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I Encourage Single Women In Their 30s And 40s To Date Younger Men!

There are so many very beautiful young women who are in their 30s and 40s who are single and cant seem to find quality men their own age to date. It is so upsetting to see men( in their 30s and 40s) dating far younger females when their are plenty of awesome chicks their own age whom I feel would be better matches for them. We can not control who men choose to date but we can choose whom gets to date us!
Our choices: far older men ( 10 years plus older) BOO! or Younger men ( 5 to 10 years younger) YAY!!!!
Ladies do not be afraid to date a younger guy, they are awesome!!! My own husband is 3 years younger than me, but when I was dating I frequently dated males up to 10 years younger than I. The oldest guy I have ever dated was 2 years older than me. I am simply not attracted to older men. I find them threatening, and boring, and set in their ways. Younger guys tend to be open minded, fun loving, and simply awesome in bed! If a women is say 35 years of age I see no reason why she wouldn't agree to date a beautiful younger male of say 25 to 30. This is the age of male that is into older females ( because they know we love sex, and also because they appreciate a mature women!) These young males are very handsome, tend to be established career wise, and love sex! A male this age is far more mature then popular society gives them credit for.
Getting stuck with an older male may be ok at first, but give that same guy 10 to 20 years and now you have frequently a hot anh horny 45 year old women with an often aged and unhealthy senior citizen who requires a daily nap and has lost all interest in going out or having sex!
Another consideration is when a 35 year old female would like to have kids. It is far easier for a young stud to get the job done, than an older male, and since this lady may also have fertility issues, a younger male is better able to get the job done.
Older men tend to be set in their ways...they often seem to be old fashioned believing that they have a right to control a female. Younger males are far more open minded and cool with girl empowerment.
I simply adore younger men!
gumshoejane2 gumshoejane2 36-40, F 55 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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great thoughts indeed :)

its a good idea....wishing you more fun in coming days....take care..

I like this! Of course, we can't always choose with whom we fall in love. But if you simply only date younger men, ...

Im 46 now and when I was younger I was all over mature women.. there's less mind games and they know their way around a bed... now I'm older as long as your older than 30 its fair game..don't want to teach someone how to *** or the art of a good *******... plus older women have less hangups

How are you? I like both older & younger women!! I love the Energy of a younger woman, I love the experience of older women.

so your saying its wrong for older guys to date younger women but its good for older women to date younger guys ,,, ok i get that and us older guys at 55 dont have stamina or like to go out dancing (every week ) ,, dont want to be argumentative but i think its just you like younger guys because its good for your ego that you can still get a young guy ,, same as some older guys like young women , good for there ego ,, i like older women , so much more depth , and fun ,,, guess we are all different ,, not to say i dont like looking at younger women ,, just wouldnt date one ,, :-)

where does leave us older good guys. last?

I dont feel sorry for myself.
good women my age are hard to find.

Thanks for sharing. You dont know me and I dont know you.Here is a little info. I was married for 25 years to an older woman until she passed away. So do know what a good woman is. I really dont think you know What Im talking about. Its pretty simple. ( self respect)

I am a 33 yo woman who has been contemplating a "FWB'' with a 23 yo man. I have never been involved with anyone younger than me and I guess my concern would be maturity level as far as him "talking' per say after the fact. Any thoughts?

I really think it depends on the guy and his maturity level.
You could try talking to him about your concerns and see what he says.
Fwb is so lonely, why not try a relationship?

Interesting, but as an older single man, I find that time is a significant issue. Since I have a weird schedlue, and women once they pass 30 also as you lable men, become set in their ways, often the only women I can find that are even open to talking are below 30. Not that I take them exceptionally serious, but it is better than talking to myself, (that get's old and weird quickly). So while you complain about older men, consider that women are also set in their ways and if you are sincere about looking for a relationship, it is a give and a take. And previous responsibilities and commitments often become blocks in creating meaningful relationships with older people in general. Because if we are to be truthful to our words, we must be "set" in our ways.
Sometimes, life is hard, and situations make it more difficult, so the individuals become harder to cope. Just something to consider.

Totally agree with you . I am also in a relationship with older women and that's what I always wanted . I respect my wife and always keep her happy .
I am not sure I am only one of few men who likes this concept or its among majority men however they end up in a marriage with much younger women going by the traditional society rules .
In any case I am happy to be in a relationship with a older women .

I do find myself more attracted to older women, but older women are far more intimidating. There's just something special to them.

Cougar! ;P

Hey there, don't generalize about older guys. I love the thrill of the chase and the joy of the catch and at 58, I am planning to sleep when I'm dead. No time to nap. Just don't force me to sit in front of a television and waste the night. DWTS can rapidly induce the need for a nap.

The great thing about getting older as a man is that all women look great. I try to understand the frustration a woman my age might have with my choices (me 48, wife 23) but try to understand me: when I was younger I dated plenty of older women and would have married and impregnated them given the chance. The best were feminine outside the bedroom and totally submissive to my overworked hormornal needs inside the bedroom. Unfortunately the relationships didnt stick and as I rounded 35 I made the choice to go opposite and get the youngest, freshest, prettiest women of legal age possible. It was a glorious decision that makes my life feel very fulfilled. I also dated women my own age but honestly they usually were into anyone other than me. So yes, cougar, set the mark and shoot ur arrow. I highly recommend the hunt. Just remember not to draw blood....the objective is love, not murder.

