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It's Funny How Someone Can Break Your Heart and You Still Love Them With All the Little Pieces!

It's funny how someone can break your heart and you still love them with all the little pieces. I still love that someone and I doubt that i will ever stop loving them. It kills me that I have to spend everyday with him and I know I can never be with him and he will never love me in the same way I love him.

Mine is truely a case of unrequited love. Not a moment goes by in which I don't think about him and dream about him. I get really defensive about him and it's making me go CRAZY! One minute I'm really high and excited because I'm with him and he's paying attention to me and then I'm back at rock bottom, crying and eating ice-cream! I never knew love could be this painful! I need to get over him but I can't and I'm afraid that I don't want to. What should I do?

The clear answer would be to just stay away from him because time heals but I physically can't! I spend everyday with him because I work/am at the same college as him. No matter what I do, I will always bump into him! And I always have a feeling like he needs me to do things for him because he is so disorganised and he likes it when I do them which makes me want to do things 100% right.

xXLSXx xXLSXx 16-18, F 37 Responses Dec 17, 2007

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I'm currently experiencing a case of unrequited love. Unlike your situation, I spent a brief but incredible (for me) three months with this woman and now I worry that I'll never see her again. She ended the relationship because she "wasn't ready" and didn't like how she was treating me. While I respect her wishes, I hate her decision.

This has led me on a path of self discovery. It's a hard path, and it's not something to be taken lightly, but I would recommend it. There is no reall need for a partner in order to make us feel complete. Love is something that should be shared gently, not desperately.

Try not to worry about what you think you're missing by not having this guy. Understand that you can never really have anybody. Work to become the highest ideal that you have about your self, then you won't need anybody to be fulfilled and love will seem like a much simpler and more enjoyable process.

As I said, it's a very difficult task, but the alternative is stagnation and heartbreak.

I hope we all figure this out sooner rather than later. I've spent months in pain over a girl that never really cared.

well , i'm very young . 15 years old to be exact. i met this boy in 2007 . i knew when i met him .. that we were meant to be together. we were just inseparable . my true love , my first love . i moved in 2009. they say if you love something you have to let it go .. but if it comes back then it was meant to be. that's how i felt .. that's what i live by. Guess what ? he came back. he always came back. i felt like since he came back , then he had to love me or at least care. BUT it was always something that broke my heart into millions of pieces. he got a girl pregnant and now she has a child by him. i looked past all of that and still accepted him for who he has always been . i blame myself for the heartbreaks because i knew how he was .. but still like a dummy .. i accepted him. i let him back into my life. then my mom decided to move back to our hometown .. when i was away from him .. i could control my feelings for him .. but , now that i'm around him i can't control the way i feel. i love him so much , but he hurts me so badly. i just wanna let go of all this pain and hurt and heartbreak.

Mam..i respect your feelings...i love a girl whu was wid me since past 4 n half years.. v had a long distance relationship...she was fr me n I was fr her....den yesterday she told me she is wid sm othr guy past 1 year n todqy she left me...i worshipped her fr her trust for me..bt sudenly dat guy came n she left me...i talked to dat guy n I knw he is nt right fr her...he just blackmails her emotionally dat if she leaves her he will die..i knw barking dogs seldom bites...today I decided to let go her... if my love was tru she ll cm back....i hardly knw u bt dis I knw dat I m sharing wid u my heart...

You are not in love with him at all. You are in love with a fantasy, with a romantic fiction. You are in love with the idea of being in love. This "doing things for him" indicates that it is a motherly, molly-coddling sort of infatuation. That is why you default to crying and ice-cream when you do not get your way. It is actually all about you and not about him at all. At 16, you still have a lot to learn about how to relate with people, and if his private world does not include you, you have to learn that you are not that important in someone's life just because you want to sink your claws into their life. Move on!

I'm inlove with a guy who tried to rape me but i got away fast enough anyway i still love him and i don't know what to do?

