelle runs. She MOST CERTAINLY has my vote!! :-)

I hesitate to write these words I'm about to write because I really don't want to seem as if I am anti-(heterosexual) male, because I am not. One of the biggest surprises to me since I left my life-sucking closet is how many straight male friends I've met on this side of the closet. These guys know the truth about me, and my sexual orientation is a non-issue for them (and if it IS an issue, they've never made me feel like it is). To be honest, most of my friends (male and female) are younger than I, and I think sometimes that their ease around gay people probably has more to do with their being part of a younger, more open generation than anything else. Still--in the depths of my former closet "life"--I never imagined having such good relationships with straight men. Anyway, on to the potentially anti-hetero-sounding part.<br />
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Though I am NOT an expert, if I had to guess, I'd say that OVERALL, straight men are the most sexually-repressed of human beings. Of course, I have no facts or figures to back up this claim; I'm just speaking from my own experience & observations. My own personal straight male friends notwithstanding, I think that at least PART of the problem that some heterosexual men have with gay men is that they think we're out to "recruit" them or that we're always "checking them out". Now, I will be honest & say that I do enjoy seeing a beautiful man (gay, straight, bi or otherwise), but I also know that (as I noted in my original post) he is either on my team or some other team. As the old saying goes, you can't get blood from a turnip! Though some may not believe this, and though gay men are still men, we can usually control ourselves--especially around other men who don't share our "affliction"! ;-)<br />
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As for gay men not sleeping with women, alas, you are correct! in that one way, you wonderful females are not usually on our radars! :-) 'Tis the nature of the beast, I suppose, but sometimes I think that sex can also really ruin a great friendship, because things can't help but change once genitalia are added to the mix (sorry for the indelicate way I phrased that! :-).<br />
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I'd wager that you've probably had more experience with straight men than I have, so I am sure you know whereof you speak, but I truly, truly hope that straight men hold don't really hold any kind of hate at all for women. "Hate" is a very strong word for me (having been the ob<x>ject of that ugly 4-letter word for most of my life), and I don't get how you could be interested in another person & harbor a hatred for them. I'm not saying it doesn't happen--because undoubtedly it does--but it sounds like an awful, twisted way to lead your (love) life! And they call US "perverted"!<br />
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I don't mean to take one sentence out of your awesome response to my post & dwell on it, but I just feel the need to say that I have made it part of my life's philosophy to not hate ANYONE. That doesn't mean I like or can tolerate ANYONE; it just means that I don't want to expend any of my life's energy hating anymore. It's funny, but I recently joined an EP group called "I Hate George Bush", and then I proceeded to post a "little" diatribe of a couple of the MANY, MANY, MANY, MANY policies & practices that disgusted me as concerns the previous occupant of the White House. I titled the post, "I Don't Really Hate George Bush", because--truth is--I didn't/don't. I hated his politics and the hurt & damage he caused our country, and I hate the fact that he tried to use people like me as fodder for the political battles he thrilled in conducting, but I do not hate THE MAN...THE HUMAN BEING. I did not vote for him (either time) and I spoke out against him as often as I could, and I even bought a T-shirt showing Dubya with fangs biting into the neck of the Statue of Liberty (if you get a chance--and if you are of a like mind, politically-speaking--you should Google "George Bush", "Alex Ross"--the artist who created the painting--and "Statue of Liberty". I liked the shirt so much, I bought 2 of them!! :-).<br />
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Hate takes so much out of the person who is doing the hating, and does more harm (metaphysically-speaking) to the hater than the hate-ee (I don't think that is a real word, but I hope you catch my meaning! :-). To paraphrase the Carly Simon song, I haven't got time for the hate; it keeps me from all the other things in my life that need tending.<br />
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Anyway, all I can say is that if there are any straight men who DO hate straight women, then they are much more repressed than I ever knew...and they're missing out on so much of the real beauty of life.