And younger men love older women. (;

I have a lot of older women in the past even though I never actively sought them out. I'm 28 and I look older and all the older women that I've dated thought I was older and were very surprised to find out how much younger I really was.

When I was 16 (grade 12) I was dating a 19-year-old girl who was in her second year of university and that relationship lasted about three years.

From there I dated a lot of girls who were more in my age bracket until I was 22 and I dated this gorgeous 32-year-old women from Ecuador (which is odd because most Latin women date men who are 10-20 years older than they are). She looked a hell of a lot better than most girls in their 20s! Like I said she was gorgeous, smart, well educated, fun, great cook and amazing in bed. She never turned me down when I wanted sex. Anyway that relationship came to an end because she wanted to get married and have kids within the next couple years and I was only 22 at the time.

The next older woman I dated was 34 and I was 26 - same deal as the Ecuadorian woman and she was always down for sex. She NEVER turned me down. It was the same deal with the 36-year-old woman I dated after her.

I must say that sex with women who are in their 30s is a lot different than sex with girls in their 20s. I'm the exact opposite physically and mentally than most dudes in their 20s when it comes to sex. It takes me a while to get warmed up and really INTO it so that I can c-u-m. All girls in their 20s who I've been with were spent before I was even 25% of the way there in terms of my headspace and physically. The women in their 30s who I've been with could basically take it all day.

So yeah, older women are hot!

Ah, this explains the paucity of females prepared to date an older guy.
Please desist.

Great advice! as a younger man i appreciate this greatly :)

I think you nailed it.

100 % agree

Love your story, I'm glad you have an open mind about younger guys.
Isuckbigtits represents young guys horribly. Please excuse him, he still has lots to learn.

only problem (that I just learned recently) is, if you marry a younger person, and your marriage lasted for 10 years or more, you are able to collect on your spouses social security (which ever is higher yours or theirs )

but !!!!! when you go to collect your social security you have to wait till that person is social security age to collect on their name.

you can collect your own s/s... but you have to wait till your spouse is of age (62)

so when I become 62 I can collect on my own S/S but, if I want to collect on my x spouses S/S I have to wait till my 67 birthday, at that time he will turn 62.

"Date whom you want, but as woman become more focused on post secondary education and career, they are less likely to be interested in settling down in their 20s.
The fact is most 35 year old woman are not even remotely interested in men more than 10 years older."

It bothers me that the writer of these posts often makes basic spelling mistakes, such as writing "woman" when he or she means "women" and vice versa. For a woman to do that makes me wonder if the person is in fact a woman.

But putting that aside, if a woman doesn't "settle down" in her 20s, when WILL she settle down? In her 30s and 40s...? I assume the writer is in favor of women in their 40s having children and raising them..? It takes a lot of effort, a lot of energy, and a lot of time, to raise children. It is hard enough for 20-somethings to do it, I can only imagine what it is like for women in their 40s to give birth to children and raise them.

Also, I think the author is only concentrating on a very narrow demographic group when he or she writes " woman become more focused on post secondary education and career, they are less likely to be interested in settling down in their 20s.."--- she probably means upper and upper middle class white women. Also, I think she only means women in a small number of countries-- perhaps USA, England, Australia?

As someone who has dealt with women of all races and demographic groups, both in the USA and abroad, I can tell you that that generality does not hold. As a police officer, I dealt with women of all demographic groups, including people who live in the "projects", and I can tell you I lost track of the number of children born to "women" in their teens, not to mention 20s, who have no "secondary education", and one WISHES they would "settle down" at age 25 or even 20 and raise their children, rather than abandon them to the streets.

Again, I'm puzzled as to when the author believes women SHOULD settle down and have children?

I'm now an older man, but I appreciate your point. When I was in my early 20 to mid 20s, I would have liked nothing better than to have a girlfriend ten years older who knew what she wanted. And I would have been happy to marry her if she had wanted.

My first live. In relationship was with a lady 14 years my senior. I.was about 26 when I moved in with her. She was starved for affection and I gave.

That's awesome the world needs more women like you, preferably single though :D

Awesome story. When I was 24 I started having sex with my boss, then 39. It was some of the most amazing times I've ever had. I was heart broken when it was over! She dropped hints over the years that her husband hardly paid attention to her. One night a bunch of us were out for drinks after work and it boiled down to just me and her.. We were both a little loose and she was pining about her marital relationship again. I told her I thought she was lovely. Next thing I knew we were making out in the car. After that we were back at the office in the dark, ******* on the conference room floor. She taught me that it's still possible to have hot passionate satisfying sex even as we get to our late 30s and beyond, and even after we have children.

:). We are pretty awesome; I will admit...

"...great minds think alike about women not just being '3 holes' - having said that, any chance of me ******* u up the ***...???"

Not a chance in hell.
Be a good little boy and screw off.

6'2" is not little, u need my **** up ur *** or mouth for swearing like that, u naughty girl

Your reading comprehension skills are sorely lacking son. Go back and read my original response.

Jane high FIVE! ^

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I've dated a ******** who is 10 years older than me. She's 32 years old and still really pretty but the best thing is that she knows how to please a man. She really has mother-like characteristics that I enjoy she kissed my neck and body and really pampers me most young woman don't do that.