Wow that sounds exactly like my situation .... My ex and I were apart a few months and I was doing a really good job of not getting a hold of him ... I went over there once to return some of his things and now im caught right back up again ... He's off work n in the middle of a health scare and a custody battle n I feel like he needs me ... Plus he will be all cuddly with me and fool around with me knowing I'm still in love with him but then tell me it means nothing n that we will never get back together ... I know I should stay away but I can't ... I pretend he actually cares about me when we fool around n ignore his words ... its like an addiction he's the only thing that hurts me but also the only thing that stops me from hurting ... I've never felt this way about anyone before n it freaks me out ... if this is what love is really about then i hope I never fall in love again

same here i feel in love and we stayed together six months im only sixteen but i knew i loved him from the very beginning.l was so happy with him and then one day we started drifting apart.. i tried to hang on but in the end he broke up with me and my heart was crushed i still thought of him and missed him more than anything then i tried to be with someone else but it just wasnt the same and i still loved my ex but as i see it it can either go three ways: i can get over him, i can find someone else, or sometime maybe in the future we will be together again love is confusing and hard sometimes but we will get through it somehow

my boyfriend love mhe soe much and u can c it in his eyes! i love him but if he's not home the time he say he would b home and he's not what dose that mean is he with a another gurl or wat i dnt think soe but it feels like it can sum one tell mhe is that true or not i need 2 noe sumthin

I maybe young, but we do can find a guy to fall in love with. The guy I like is nice, funny, and smart, but he pushes me away and I really like him I don't know what to do and I know u guys say to just move on, but what if u can't find another person in your area that's like that I tried to move on, but I looked and looked and I can't find anyone like him.

I wish getting a guy would be easier than it seams

My mom is in the same position as u guys are, she says when u really love someone and they don't talk to u or text u and he's pushing u away sometimes u don't have to find a new guy u just tell him what your feeling and maybe he will understand

This is happning to me right now.. But my only problem is.. She is like 4-5 years older than me, and I dont know if he could love me. :(

My x broke my heart 14 years ago , he said that he was sorry but at the time I didnt want to here that we both had to move on , I meet some one eles and have been together for 10 years 3 kids, last summer my x found me and told me that he never stoped loving me and I always felt that way about him , as bad as we want to see each other we know that its not the rite thing to do, I want to forget about his man but I just cant do it .

My x broke my heart 14 years ago , he said that he was sorry but at the time I didnt want to here that we both had to move on , I meet some one eles and have been together for 10 years 3 kids, last summer my x found me and told me that he never stoped loving me and I always felt that way about him , as bad as we want to see each other we know that its not the rite thing to do, I want to forget about his man but I just cant do it .

i am going through the same thing it sucks and i cried for 2 days now who knows what tomorrow's going to be like

Sorry to say this :) but: I pity you! Cos reading what you wrote makes me feel you do not love yourself any at all! NOT ANY AT ALL :-).<br />
1) Well, if you love you more than him You never do things as right as possible for him! Are you his housemaid? I guess nope, cos a housemaid even gets her money after a hard-working day. Do you get some?!<br />
2) You do not love yourself as much as nor less than you love him. Otherwise, you would never say you doubt that you'd never stop loving him/can't get over him blah blah blah! Anyone who loves herself, even just a little bit, will finally realizes something: She's been used!!! And stop doing what you are doing at the moment! Pls get some self-respect in case you can not have some self-esteem. Don't give love a bad name, what you have is not, not even close.<br />
1) You don't love yourself more than himself.<br />
2) You do not love yourself as much as nor less than himself.<br />
There's only 1 answer: YOU DO NOT LOVE YOURSELF ANY AT ALL!!!<br />
Think about what I say, I wish I would be wrong but it sounds like: Your guy is a manipulator, he knows you are crazy about him and also knows how to use it cleverly to get some... little benefits. Attractive guy/playboy smell desperation quickly and there's no way such a guy will fall for you. Well! Laughing behind your back? AbsoFuckingLutely, silly girl!<br />
Wake up! Grab some self-respect and get a life! Live it to the fullest, make yourself busy not... silly!!!<br />
<br />
:-) I know I could not help you to get him! But at least, you wouldn't think of these days and feel so ashamed of yourself at the same time :-)!<br />
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Good luck,<br />
Anh10.

Sorry to say this :) but: I pity you! Cos reading what you wrote makes me feel you do not love yourself any at all! NOT ANY AT ALL :-).<br />
1) Well, if you love you more than him You never do things as right as possible for him! Are you his housemaid? I guess nope, cos a housemaid even gets her money after a hard-working day. Do you get some?!<br />
2) You do not love yourself as much as nor less than you love him. Otherwise, you would never say you doubt that you'd never stop loving him/can't get over him blah blah blah! Anyone who loves herself, even just a little bit, will finally realizes something: She's been used!!! And stop doing what you are doing at the moment! Pls get some self-respect in case you can not have some self-esteem. Don't give love a bad name, what you have is not, not even close.<br />
1) You don't love yourself more than himself.<br />
2) You do not love yourself as much as nor less than himself.<br />
There's only 1 answer: YOU DO NOT LOVE YOURSELF ANY AT ALL!!!<br />
Think about what I say, I wish I would be wrong but it sounds like: Your guy is a manipulator, he knows you are crazy about him and also knows how to use it cleverly to get some... little benefits. Attractive guy/playboy smell desperation quickly and there's no way such a guy will fall for you. Well! Laughing behind your back? AbsoFuckingLutely, silly girl!<br />
Wake up! Grab some self-respect and get a life! Live it to the fullest, make yourself busy not... silly!!!<br />
<br />
:-) I know I could not help you to get him! But at least, you wouldn't think of these days and feel so ashamed of yourself at the same time :-)!<br />
<br />
Good luck,<br />
Anh10.

Sorry to say this :) but: I pity you! Cos reading what you wrote makes me feel you do not love yourself any at all! NOT ANY AT ALL :-).<br />
1) Well, if you love you more than him You never do things as right as possible for him! Are you his housemaid? I guess nope, cos a housemaid even gets her money after a hard-working day. Do you get some?!<br />
2) You do not love yourself as much as nor less than you love him. Otherwise, you would never say you doubt that you'd never stop loving him/can't get over him blah blah blah! Anyone who loves herself, even just a little bit, will finally realizes something: She's been used!!! And stop doing what you are doing at the moment! Pls get some self-respect in case you can not have some self-esteem. Don't give love a bad name, what you have is not, not even close.<br />
1) You don't love yourself more than himself.<br />
2) You do not love yourself as much as nor less than himself.<br />
There's only 1 answer: YOU DO NOT LOVE YOURSELF ANY AT ALL!!!<br />
Think about what I say, I wish I would be wrong but it sounds like: Your guy is a manipulator, he knows you are crazy about him and also knows how to use it cleverly to get some... little benefits. Attractive guy/playboy smell desperation quickly and there's no way such a guy will fall for you. Well! Laughing behind your back? AbsoFuckingLutely, silly girl!<br />
Wake up! Grab some self-respect and get a life! Live it to the fullest, make yourself busy not... silly!!!<br />
<br />
:-) I know I could not help you to get him! But at least, you wouldn't think of these days and feel so ashamed of yourself at the same time :-)!<br />
<br />
Good luck,<br />
Anh10.

SAME HERE I STILL LOVED MY EX HUSBAND AND WANTED TO MAKE OUR MARRIAGE WORK AGAIN, BUT HE DIDN'T AND I HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT EVERYDAY OF MY LIFE..IT WAS HARD FOR A WHILE...IT GETS BETTER THOUGH...ONE DAY YOU WILL WAKE UP AND WISH YOU WOULDN'T HAVE WASTED SO MUCH TIME IN SORROW OVER HIM..BEST WISHES DARLIN'

I know your pain. I was with someone for almost nine years and was married to her for almost five of those years. only to find out she was cheating on me for 4 1/2 of the five. It hurts, I know. At least you are able to move on and forget about him, i have a child with mine and unfortunately i am stuck dealing with her.<br />
She was trying to tell me that she wasnt cheating and that all of her friends were just making up rumors about her, yet she had another man living with her before she even filed for divorce.<br />
You sound like a very loving and caring person and you should give that love to someone that actually wants it. you would feel much better when the love that you have is returned.

Ok, i don't know if this has happened cause you didn't mention it on your story, but have you mentioned anything to this person about how you feel? If you have and he still wants to use you to help him, then stay away from him, if you haven't told him anything, hint him, or be straight up with him depending on how you are.......and please keep us posted, thank you for sharing!

I feel deeply in love with a guy when we were in High school, we were together, then he brok up with me and i couldnt let go. I loved him still with all the little pieces of my broken heart. But I did realize that hte pain of seeing him not return my love but give me feelings of irritation, was not worth it. I did move on, I left him alone. For 15 years, after two failed relationship of my own I returned home and called him. Now we are together and in love.

I think you would be amazed how many people feel this! After all, most relationship break-ups have a person who wants to end it and one who doesn't. I have ben on both sides and I have say I don't like either of them at all. Why is it so flipping hard to find someone, fall in love and stay together? Somtimes I think love sucks - surely it was never meant to be this painful or difficult...

wow and i thought i was the only one who felt this....

The easiest way to get over someone:<br />
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1) Get on top of (or under) someone else.

Yes! you are smitten my girl (very much) but its all one-sided on your part. Have you ever told him how you feel? Have you tried something different like not being there, and let him look for you? Does he confide in you about his secrets? has he been hurt badly before? All these things have to be considered. You sound like a wonderful girl wasting your life on things that might not happen. If you love someone, then set him free, if he comes back, it was meant to be. Be brave and good luck.

I was told the same bout meeting others to get over the pain and present guy.. Sometimes it works for certain people..Sometimes no.<br />
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LOVE CAN BE PAINFUL my dear. Some say keep loving ..and even love knowing there is no return has its rainbow.. It all depends on how you want to see it.. If he treats you like **** then u know its time to put ur love elsewhere.. No point wasting time on someone who treats you like ****. You might be blinded by your love for him now...but later when you wake up.. You might even ask yourself 'Why in the world did I stayed so long???'.. =)) <br />
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So chin up my dear... take one day at a time...learn to remind yourself..You are loving someone who can't or may never love you.. Walk on..as there is definitely someone out there who is meant for you...who will love you the way you hope for now.. <br />
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Take care !

I too have loved a guy for many years and he has moved on. He once told me that if we were soul mates and meant to be together it would happen when I least expect it. We were together right after high school and he left for the marines. After a few years things happened and he thought I did not want to wait for him since he had lost contact with me. <br />
After 20 years we both found each other at the very same time. It felt as if we were never apart and for several months we had a lng distance relationship. I was the happiest I had ever been for a long, long time. I decided to ask my husband for a divorce and move on with this person, bu my husband made it so difficult fr the both of us that the guy decided to move away. He said he felt for me and how my to be ex-husband was treating me. He moved to India and I have not heard from him for 9 years. I think of him every day and know we will be together sometime in our lifetime. Just be patient and don't stalk him. Just be yourself.

Time does heal all wounds but its better to start thinking that u r over him and only then can u take steps to forget the past. The ideal way would be to take up some class or a hobby where u meet different people or take up some social cause so that ur mind is diverted away from ur own pain and contribute to do something good. Sometimes going out and meeting people and engrossing in lots of work helps to forget and slowly u will notice that the pain gets lesser and soon u'll wonder why u spent so much of ur energy on a person like him. Try to take life one day at a time. U r far more valuable to a greater cause so difficult though it may seem get a grip and BECOME BUSY with more important things in life.

dont waste your time. I was married 12 years to find that he learned to love me and that he cheated on me. Life is too short to waste your life on a man.

i so feel you on this! i've been with my guy for 7 yrs this month but he treats me like **** coz he noz il alwys be there! i made the mistak ov leting him no how important he is to me that now he feels he can walk over me and we stil b fine!! dnt let a guy waste u,1 day sum1 wil luv u the way u luv him...jst look for it b free...the world is a huge place,dnt cry over sumink u cnt hav, b hapy that thers million mor things left in the wold for u to experinc.<br />
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be tru urself, ur betr then the tears and the hurt....it aint worth it...trust me!